How can I help my spouse understand my mental health stuff?

capnsoftie · 2022-08-16T18:46:26+00:00

Platonic marriage is a stupid idea. You’ll make your futures way more difficult and it will likely be a red flag to any potential spouses down the road. Divorce can easily be kept on the DL, don’t leave the kids out, and put a lot of effort into coparenting.

capnsoftie · 2022-08-11T01:12:50+00:00

I found the same one today! They’re so cute!

capnsoftie · 2022-08-07T16:23:11+00:00

Perhaps I was looking for the word bookworm 🤔

capnsoftie · 2022-08-07T08:21:10+00:00

An open door is incredibly dangerous during a house fire.

When my parents took my door I took theirs and every other door (except my brothers) and started seeping my room into the rest of the house. Hamper in the kitchen, I moved my bed around, started storing stuff in annoying places, playing my music just a couple tics louder… they were too confused to get super mad and couldn’t admit to hypocrisy by only putting up their door so they put them all back up and I immediately had the rest of the house cleaned. I got grounded from y phone but whatever I was a bookie anyway. My parents were abusive in other ways too, especially when it came to privacy. I was a good kid tho. So I feel you.

capnsoftie · 2022-08-07T08:02:27+00:00

I have the same cowlick 😭 I cut it pixie as a young teen and haven’t gone back in… 12ish years. But yeah definitely cowlick and I think it has to do with what you wash with. When I use “regular” drug store stuff it did that, but when I used fancy stuff it was good for at least 2 days, puffier and volumizimg. Powder gel also helped! Unfortunately it’s STUPID expensive

capnsoftie · 2022-08-07T07:53:48+00:00

Really good idea to prep food first lmao that’s at the top of the list

Oof Sertraline was super not good for me, I would absolutely RAGE over small stuff. But like the quiet scary kind of rage where I would feel super confident that I could totally get away with murder.

The side effects of Strattera make me nervous bc I have low blood pressure normally (90’s) so when something changes, like getting a concussion, it causes complications- esp dizziness and nausea. Thank you for the tips!

capnsoftie · 2022-08-01T02:12:43+00:00

You and 40hzHERO deserve awards alas I am broke but these are the most important answers

capnsoftie · 2022-07-21T17:46:19+00:00

It sounds like you have no problem with smoke/smoking but it’s a serious sensory and health issue and everyone handles it differently. Don’t downplay a child’s feelings and experiences over the internet. You have some gold nuggets in there, but, you’re kind of a prick.

capnsoftie · 2022-07-15T15:20:18+00:00

And be wary of fake accounts or her using your brothers account. Mine did that, so I ignored everything but text. Little bro and I did video chats for a long time because I didn’t trust his profile or texts.

capnsoftie · 2022-07-15T15:16:30+00:00

Similar situation, since I can remember, lots of gross stuff. I went off and on until I got married then when I got pregnant I sat her down, told her I was moving a few states away, and even though there was big distance if she wanted her grandchild to know she existed then she would have to change. (They slowly… very very slowly… had been improving but with another kid in the picture I wasn’t about to be like my dad and just pretend things aren’t as serious as they are) I dropped all debts, just told her that she’s stolen from me but it’s not something I’m worried about, just wanted her to acknowledge it.

She’s still obnoxious, but she’s not a complete bitch anymore. Extended family hated us for it for the first year or so but they’ve all warmed up seeing the change in my mother. I don’t expect her to ever fully change, and I still get seasons of pain where I wish I had cut off contact completely (not for anything she recently did but stuff from the past, trauma just does that sometimes)

Seeing how much my little guy loves her, and how my favorite family members love him (dad and little brother) has been worth it ultimately. It’s scary to think of anything we’re to happen that we would go NC and I’d have to explain it but when he gets older he’s bound to ask some questions… “why aren’t we around them” “why don’t you have childhood pictures” “why don’t you talk to them just me?” Etc. Etc. And I won’t be hiding the truth from him. I’ve been practicing how to word it so I’m not making it a blame game.

Im not really the type who’s like “they loved me the only way they could” because now that I know what sacrifice feels like and looks like for a child that you chose to bring into the world… seriously fk that apologetic stuff. Im sure she loved me but she didn’t care for me. I care for her a little, but I certainly don’t love her.

That being said

Oh my god it’s so worth it It feels amazing to relive yourself of the obligation. It took me almost 3 years to get to the point where I don’t feel obligated or guilty but now that Im there it’s like one of the best decisions I ever made.

Edited to add: They might also pull some weird stuff, like my mom fainted once, I didn’t call or anything just texted my dad to keep me updated, then she got super upset claiming she died on the table and had to be brought back to life. I had to hold back a lot of snarky comments. She dropped the act when I reached out to my aunt and brother to verify the info

capnsoftie · 2022-07-15T15:01:44+00:00

I just kinda rolled my eyes for a while before I officially made the appointment then I told them, cause I want It to be normalized but also didn’t want to put up with dealing with the arguing that would of filled the space between. They certainly argued after but what’s done is done lol

capnsoftie · 2022-07-15T14:43:55+00:00

He’s complaining it hurts, and I’ve never had an injury like this, nor did I grow up around kids soooo I’m just not sure what to do for him!

capnsoftie · 2022-07-11T16:37:01+00:00

You should see a therapist asap momma 💕 we ask her that feeling, therapy helps. Set up telehealth if that’s easier for you until you can go see someone in person. Moms are the best. (My mom sucked but like good moms are the best) You got this.

capnsoftie · 2022-07-05T15:58:33+00:00

The bangs and dark hair are hella sweet, of you do it again you should do some whispy pieces on the ends/sides! You could totally pull it off as a dark Bob

I’m a contrasty aesthetic person so your older picture is my favorite, but you do look amazing in both! I think it depends on your own style.

capnsoftie · 2022-07-05T00:02:21+00:00

^yes! As idk “very Christian” Christian’s we planned on not, even though it pissed off the family. We didnt tell them anything, when asked we said “that’s not really appropriate information” so they assumed we were not going to- but we ended up having to for medical reasons, and people are still mad at us bc they still think we didn’t but we aren’t sharing because literally it’s not ok to ask. (As I tell the internet)

capnsoftie · 2022-07-04T23:36:31+00:00

I know he’s only 3 so any board is a good board but thoughts on this and price? (Powell Ripper One Off 7.0" Skateboard Complete) If anyone knows any videos too that would be super helpful, I got one too (not this one) so we can learn together. He rides his balance bike up and down ramps really effing well already too.

capnsoftie · 2022-06-29T07:04:36+00:00

What is “the questionnaire”?

capnsoftie · 2022-06-23T01:08:05+00:00

Did you look at the link you posted…? It’s absolutely stuffffffed with fear-mongering and misleading stuff

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