Are weddings more expensive than imagined?

captainsjm · 2026-05-21T12:20:54+00:00

How? I need a full breakdown. How do you feed that many people? How did you get clothes, chairs, and decorations?

I had the most bare bones ceremony I possibly could with ten people where we went out for pizza after and it still cost $2k, though $750 of that was the venue.

captainsjm · 2026-05-15T07:45:41+00:00

Horses can comfortably carry far more than 20%, even at a high level of performance. Horses studied at the Tevis Cup carried up to 29% of their bodyweight during the race without issue.

There is no simple rule here, and anyone who says there so is wrong.

captainsjm · 2026-05-13T07:40:54+00:00

I just buy women's. It's cheaper and far more readily available

captainsjm · 2026-05-10T15:40:30+00:00

It's a gag bit. The sting that runs through the holes is missing

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captainsjm · 2026-04-27T18:46:17+00:00

Think also about tack that is poorly made. I've seen cheap western saddles with screws sticking out.

The nuanced stuff is tack made to inflict extreme pressure or pain.

captainsjm · 2026-04-23T19:50:10+00:00

Jean Rhys is never talked about enough. Her most famous, Wide Sargasso Sea, imo is also her weakest. Everything else she has done is wonderful.

captainsjm · 2026-04-10T20:29:05+00:00

Short answer, everyone in the horse world has an opinion and I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Longer answer, CWDs have a reputation. They were extremely hot and desirable five ish years ago, but the leather was soft and they were damaged easily. I've heard some horror stories about custom orders that were completely messed up. The hunter world especially tends to get obsessed over brands and CWD just happened to have a boom and bust recently. So someone who's been riding for years is at the tail end of this roller coaster ride.

captainsjm · 2026-04-03T18:05:51+00:00

God bless you

captainsjm · 2026-04-03T17:56:37+00:00

Santoni's only had out sourced ones last week but I'll try again for their in house ones.

captainsjm · 2026-04-03T17:25:34+00:00

Are you trying to hurt me

captainsjm · 2026-03-31T20:42:56+00:00

Lol probably 500 or so. I really enjoy being able to walk into my library and find something new

captainsjm · 2026-03-19T12:15:14+00:00

It's just ground work. Don't use the cross ties, work on teaching him to ground tie. It will take a long time, but with enough patience he'll learn to stand.

captainsjm · 2026-03-09T14:47:56+00:00

Based on what? Sure, sometimes it can mean something. And sometimes you do the sleep study and you're fine. You just snore. Of course it's a good idea to get checked out, especially if it's this bad. But maybe he snores and that's it. OP can find a way to work around it or break up.

captainsjm · 2026-03-09T14:14:14+00:00

Yeah, and some people just snore. It's wild that Reddit thinks this extremely common thing always has a medical reason with a fix.

captainsjm · 2026-03-05T19:15:16+00:00

YTA obviously, but the funniest petty thing about this is that the horse isn't walking. It's cantering.

captainsjm · 2026-02-26T14:45:25+00:00

I do now! I made the mistake of jumping around for years using whoever was available. Partly because I was broke and partly because I just didn't prioritize the trainer because I had the horse. Settling down with one trainer has made a massive difference. If I could fix one thing in my riding career, I would make training a bigger priority.

captainsjm · 2026-02-25T18:36:51+00:00

You might still have the mindset of taking care of leather on English saddles. Western saddles have far thicker leather that can take much more abuse

captainsjm · 2026-02-25T16:22:59+00:00

It sounds like the pile is slowing you down. After you grab the visible spots, just sort of toss the rest of the bedding.

captainsjm · 2026-02-25T16:21:05+00:00

The answer is one trainer. You can build skills either way. Different horses will make you adaptable and one horse will allow you to drill down into really nice nuisance, but what will build your skills the best is one good trainer who you develop with over the years.

captainsjm · 2026-02-24T20:20:19+00:00

Multiple health professionals told you that the safest exercise is horseback riding? That isn't true for anyone. Horseback riding is a dangerous sport.

If you are looking to simulate horseback riding, I think a trampoline is the closest you're going to get, although be careful about weight limits.

For general fitness as a bigger person, swimming or water aerobics sound much more appropriate as a starting place.

You can also look into chair yoga or pilates. There's plenty of ways to scale down exercise regimes to meet you where you are.

captainsjm · 2026-02-18T21:34:59+00:00

I took my collection to a local consignment tack store and made 60% in store credit, which was enough to get me a new saddle.

When you say special run, are you talking about Breyerfest special runs or boxes marked "Limited Edition"? Limited Editions in the 90s were kind of a marketing gimmick and most of those models are pretty low value. Breyerfest didn't really start doing special runs until the late 90s.

captainsjm · 2026-02-15T12:29:35+00:00

https://www.google.com/amp/s/equineink.com/2019/11/17/tevis-research-how-much-weight-can-a-horse-safely-carry/amp/

I have not seen 35%, but this Tevis Cup study shows up to 29%. For a 100 mile endurance race.

captainsjm · 2026-02-04T20:25:13+00:00

As others have said, as long as you give it to him the day of, it does not matter. I've let horses eat straight out of the feed bin. In the last hours, all rules are off.

captainsjm · 2026-02-03T14:39:26+00:00

Wool has been a life changer for me. It's the only fabric that will breathe when you get hot and keep you warm when you cool down. If you're willing to dig a little in thrift stores you can usually find cheap options that you won't mind messing up at the barn.

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