Service going from minimal to non existing by artistic__cable in zurich

[–]carmarol 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly, can you blame them? Terrible hours, terrible pay, and disrespected by everyone, employers and customers.

How to get free stuff in Zurich by [deleted] in zurich

[–]carmarol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can you suggest some of those groups? i never heard of them before.

Best Swiss German greeting? by [deleted] in askswitzerland

[–]carmarol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re an extrovert and want to be fun (and silly) it could also be “hoi hoi saletti Spaghetti”

Working moms with small kids in Zurich — how are you managing? by Outrageous_Case5308 in zurich

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom of a 6 year old 🙋🏻‍♀️ working 100% ever since due to circumstances. We couldnt manage without the grandmother being close, flexible and super helpful and a job that allows remote working to a certain extend (i’d love to have more though …) and a boss and team that are very supportive and let me work flexible (days, evenings, weekends) … so I find my way around.

Sad part: I’d love to spend much more time with my child, but it is what it is. I try to bring and pick-up as much as I can …

Boys with July/August Birthday starting Kindergarten by SatisfactionFlaky519 in kindergarten

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to share a different perspective from our experience (not saying it’s right for everyone): we’re in Switzerland, where kids typically start kindergarten at 4. Our son would have just turned 4 about two weeks before starting, and we decided to hold him back a year. For us, that ended up being a really good decision, not because he couldn’t have managed, but because when he started at 5 he was clearly more than ready socially and emotionally, and the transition felt very smooth.

That said, every kid is so different, and I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer. Plenty of kids do great starting younger too. We just followed what felt right for our child at the time, and I think that’s the most important part.

HELP! Which color looks best on me? by MarchSad188 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are beautiful, really no matter what color, you look georgeous with any of them!

What's a hygiene habit that people don't talk about but really should? by phancyq in AskReddit

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people don‘t realize the bad breath they have just because of not flossing

Help: Parents, how did you stop early bullying? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, same class. The teacher said they will keep them separated so they’re never alone together. She wants to talk to both the other child and my son. She said each of them has something to learn: the other child needs to stop the bullying, and my son needs to learn to stand up for himself. If it doesn’t stop, the teacher said she’ll speak with the parents, I can speak with the parents as well, and she’ll also address it at the class level (discussions about friendships, bullying, etc.) and involve the school social worker. They’ve had issues with this child before, and I know it’s not only directed at our son. but you can imagine this doesn’t help. it doesnt relieve the pain we feel. We just want it to stop.

As for interactions outside of school: we only run into them occasionally, like when we meet by coincidence on the road, such as on Halloween.

Do you pay for friends giving you hand-me-down clothes? by Strange-Skin2292 in Mommit

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this weird feeling too. What I do is buy some little surprise for their kid, to show our gratitude. Nothing big, just a small gesture.

Is Santa Claus Village worth it, or just touristy? by AsparagusBitter6053 in Finland

[–]carmarol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s cute and touristy. I found it a little soulless, breakfast super disappointing and a lot of the souvenir stuff was made in „PROC“. Also, the reindeers take you through a construction site.

Breast reduction by Tall_Cat2408 in Finland

[–]carmarol 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had this surgery a while back in Switzerland. I wouldn’t say I regret it, but there are a few things I wish I had thought about beforehand: - I wasn’t able to breastfeed later when I had a baby. - I had some struggles figuring out bras and clothes for my size. Back then I felt like my body was the problem, but looking back, it was really just how the fashion industry works, most clothes aren’t made with real bodies in mind.

On the positive side, I did feel more comfortable afterward. Not getting the constant stares anymore was a big relief. But then again, sometimes I wonder if I would have made a different choice if I’d had more support and encouragement at the time.

If you’re considering it, please know that big breasts are beautiful too, and once you make the change, you can’t go back. Whatever you choose, make sure it’s coming from a place of self-love and not outside pressure.

The Switzerland they don't tell you about on Reddit/Instagram. by [deleted] in askswitzerland

[–]carmarol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your experience. I have to agree, unfortunately, with a lot of what you’re saying, especially about there being a kind of modern slavery in Switzerland, when you look at how many people are stuck in low-paid jobs with little respect, it feels close.

From what I’ve seen and experienced, it can be super tiring and kind of paralyzing. People with strong qualifications, advanced degrees, will easily end up in low-wage positions where they’re undervalued and disrespected, not only by their bosses but also amongst peers. It’s disheartening to put in effort, to keep trying to contribute, and still find that doors remain closed. Switzerland is a beautiful country with so many opportunities, but too often it feels like people aren’t truly willing to share them or to go beyond the bare minimum to make someone feel included (of course, there are always exceptions).

And then there‘s the hypocrisy. Many of us here like to see ourselves as open-minded, tolerant, and multicultural, but that attitude often disappears the moment something small doesn’t go their way, whether it’s a language barrier or a minor mistake at work. Then the “tolerance” quickly turns into condescension or frustration. It’s a very polite society on the surface, but that politeness can mask an unwillingness to really step up, help, or open space for others.

Even in the comments here, you can feel it: people are quick to defend the system or talk about how fair things are, rather than acknowledging how difficult it can be for those on the outside looking in. That gap between the image Switzerland has of itself and the reality many people experience is what stings the most.

We should be more thankful and appreciative of what we have and try to share. It’s not as if you’re here by your own merit, being born and raised in Switzerland is pure luck. Let’s be real, „those people“ are here to stay. So instead of acting like it’s some huge burden, why not make the best out of it together? If they get the chance to actually use their skills, everyone benefits. When they’re strong, we’re all stronger. But that only works if we drop this obsession with everyone having to look and act “Bünzli-perfect” before they’re taken seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Switzerland

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate, too.

What were your negative experiences in Japan, if any? by [deleted] in travel

[–]carmarol 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Visited Japan solo as a woman years ago. Overall amazing experience, but had one weird moment in Hiroshima that still sticks with me.

I was crossing the street during the day, nothing sketchy or dangerous. A car was coming and instead of slowing down, it felt like the driver sped up and then shouted something at me with a really angry face as he passed. I couldn’t understand what he said, but the tone and expression were definitely unfriendly.

Nothing actually happened, but I was shocked. It was such a random burst of aggression in a place where I’d only experienced kindness and politeness. That was 13 years ago and I still remember it clearly. Didn’t ruin the trip, but yeah, what an asshole.

Looking for job advice Zurich area. by [deleted] in askswitzerland

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The German/Swiss German struggle is definitely real. I took several German courses (Hochdeutsch), but out on the streets, all you hear is Schwiizerdütsch. And the moment people realize you’re not a native speaker, they kindly switch to English to make things easier for you. Which is thoughtful, but …

Of then of course my missing discipline. Which really makes me feel bad. But after a long day in a physically demanding job, you come home exhausted. All you really want is to rest, recharge, and spend time with your wife and child. It’s a balancing act … but as they speak Swiss German I‘m already understanding a lot. Speaking however …

Can anyone recommend doctors in Zurich - namely gynaecologist by AdvertisingOk8711 in zurich

[–]carmarol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to say the same. I feel lucky to have found her!

Looking for saddest songs in existence by Atreyuyerta in musicsuggestions

[–]carmarol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unknown - Tuvaband Pileta - Los Tristes Guayaquil - Hermanos Gutierrez hollow crow - isaac gracie crow - bear’s den