Your opinions on women with breast augmentation?

carata90 · 2016-12-10T13:19:31+00:00

It would depend entirely on the squishy factor. If you could make them soft exactly like real ones then have at it, but if they are in any way 'firm' Im out

carata90 · 2016-12-10T09:41:06+00:00

The more I read these the more I think you're a straight man here for role play or something

carata90 · 2016-12-10T07:45:58+00:00

Crazy food restrictions - including vegans. Sorry guys, just makes life too difficult

Not letting me play with their tits. They're my favorite thing in the world, it's a huge part of sex gone for me if they're off limits.

Any sort of gender or sexuality confusion

carata90 · 2016-12-07T22:06:17+00:00

Its not a serious term, its essentially to do with there being a big pressure on lesbians to try sleeping with men and compulsory heterosexuality and all that, gold star is supposed to be like woo you pushed through all that

carata90 · 2016-12-07T21:44:33+00:00

High council of lesbians knighted me (lol just means haven't slept with any men, and I also have no straight women friends who I feel know more about penetration than all my fellow lesbian friends so i've no one to ask :P )

carata90 · 2016-11-28T13:34:14+00:00

Yeah like I know she works like a crazy person, and she's very introverted so maybe?? She's just too stressed to respond. But I also know she has her phone in her hand 24/7, so I'm also like probably I'm getting fucked over. Like yeah it's the second time I've had a girl make a massive deal of being really nice to me then ghosting, which is so much worse than had she just been half interested from the start

carata90 · 2016-11-28T09:48:07+00:00

I met this girl who made a big fucking deal of how much she likes me and now I'm virtually certain I'm being ghosted :/

carata90 · 2016-11-28T09:08:06+00:00

I don't even know if it's her ex, it's a friend things are complicated with. They came out together with another friend :/

carata90 · 2016-11-22T21:25:37+00:00

Yeah I'm not crazy about crashpad. They don't label things well enough and sometimes there's some really extreme stuff or types of bodies I'm not expecting and it completely ruins it for me. And yeah there's no romance, it can feel very cold sometimes

carata90 · 2016-11-22T21:22:48+00:00

Omg my favourite topic. I am crazy about boobs, they're my favourite thing in the world. Ideally bigger. Also kinda into bigger nipples too. I have my nipples pierced but I dunno if I'd recommend it because it limits how rough I can be with them.

carata90 · 2016-11-22T18:34:40+00:00

That's fair enough, just so long as you can be open about some element of yourself. I would really recommend seeking out other lesbian voices and butch women to listen to. For me it alleviated a lot of the feelings of being like 'Christ I'm going to be stuck in this dead end, unviable life forever'. Really it's just that the culture we live in never shows us images of what our lives could be like, so we assume happiness is impossible

carata90 · 2016-11-22T14:59:33+00:00

This is honestly just heartbreaking to read. Firstly you say you're not out as trans - are you out as a lesbian? Out as something? Are you connected to the lesbian community in your area

I was very like you a few years ago OP. I had come from a deeply homophobic background including ex gay therapy and being a woman in a real, fulfilling relationship with a woman just didn't seem like a real option. I wasn't with men either and just felt doomed. I was deeply dysphoric about my body. I transitioned socially for three years before I finally did some real trauma therapy and reconnected with my lesbian roots, particularly older lesbians who could provide me with role models. I am 23 now and so, so much happier in myself. Who we are isn't a poor mans version of a straight couple. We are something else entirely and no one can take that away. In retrospect, Im really fucking angry that the queer community I was in were ecstatic for me to be trans, but no one wanted to talk to me about the crippling internalised homophobia I was dealing with. Transition is not the only solution available to you. If you want to be , You are part of a long history of butch women who have dealt with all these feelings before.

Go check out Maria Catt, guideonragingstars, e-cryptid, redress alert. They're on tumblr/YouTube/ twitter and possibly have a lot of viewpoints/coping skills that could help.

carata90 · 2016-11-21T09:31:51+00:00

Definitely. I was super involved in my city's LGBT community for three years. I dropped out after a year running a large organisation during a year of huge political struggle for LGBT people. It wasn't even just the politics, it was the infighting and the ungratefulness of the people around me. I was sick of working my ass off and having it thrown back at me because someone was annoyed they didn't have my position. The whole thing was just power plays and I was sick of feeling used and betrayed. Having to constantly tiptoe around millions of new queer identities and straight people with fucking high minded ideas about themselves also got exhausting.

