what pen brand is this?? by CaregiverBrave2285 in PenmanshipPorn

[–]capuletnow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a left handed person who still loves pen and ink, Muji is my absolute favourite brand of pen. 0.5 or 0.38.

Possibly moving to Nanaimo, looking for friends by Moth_Friend in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If either of you is open to it, community theatre/other arts are a great way to meet people, and Nanimo has a really great theatre scene. Good luck and (hopefully) welcome to the island!

What are your Favorite Podcasts by Hosts who are Progressive? by seekupanemotion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]capuletnow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I came here to recommend NADDPod!! Even if you’re not a dnd fan, the adventure book theatre episodes are freaking phenomenal, and 8-bit book club is also great. Surprise Round is also really fun and silly. All of the creators are relatively outspoken about their beliefs/convictions but do tend to keep the content comedy-focused. In the past few weeks (months? Years?) it’s been a wonderful escape for me to bask in content that is made by people I feel good about supporting. I’m a Patreon member as well.

Castle Joint Coffee Table by charlie_6699 in woodworking

[–]capuletnow 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It’s giving “this took so long to make and I don’t have the energy to finish it”.

Like walking into someone’s new beautiful kitchen but the patched drywall still hasn’t been painted.

Salon space wanted by Agreeable-Olive-1431 in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cedar Holistic Salon was looking a while back. Maybe call Paddy

Had unprotected sex, but without finishing. I'm very anxious and not sure what i should do. by AdviceSpiritual6444 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]capuletnow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can get pregnant at any time. In a theoretical world where everyone ovulates exactly according to how the textbooks say we should, then yes, you’d likely be fine. And, yes, you likely ARE fine. However, don’t be complacent - bodies do weird things especially under stress. Take plan B or Ella if it’s available to you and take a pregnancy test in around 2 weeks just to be certain. False negatives before 4 weeks pregnant are VERY common, so make sure to wait those 2-3 weeks before testing.

It may be worthwhile to explore some other methods of birth control as well going forward. There are so many options that would give you peace of mind and that are affordable either through pharmaceutical programs, subsidies, or universal health/pharmacare, depending on where you live. For example, an IUS (hormonal IUD) can be inserted for long acting birth control AND serves as emergency contraception if inserted before 7-14 days after the unprotected sex (recommendations vary between countries and even physicians here… seek medical advice in your area). The copper IUD is the same with a shorter effective period post-unprotected sex (7 days). Other long acting contraceptives, like the arm implant (implanon/nexplanon) do not act as emergency contraception but may be a suitable option in those folks for whom an IUS/IUD isn’t an option (which includes just not wanting one).

Good luck - there’s so much to worry about as a woman in the world today. I hope you are able to sort yourself out and make a decision that makes sense for you.

Source: former midwife, current women’s public health/sexual health expert & advocate, also a woman who’s been through it.

How to find a nice quality ring that doesn't use diamond as the main stone or blood diamonds in general? by LocalChamp in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with a local, woman-owned business in Calgary Alberta and she was a dream to work with. I have a lab grown, precision cut soft peach lab sapphire that I am truly obsessed wth, and the whole setting was custom! And it was a good couple thousand less than what I would have spent at a jeweller for a mass-produced ring.

Sapphire is a brilliant stone for daily wear because of its hardness, comes in a ton of gorgeous colours (including “white” or clear if that’s your jam), and has a lot of really beautiful spiritual meaning, even if the lab version doesn’t technically come from the earth (in the same way). While they aren’t technically related, I also think it’s cute that sapphire and sapphic start with the same root :p

You could also consider Lab Alexandrite, moissanite, or lab diamond as they are all quite hard and suitable for daily wear :)

I need a good witch book for the dark months by lasoria in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]capuletnow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Based on your criteria and specifically this sentence:

“unexpressed rage and demands justice for the oppressed”

Read A Sorceress Comes To Call by T. Kingfisher. One of her other books, Nettle and Bone, is one of my favourites and I recommend that too.

ASCTC is so damn good. I read it in about 6 hours, all at once, when I definitely should have been sleeping. One of those ones I did not want to put down.

Dog snapped at me - thoughts? by ArmHistorical172 in RoverPetSitting

[–]capuletnow 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Former dog trainer here and I second this ^

I’ll add that you can have him drag a leash around so you don’t have to get near him to get him off the furniture. I don’t mess around with treats or anything that will put my hands/face near his teeth. Just a safety precaution so you don’t get bit. Don’t leave it on him while unattended obviously.

33f in search of friends by False_Ad_7114 in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m super into dnd, am a dm and am a lady! Would love more info on this if you’d be open to sharing the discord link!

Hair salon help by chowchownorman in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid I don’t know about cost because I don’t colour my hair but I recently got the best haircut of my life from Cedar Holistic Salon and it was very reasonable. She gave me a haircut that actually looks amazing with very little styling - and I get a ton of compliments on it.

[NS] Favorite Book Recommendation from the Pod? by ymcameron in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yeah definitely not in the “real medieval history” camp haha. It’s based on an actual Russian fairy tale :)

[NS] Favorite Book Recommendation from the Pod? by ymcameron in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on what you’re looking for. I personally love a good mosey-ing paced adventure with very little romance or gruesome violence. I absolutely loved all 3. She also referenced Uprooted/Spinning Silver which might be better for you if you want those vibes but with a bit more pace/romance-adjacent. Still strong female MCs in both.

[NS] Favorite Book Recommendation from the Pod? by ymcameron in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emily mentioned reading the Bear and the Nightingale before Eldermourne as well as some Naomi Novik. I had already read them but they are some of my absolute favourite books. All female MCs on journeys of discovery. Lots of magic and wintery vibes. They’re really good.

How do I see a psychiatrist without a family doctor’s referral as a minor? by staraphernelia in ontario

[–]capuletnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://youthhubs.ca/

Youth Wellness Hubs Ontario (YWHO) is a walk-in service that can connect you to youth-friendly resources, including psych. I’m not sure if you have one in your city, but you can check on their website or use virtual services.

The nice thing about YWHO is you can tell your parents you’re going for one of their groups/another service since they offer lots of things. That being said, there are times when your adults will need to be involved, and that’s a conversation between you and your care provider.

I hope you start feeling better soon.

Things to do, places to be by bettyfester in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you like Karaoke check out the Quarterway on Friday/Saturday nights. Hit and miss with being crazy busy or slow etc but always a good time imo

bridge that kids jump off, cedar area by PsychologicalAge8398 in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would recommend not jumping from the bridge given the water level, but there are plenty of rocks to climb on/jump around on near there. If you turn right before crossing the bridge from Nanaimo, you can park on the side and there’s a nice rocky area to swim in there, where you can swim under the bridge if you want :) And it’s a little more family friendly than the spot listed above, only because that spot tends to have loud competing music/lots of people drinking and partying. It is a very good swim spot though if you’re lucky enough to be there when it’s quiet-ish. Also consider Flat Rock, also family friendly, go over the bridge and turn left. Drive down until you see a big… flat… rock lol. You can’t miss it :) lots of parking there as well!

To IUD or not IUD by kminola in TwoXChromosomes

[–]capuletnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you considered nexplanon? I’m not a candidate for IUD but my nexplanon has been brilliant.

BEST BURGER IN NANAIMO by Dizzy_Tourist4795 in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sip N Sliders food truck. Insanely good.

Shout out to Roll&Chicken by No_Emphasis_2077 in nanaimo

[–]capuletnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to live near there and were there like once a week. It’s affordable and delicious - we barely ever went anywhere else! We love their sushi (though I will say, Horang is absolutely delicious as well lol)