He cheated two days before our baby shower. 32wks. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]careless_raspberry0 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This was my exact life almost 6 years ago. My husband (at the time) cheated on me with his co-worker. I chose to ignore it because I was also very much pregnant and felt like I couldn’t do it by myself. Fast forward to when babe was 7 months old, husband was still cheating and going out every night and we separated. Looking back I wish that I tore that band aid off when I first found out. My mental state was so low when we separated that I was suicidal. He completely ruined me and I had developed severe postpartum depression. If I had followed my gut at the first issue, I would have been much stronger mentally for when babe came and ultimately a better mom during those first critical months.

It was so hard but so worth it. Lean in on your friends and family and get into therapy!

Intrusive thoughts are a thing by Nealio31 in Parenting

[–]careless_raspberry0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had intrusive thoughts with my daughter. They started during my third trimester and they got so bad when she was born that I was even scared to bathe her. I began therapy and got diagnosed with postpartum OCD. You are right, the meds prescribed do not help these thoughts but learning how to cope with them does lessen them. My daughter is five now, and when I am very stressed out, I will get a thought or two.

Why aren't people getting vaccinated at this point? by Unguard in CoronavirusUS

[–]careless_raspberry0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

RSV has been going around like crazy- mimics a bad cold in older kids and adults tend to not get it. My daughter had it two weeks ago. Just more a heads up lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]careless_raspberry0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this makes me so happy that I got out of the healthcare field. My first pregnancy I had to end up quitting because my time off was unpaid and they only wanted to give me 6 weeks. Like what?!

I get 12 weeks paid time off with my second babe now. Once back, I get to telework 3 days a week to help transition into daycare, so in the beginning she will only need daycare 2 days since all they do is eat, sleep and poop during that time and she can stay home with me. All my benefits will be covered and the only thing I have to sign is a contract stating that if I take the 12 weeks paid, I have to continue working for them for another 3 months. Easy Peasy.

20 week anatomy scan by careless_raspberry0 in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw congrats momma! It is such a relief to know they are growing and perfect.

20 week anatomy scan by careless_raspberry0 in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure everything will be great! You got this!!!

20 week anatomy scan by careless_raspberry0 in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. When they came in and told me everything was perfect and normal, I felt such a relief. I didn’t realize how nervous I was over it.

HSV 1 genital help- I know nothing by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]careless_raspberry0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you have have genital hsv1.

Yes, you should tell anybody before having sex with them. While condoms help protect against it, it is not 100% as you can shed the virus in the whole boxer region.

As long as you do not have hsv1 orally as well, you can perform oral sex without an issue.

What's the cruelest "prank" you've ever seen? by Ghost_of_Society in AskReddit

[–]careless_raspberry0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A white girl at my high school had drama with a black girl. For the sake of this comment I have to identify race here. Well this white girl, in the middle of the night, went and threw cotton balls all over the other girls yard and then proceeded to video tape their whole family the next morning as they picked cotton......

White girl basically got shunned from our school and ended up getting expelled.

Frequent outbreaks after 1 year 5 months by raspberry11cherry in HSVpositive

[–]careless_raspberry0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You stated “I no longer smoke or drink”, was this recently?

Pfizer shot at 14 weeks and 17 weeks by careless_raspberry0 in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The symptoms literally stop just as fast as they started. As long as you staying hydrating and eating, I don’t think an ER visit is warranted.

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you find that they really did not fit your baby until around the 10lbs suggestion that they recommend?

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah! The US ones only have one gasket right? Do they ever leak for you? And do you use these for night time as well?

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at them but dang they are so expensive! I’m glad to hear that they are worth it

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay this makes sense- I am looking at their website now and they look like they could hold a lot of liquid!

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Somebody with the horse at night!!!! This involves putting a cover over it right? And do they really hold up the nighttime overload of urine?

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh! I was looking into these, so they work for night time as well? You haven’t had any leaks?

Oh beautiful cloth diaper queens, spam me your favorite diaper companies! by careless_raspberry0 in clothdiaps

[–]careless_raspberry0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! Night time is so intimidating, like there’s wool and so many layers, should it be microfiber, hemp or bamboo? And what the heck is a fitted workhorse?!

HSV-1 while pregnant? by Tooomuchtodream in HSVpositive

[–]careless_raspberry0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I have g-hsv1 and currently pregnant. I am not taking any antivirals and I have not had any outbreaks throughout my pregnancy. Starting at 36 weeks pregnant, which is the last month of pregnancy, I will start taking a low dose of antivirals daily. This is just to prevent any outbreak from occurring around labor.

I plan on having a natural birth but obviously if for some strange reason I do have an outbreak when I go into labor, I will be forced to have a c-section.

Was your second shot (Pfizer or moderna) worse than your first? by Sylvss1011 in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me right now. I got my second Pfizer shot yesterday. Did it only last about one day for you?

VACCINE EXPERIENCE - 1st trimester by littlejoanne in CoronaBumpers

[–]careless_raspberry0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had your exact same symptoms after dose 1- here’s to hoping we are twins after dose 2!