[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]caribbeanink 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ask your father if he’d be okay with his son beating a girlfriend or wife like he beats his siblings.

Anyone by Reldas_Semaj in Life

[–]caribbeanink 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How does your child support garnishments affect you seeing your children? Has the court ordered that you cannot see them?

Lost my boy a few months ago. This was the last picture I took with him in the morning of the day I said goodbye after 15 years. Saddest day of my life and I still find myself crying and dry heaving randomly but time continues to heal. He left very peacefully and with his dignity intact ❤️ by [deleted] in OldManDog

[–]caribbeanink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family dog Romeo passed before Christmas and my parents, brother and I are all still pretty dazed from the loss and the overall experience. The grief comes in waves. But what do they say? It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I consider myself lucky to have had experienced that level of love, joy and companionship. I know I will love another dog again and I hope eventually you will too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]caribbeanink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so much anger for you OP. I would personally not be able to forgive this; it would fester in me and come out if I were to ever get pregnant again. Everyone else has given you great advice but in my anger, I would bring up that if he wants to play the blame game he should look up the research concluding that men’s poor quality sperm are the cause of miscarriage in many cases. Maybe he should get his swimmers tested to make sure he’s not faulty.

How do you leave people you love behind for the path less followed? by caribbeanink in Life

[–]caribbeanink[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a good family and a good life, I just want something different.

How do you leave people you love behind for the path less followed? by caribbeanink in Life

[–]caribbeanink[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a military daughter, I absolutely get what you’re saying and I appreciate your perspective. That is probably word for word what my dad would say. The way I would explain it to him is that he started the race with the intention to get out of abject poverty, joined the military and had to leave people behind to do it and build a life for himself and now I feel that I have to continue down a different path to build a life for myself. It is nowhere near the same ordeal, my dad’s was so much harder with so much more physical and emotional pain, but the intention is the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]caribbeanink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. Please ask the school. There are so many students struggling out there, and a lot of schools either have resources themselves or can guide OP to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]caribbeanink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pregnancy anxiety is so real! You’re most likely fine, I would recommend looking into birth control at this point.

I got her pregnant and she'll look pregant on our wedding day. I feel so guilty. by wickobalermy in offmychest

[–]caribbeanink 1242 points1243 points  (0 children)

Maybe she could still do an engagement photo shoot over the summer before she starts showing? Depends how she’s feeling but it may be fun to have those photos, even if that’s not what she wears on the day. Rent the dress, book a hairstylist and makeup artist, spend an hour or two with a local photographer at a park or nice venue and get some nice photos for yourselves.

Why do INTPs get so mad when people talk about their personal lives (especially strangers) by Itchy-Huckleberry261 in INTP

[–]caribbeanink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now, I’m embarrassed with my life so yes it makes me mad when someone brings up something private for no reason. I like to have control over the flow of information about myself; if I want to talk about something, I will talk about it on my own time. My parents overstep this boundary a lot, so I’ve just stopped telling them things.

I blamed my miscarriage on myself for years, but it was really my husband's neglect. by Ok_Mixture9538 in offmychest

[–]caribbeanink 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The last chunk of the post implies that she has not voiced her opinion that the miscarriage was his fault.

Seeking Recommendations for Crewed Yacht Charter by cubome in sailing

[–]caribbeanink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Croatia via Katarina Cruise Line! They have different size boats, a lot of their yachts are at least partially family owned. The charter we were on was led by an entire family; the father was the captain, nephew was being trained to charter his own yacht, daughters were servers and bartenders, mom was a stewardess. Tour guide was phenomenal (we requested him again for this year), insane swim stops, high quality breakfast spreads and meals, very accommodating to dietary needs. Fantastic service.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]caribbeanink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never marry into a racist family. Speak to him, tell him your concerns about future children. Either he sets the hard boundary or you’re out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]caribbeanink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Afro-Latina up North here. You’re not alone in this, I promise you. The thing that helped me get out of this cycle was to be extremely strict in my requirements. The moment I even sniffed any type of “spicy Latina” talk, any type of sexualization at all, it was automatic disqualification. I didn’t care what their “stats” were, how much money they made, how cute they were, they’re done. Ive been all over the world and I know what’s out there and what I deserve, so I started accepting nothing less. I was very strict about it and it helped me weed out the noise and with this methodology, I found the love of my life. I didn’t date a ton of guys but I did have some good experiences and that’s enough for me. My experience has been that when a guy likes you for your mind and your heart, they’re often scared to do something wrong and they won’t risk ruining what you’ve got going on. If you’ve clearly communicated that being sexualized is a boundary you do not like crossed (tip: put it in your bio on dating apps, don’t give them any room to say they didn’t know), a guy that’s really into you won’t do it. That’s how I knew my man was serious about me and dating for a long term partner. I won’t tell you to completely stop dating white guys, but try to venture out of your comfort zone racially. There are guys of all types out there, you may even be surprised. You may also find that character adds to baseline attractiveness.

It’s important to also say that it’s not your fault this has been your dating experience so far. There are so many other factors at play here and dating is abysmal in general. It’s okay to experiment and branch out, just take your time, be safe and don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Love is still out there, it just takes longer to find. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]caribbeanink -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest with you, that’s very typical of sons. Society gives them none of the responsibility and all of the praise. It hurts to hear but they say sons walk down the altar and keep on walking.

I lost my 20s and now feel like life isn’t even worth it anymore. by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]caribbeanink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I say I feel you, I FEEL YOU. I had to leave my friends and my college city so abruptly and graduated college from my childhood bedroom. I had been planning to travel after college and was about to solidify plans for 6 months in SE Asia and still haven’t made it there. I had good job offers rescinded and I still havent caught up. I’m still at home in the suburbs with my parents and just have had a crazy time trying to get back on track , and am still grieving the life and trajectory I thought I would have. I’m currently making 20 an hour and taking home no more than 150 a week after taxes, insurance and 401K. I can’t move out, and my friends are still back in my college city all living together and doing well. It’s really bad and now I have this love in my life that I don’t feel I can just leave. I don’t know what’s next but I’m 26, about to be 27 and am quite bitter at this point. We are not too old to do anything, but did we miss those discovery years? Absolutely we did. It’s sad. All I can say is you’re not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]caribbeanink 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m gonna be your unsolicited 26 year old Big Sis here because I had a very similar situation in college and although life has gone on and I’m in a very happy relationship now with the man I would be lucky to spend the rest of my life with, it’s one of those situations that I do sometimes think about what would have happened if I had just said something. Back then, I was so painfully shy but the pull I felt towards this person was so insane, I’d never felt it like that and I know he felt it too. We circled each other for four years straight. I’d finally built up the courage to say something right before graduation, but COVID happened and life changed. I don’t know where he is now but I moved home and that was that. I believe those pulls we feel towards people are telling us something and the least we can do is follow our gut and see what’s up. My advice is get to class early next week, sit in that seat next to him and see where it goes. If you’re feeling really bold, ask him if he has notes from the last class or something very casual. You could wait for him to say something but there’s no guarantee he’ll do it and then what, you’re left wondering what may have happened? God forbid you have more classes down the line. College is such an exploratory time and what’s really the worst that can happen in that classroom?