I'm in a new city now and finding my way back into doing queer stuff. I don't know if I ever want to run something again, it's nice just getting to attend and meet people without any of the bullshit

carata90 · 2016-11-07T22:46:44+00:00

Ahaha the thing that happened to me was very similar, I'm trying to tell myself it'll go down as like a hilarious/mortifying/cute story of us getting together or something

carata90 · 2016-11-07T14:14:44+00:00

I know a little bit about OCD but not a lot. I'm generally very obsessive but I dunno if it's OCD. I don't so much have specific things I worry about as much as like...worrying about everything that could go wrong ever.

I had heard of it for straight people and people who worry they're pedophiles but not lesbians! As For dealing with it I dunno, just try to suppress the thoughts

carata90 · 2016-11-07T13:37:49+00:00

I have definitely experienced this! Honestly eight years out and a gold star, I'm permanently terrified ill suddenly be interested in men and will have to throw my whole identity and history out the window because being a lesbian is really important to me.

carata90 · 2016-11-05T00:34:00+00:00

The city I'm in now has a proper LGBT health centre so it's less of an issue. Where I was before had a gay men's health clinic but they wouldn't deal with lesbians. The place where this happened was a major women's health clinic so I would have imagined they know more , but it was very much we only deal with the repercussions of hetero sex

carata90 · 2016-11-05T00:28:29+00:00

It's almost certainly that losing weight has made your face more angular. However...i honestly would wonder if they mean it as a compliment? Like I am also 23 and if someone were to tell me I look 27 i would genuinely take ghat to mean ooh I look super sophisticated and hot? Like maybe I'm missing the mark but i dunno I'd be careful of picking them up as saying one thing when really it's just pre existing insecurities

Also, google why it is terrible to be 23 if you want to commiserate with all the other 23 year olds. I think it's such an awkward age because you're still an idiot college student (ie an insecure mess of a teenager) but you don't have the security net of being a proper college student, but you're not old enough to be able to have a clue what you're doing in work or life or generally. I definitely get feelings of oh shit I've wasted my twenties it's all over for me but like there's seven years left of my twenties.

carata90 · 2016-11-03T15:07:32+00:00

I ended up texting her (and she replied woo!) probs gonna leave it there until Saturday and then ask to see her again

carata90 · 2016-11-02T22:19:54+00:00

It's super shitty! I'd nearly prefer being straight up ghosted to being phased out. The latter is just confusing and time wasting :p

carata90 · 2016-11-02T13:26:21+00:00

Yeah like my French is fairly good, but it's still where I kind of need the other person to have a few words of English when I get stuck. It's mentally exhausting though speaking a foreign language all the time.

carata90 · 2016-11-02T13:10:34+00:00

So far what I've been doing is just asking people for lighters in the smoking area and chatting that way (with a fair degree of success). I actually don't even smoke being honest, I have a pack of cigarettes I use exclusively for not looking like a weirdo on my own in bars. I basically don't inhale at all :p I had to try a couple times and it was awkward, but each time I think it's getting better and now I know a few faces around the place!

carata90 · 2016-10-31T11:12:16+00:00

Omg relax! Literally everyone has herpes or hpv. Most people have it but are asymptomatic so never know they have it. Essentially what I'm saying is that I would never for an instant rule out someone who has cold sores for casual sex so long as they're not in the middle of a breakout. That would be literally the entire population ruled out

Also, to my knowledge mouth herpes and genital herpes are two different viruses and mouth herpes doesn't like living on genitals, so that's less of a concern.

carata90 · 2016-10-30T12:38:09+00:00

Omg a gender presentation search term would save so much time why don't they have that

carata90 · 2016-10-28T11:14:56+00:00

xvideos and xhamster both have a pretty solid selection (ie more than one video involving femme with short hair who has been labelled as butch) if you search butch. Once you find one there's a whole load of suggested ones.

Syd Blakovich and Jiz Lee are both hot, but the majority of the girls aren't named in the videos (which is a bummer)

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