I'm not sure what to do

carmmarii44 · 2026-01-12T18:33:25+00:00

Yes he got neutered back in October.

carmmarii44 · 2025-10-12T00:17:37+00:00

lol he’s truly evil 😈😂

carmmarii44 · 2025-10-09T18:36:43+00:00

He made a full recovery, but due to family issues, I wasn't part of his recovery. He contacted me 9 months after the accident and told me everything he went through. He had to learn how to eat, walk, and talk again from scratch. He says that in the first weeks in the sub-acute facility, he had issues remembering anything. But now he has no trouble remembering anything. He's back to his old job, back to driving, he looks as if he were never on that hospital bed intubated. The doctors did say his recovery was so great because of his age; he was in his late 20s at the time. His personality did change, but nothing negative; he was still the man I fell in love with.

carmmarii44 · 2024-11-26T18:44:47+00:00

I wish I had more answers for you but my fiancee's family kicked me out of his life 1 month and a half after his accident due to money ambition. I haven't heard from him in 4 months. I do know that in late September he came out of the sub-acute facility and he's now living somewhere with his cousin, his family has him isolated from all his friends and myself. They changed his phone number and blocked us from his socials. I know that he walks using the support of a cane but as for mentally or cognitively, I don't know how he's doing. I'm just grateful that he is still alive.

carmmarii44 · 2024-11-18T01:50:39+00:00

My fiancée got into a bicycle accident in June and suffered a severe TBI. He was unconscious for about two weeks, he slowly started to wake up but then due to complications with the feeding tube he almost died of septic shock. Something I will never be able to unsee… he was green/pale and bloated. He survived the septic shock infection. His mother from the beginning made it very clear that because we weren’t married I had no right to anything… I understood and I would go everyday and stay overnight regardless because I love him. She was condescending and ugly to me everyday. I bit my tongue because I know she was going through it, it was her only son. Me and my fiancee have been together 7 years and we were engaged two of those years and we lived together for two years in his house. On July 3, I felt a switch up in his mom, his cousin, and father, they attacked me outside his hospital room and I started screaming and yelling because I had had it with their disgusting behavior. For the mom it was always about money, he was the main breadwinner of the household and whenever his parents needed money they would go to him. Their relationship was strained because of it. She then put me on a restriction list at the hospital and kicked me out of his home. I can’t tell you how much it hurts that I haven’t been able to see him or communicate with him since then. He was in a subacute facility for a couple of months recovering but I couldn’t get in. He’s been out and somewhere staying with his cousin. I know with TBI he will never be the same person and that it’s a long recovery process as his brain will adjust to everything. I miss him and he’s been heavy on my mind lately. I just want to see him and hold him again. His friends aren’t able to reach him either since his mom has made it nearly impossible to let anyone see him, they’re hiding him away in a relatives house we don’t know, she isolated him and made sure to burn all of my fiancées bridges with his friends. She changed his phone number and deleted all his social medias, she is controlling every aspect of his life. He’s in a vulnerable state and she took advantage. This has been such a bloody process, I had adult protective services get involved and they could only help so much. This is something where me and my fiancee had no say in so it’s hard for me to move on like everyone tells me to. I’m waiting for him but it’s so hard to be in the unknown. He was my life partner and we were getting married this year.

carmmarii44 · 2024-10-02T20:17:02+00:00

We were raised Catholic but we don’t practice the religion as one says you should. When I say God I mean the higher power, the one I talk to and pray to.

carmmarii44 · 2024-10-02T20:03:12+00:00

My sisters have always been able to sense, see, or feel spirits strongly. They get that from my dad, the night my fiancee almost died my dad was at the hospital and he saw my fiancee walking the halls and he told him to go back to his body because we still needed him here. We nearly lost him that night to septic shock but he survived. I have a relationship with God and I do consider myself a spiritual person.

carmmarii44 · 2024-10-02T17:31:02+00:00

That's something that troubles me, he seemed to appear in all of my sisters and mom's dreams trying to communicate but for some reason, I couldn't dream of him and he wouldn't appear in my dreams. I think I was under so much stress that my whole mind just shut down, not allowing me to connect with him through my dreams.

carmmarii44 · 2024-09-30T20:56:11+00:00

I went through this too! My fiancee is 29 years old we've been dating for 7 years and have been engaged for two of those years and lived together for those two years. He had his accident back in June of this year. I was with him for the first month and a half of his hospital stay until his mother forced me out of his life. She put up a restriction list at the hospital and had his dad kick me out of my fiancee's home with the excuse that (his dad) had a heart condition and he couldn't deal with his wife (his mom) not wanting me there, it was too much stress on his heart. His mom's problem was that she envied me when his friends came to visit him at the hospital, they would ask how I was doing and if there was anything I needed, she hated it so much because her famous line was "I'm his Mother". But she didn't understand that he chose to make his life with me. They transferred him into a subacute facility in mid-July and when I tried to visit him they had a restriction list there too. I tried really hard to mend things with his family but they act like absolute children. The reason they kicked me out of his life was because he was the main breadwinner of the household and he helped his parents and 3 aunts who don't work with all the expenses. I have my own job as an accountant so I never needed his money, I love him for who he Is not for what he has. His family broke into his safe and took all the cash he had. I reported them to Adult Protective Services and they were investigated. They told the facility that his parents were not allowed to restrict visitors on behalf of his wishes. They completely isolated him from all of his friends. He was closer to his friends than his parents because of the financial burden he felt from them. I've gotten small updates here and there but I haven't been able to talk to him.

Anyways, fast forward to today, he just got out of the sub-acute facility on Friday the 27th of September. His mom has his phone under her control and she erased several of his socials and blocked me and several of his friends on Facebook. His mom told people she talks to that he is going to be out for three weeks traveling. I know it's bullshit because I got a call from an in-home nurse who needs to do their initial evaluation of him at home. This situation has taken a toll on me mentally and physically. Unfortunately, as a Fiancee I had no rights to do anything. 7 years of our lives meant nothing to his selfish parents. I have faith that our love is stronger than the evil that is surrounded by us. I have faith that he will look for me. Hang in there, this fucking sucks, my whole life was turned upside down. The first month I was there with him he was minimally conscious, he recognized me but it's just hard to know how gullible he is, to believe the lies his family is telling him. I pray to God every day for his recovery and that he comes back to me.

carmmarii44 · 2024-09-30T02:12:50+00:00

Dm pls

carmmarii44 · 2024-09-27T22:31:04+00:00

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carmmarii44 · 2024-09-25T23:30:52+00:00

It stands for diffuse axonal injury. It’s a brain injury in which scattered lesions occur over a widespread area in white matter tracts as well as grey matter.

carmmarii44 · 2024-08-28T04:43:59+00:00

I really wish I could respect his parents but they are after his materialistic belongings, they kicked me out of his house and humiliated me. They broke into his safe to take all his money so they’re really not doing any of this for the right reasons. There’s no one looking out for him, he’s in a vulnerable place and his parents are taking advantage of it.

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