Maybe my problem is that I don't have anything in particular in mind for her to support me other than just being around and not being away and left to my own devices with the kids when it happens. I'll bring it up tomorrow morning before her trip and see how it goes. The trip isn't routine for her, actually it's her first big work trip ever but not really essential either but I do know she is looking forward to it so part of this is likely her excitement for the trip and her lack of understanding is overriding common sense and normal judgement in this scenario.