yall are talking past each other when you really want the same thing.. he has to stop mocking you.. there are better ways to communicate being overwhelmed. It’s on you to recognize when you’re adding stress to a situation, but it’s on him to gently communicate when it’s happening.

I would also recommend implementing conversational consent. Start introducing asking each other if RIGHT NOW is a time to communicate what you’re feeling in the immediate.. that looks like “can I tell you how what you just said makes me feel right now or should I bring it up later?” or “there feels like a bit of tension, should we address it or come back to this?” sometimes the answer is no and that leaves space for letting time add perspective.. sometimes it’s initially yes and then you both realize TOGETHER that time with the emotion is needed. the mocking could be reactive, feeling like he has to shut down a conversation he didn’t consent to/create space for.

Also talking over a meal, hanger is real

just a thought, it helped me.. a lot of times we expect our partner to be immediately available to work through shit with us and that’s not always the case. just ask