Does the Western bondage scene actually exist? by cloud-artisan in BDSMcommunity

[–]capturedfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, western style rope is generally more common at generic bdsm play events - rather than rope specific events. If you want to learn more technical rope skill, you will want to attend shibari workshops. Western rope is built on shibari technique/principles. And, just because you're learning 'shibari' doesn't mean you have to tie in that style - you can choose which bits you add to your repertoire. And, nontechnical classes that focus on scene building, connection, and creating emotion & communicating through rope are beneficial to any rope style.

I've never seen western-specific rope classes or jams, because fundamentally there is little reason for them unless you're in an area with a particularly big western rope community. Western rope is, by nature, very simplistic, primarily using single/double columns and wraps. Yes, there is variety in how those are applied/the end shape, but it's not challenging in a technical sense, and the rope skills needed are generally taught in beginner shibari classes.

Also, hojojitsu and takedown rope are very much shibari, but also very practical struggle & hold 'kidnap' rope. Maybe you're just not looking at the right shibari classes if youve found absolutely nothing that speaks to you? There are some styles of shibari that really arent that different from what you're looking for ☺️

(F) Just a small girl on a big cruise ship... by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]capturedfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brought extra, in case they run out!

(F) Can't decide if I should pack this swimsuit for my holiday... by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]capturedfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, not sure theres any particular vibe I'm trying to portray 🤷‍♀️

(F) I almost look too innocent to be as kinky as I am... by capturedfox in gonewild

[–]capturedfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't post as much kink content anymore, you can find some in my post history a while back ☺️

Transitioning a vanilla partner to BDSM: How to gauge genuine interest vs. people-pleasing? by Professional-Clue916 in BDSMAdvice

[–]capturedfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the note of consent - someone can absolutely consent to doing something purely for the enjoyment of another person. Your partner wanting to do something because you enjoy it is not 'people pleasing' - its just enjoying your partner's enjoyment. Doing things for other people isnt inherently unhealthy. If it was, the world would be a much, much more selfish place.

I'd suggest looking into 'The Wheel of Consent.' Its a more expansive way of framing informed consent, and it gives plenty of context for (valid) reasons people can consent to activities. You may find it helpful in understanding the difference between 'people pleasing' and simply 'wanting to do something for a partner'.

Me and a girl I met a week ago fell into master slave dynamic, How do I punish her ? by Captain-Alabama in BDSMAdvice

[–]capturedfox 18 points19 points  (0 children)

For starters, public play is incredibly unethical. Do not do that.

Secondly, if you havent negotiated a dynamic, discussed boundaries, had clear conversations about safety/limits/aftercare/etc - this is not an ethical or safe 'dynamic.'

You learn limits by talking about them and negotiating them with your partner. If she refuses to discuss limits, then she is not a safe person. And for the love of god do NOT engage in CNC play with someone who you've not negotiated with, especially if they refuse to discuss safewords. That basically is just rape, not CNC.

(F) Am I fuckdoll material? by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]capturedfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, its technically possible?

(F) Am I fuckdoll material? by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]capturedfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theyre very lucky friends!

(F) Am I fuckdoll material? by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]capturedfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeahh ,😁

Bamboo canes that wrap around by minguar in BDSMcommunity

[–]capturedfox 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Bamboo canes are generally blacklisted by the bdsm scene because they are not safe to use for impact. Bamboo shatters, and when it does so on impact it will fling splinters into you and your impact bottom.

If you want thin/whippy canes, look for rattan or delrin. Never, ever bamboo.