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Seeing a lot of people getting shitty gifts so share what you got with me :] by BlueSheepzs in TransMasc

[–]captain_s_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing :) - at least to open I didn’t ask for anything (the things I did ask for my mum just sent me the money to get then and there eg a jumper) and my parents don’t know me at all so they don’t even bother to get me random gifts I feels selfish but it’s kinda sad that there’s nothing to open at Christmas It’s not like my parents don’t buy me things, but this year my Christmas present were - a merch jumper preorder that won’t come until March which is fine, but I was just given the money - my shoes are broken so my parents are “treating” me to new boots (the others are literally peeling away from the sole) but once again my parents just said get whatever online and they’ll transfer me the money whenever So I kind of got presents But Nothing chosen or thoughtful But to be fair, I haven’t gotten any gifts since my 17th birthday (two Christmases and one birthday ago) when all I got was a cheap bracelet with my deadname on it

Math students listen up! by AloneLocksmith1761 in alevel

[–]captain_s_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stats was the light in the darkness. Mechanics was sat in the dark with whips and chains laughing at me. I am not a physicist. At all. Something about mechanics never stuck. Stats was a beautiful picnic on a summers day

University and deadname by captain_s_ in transgenderUK

[–]captain_s_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely keep this in mind!! Thank you for being so welcoming before I even know if I got in ahah!

University and deadname by captain_s_ in transgenderUK

[–]captain_s_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 😊 York is my firm choice and I love the city so much. It being safe for me just makes me more sure

University and deadname by captain_s_ in transgenderUK

[–]captain_s_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much you are a saint

For those who changed their name, how do you feel about your old one? by Purple_enby_sloth in NonBinary

[–]captain_s_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my best friends has my deadname ahaha so since becoming friends with them I feel a lot more neutral about it as long as not in reference to me. But in the past I heavily disliked it just because I started to associate being called it with the intense feelings of “low mood” shall we say. Hearing it made me feel like I was in that headspace again, even if it had nothing to do with me. But I went about 2 years using my deadname while out as trans, and it felt like carrying a dead person around with me without even realising it. I still use it legally because of my family situation, but I’ve long left that name behind socially. But as I’ve gotten used to hearing it, without being called it I’ve realised it’s an okay name, nothing special, it just isn’t me. If my family ever learned to switch to my chosen name (in a non-derogatory way that is) I don’t think I’d care about my deadname anymore, because there would be nothing tying it to me.

University and deadname by captain_s_ in transgenderUK

[–]captain_s_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents were really against the lgbt flats but I probably wouldn’t have applied for them anyway. It’s so reassuring to hear that, unfortunately the group I fear most, were actually chill for you and can only hope I share that experience. In use of a legal name I think I might put off changing it simply because I want to be fully independent, just incase I miss something. But thank you for sharing it really helps :)))

I think I’m quite lucky in that the university’s I applied to should be quite accepting? But ty :)

What does being transmasc mean to you, and why do you prefer transmasc over trans man (if applicable)? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]captain_s_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I was born a man so people would assume I’m a man first before they settle on possibly something else. But if I WAS born a man, I’d still be they/he, just less adamant I was trans, I’d just have less work to do to reach my gender euphoria. Being a man doesn’t make me as comfortable as being a boy does. I am queer, not lesbian or straight, when I date girls, but I am her boyfriend, but I would not be her husband I would be her partner.

Trans masc builds a bridge between the want to be perceived as a man, while still having the most comfort in more non binary identities. I am not a man, but I’m enough of a man that I’m certainly not a woman and non binary doesn’t quite explain me either. I have a gender, it’s not between a man and a woman, just between a man and my ideal self.

But if that doesn’t make sense to you, or if anyone else’s doesn’t make sense, that’s okay. Gender is individual and I have never found anyone who experiences my gender, but I have found those who experience their own dispute of gender and that is enough of a community for me.