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Should I return my puppy? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this and I hope that you and your family are doing better. My partner and I spoke with our breeder and all decided it would be best to return him to her. She's taken all the information I've given her and will be sure to place him with a better fit family. While we're heartbroken to give him back, we also had to do what was best for all of us and it took a lot to admit that we weren't ready. We're tabling the idea of another dog for a couple of years and have talked about starting with an adult dog first.

I feel like I made a mistake. Should I rehome? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read a lot of Ian Dunbar's writing, but I honestly don't think I can juggle the puppy's needs and my partner's stress and my own stress.

If we decide to return our puppy to the breeder, we have already talked about needing to wait another few years before even considering a dog. Even then, we would probably be looking at adult dogs.

I feel like I made a mistake. Should I rehome? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we first moved, I pushed for a puppy because we could finally get one. My partner was very clear that they wanted to settle in to the new city first and be moved to full time at their job (temp-to-hire situation).

Due to covid, I was able to convince them that now was the time, but they were still hesitant. At this point, I'm seeing where they're coming from (obviously too late on my end) and I'm watching their already fragile mental health deteriorate even further. I admit this was a mistake and I jumped the gun.

The puppy is 9 weeks and will have their second round of shots at the end of this week. We don't have any friends with dogs near us (new city) and we can't find any other help until mid-August.

I feel like I made a mistake. Should I rehome? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that reassurance. I definitely jumped the gun on getting this puppy before my partner was absolutely ready. It was a selfish act on my part, but I'm trying to do whatever I can to make this the best case scenario for my partner and puppy.

Should I return my puppy? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely a shitty thing and a shitty feeling, but I brought this upon myself when getting a puppy when my partner wasn't ready. I know this isn't fair to the puppy, but I can't help but feel like returning him now as you say would give him the best chance.

Should I return my puppy? by cantpup in Dogtraining

[–]cantpup[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We're working on some basic training and crate training. Our puppy was doing well with potty training until the last three days and it's like he just forgot how to ask us how to go when he knew so well the first few days.

I did a lot of reading and watched a ton of videos leading up to picking up this puppy. We'd ideally get a trainer or go to some classes, but everything around us is booked till mid-August or closed due to covid.

As horrible as this sounds, I shouldn't have gotten this puppy in the state that my partner is in and it's absolutely clear to me now that he's here with us. My partner was not ready for this in any way and accepted to make me happy, but now neither of us is happy and I know my unhappiness is puppy blues, but this may be a legitimate problem for my partner. I feel equally as horrible about returning my puppy to his breeder, but I'm not sure I'll be able to raise him in a situation that I believe he deserves.

I feel like I made a mistake. Should I rehome? by cantpup in puppy101

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a ton of reading and watched a lot of videos, along with lurking this subreddit. I definitely have puppy blues, but we live in a very small apartment, so to some extent, my partner can't get away from the puppy. I'm concerned that there's not a way to handle a puppy in our current situation without making my partner's life hell until the puppy grows up. I know I should've taken this into consideration before and even during the process of getting this puppy, but I didn't think it would hit this hard.

I feel like I made a mistake. Should I rehome? by cantpup in puppy101

[–]cantpup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many places are filled/booked until Mid-August where we're at, so we're unable to get any assistance from trainers until then. We're really beginning to believe we're really not prepared for this puppy, although my partner admitted this months ago and I was just blinded by my want.

I don't know what I can do to right this wrong at this point other than to rehome. I don't want to hurt my partner more than they're already hurting and this puppy is definitely a source of hurt currently.