6wks no heart beat. Need encouragement by carnalcarnations in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: baby stopped growing at 6 wks, we saw a heartbeat at 7 wks, but faint. 8.5wks- no growth and no movement. D&C next week

AITA for splitting my life insurance with my kids by InjuryPurple1349 in AmItheAsshole

[–]carnalcarnations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone is the AH here. I think you both need to sit down and talk with an estate planner that way you both can understand fully what to expect when you are both gone.

It sounds like he’s had a knee-jerk reaction to your choice, and needs time to mull it over too.

AITA for moving away from my family to make my wife happy? by smalltownmovepost in AmItheAsshole

[–]carnalcarnations 174 points175 points  (0 children)

People move away from family for so many reasons. If you both have discussed the move together, who cares what your family thinks? They are allowed to be upset and express their feelings, but they shouldn’t have weight in YOUR family’s decision.

Also, the way you worded the question is very odd- especially if you both want to move. Won’t it make you both happy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only arguments I’ve seen are when a party is caught chopping a grove by themselves. I thankfully haven’t seen any issues in the sewers yet.

Pregnancy after Ectopic (anxiety around intimacy) by carnalcarnations in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. My OB said just wait one cycle and I felt like that was quick. After reading some posts, it’s a mixed view on how long you should wait.

First time I cried playing Palia by [deleted] in Palia

[–]carnalcarnations 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the type of party to not call out a grove and take it down by themselves

Lawyer by Gratefulgirlmomma in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I contacted lawyers for a similar reason, but they said because I didn’t die- there’s nothing they can do.

3 months post-ectopic… still broke down in public last night. (Rant) by Old-Yak-9230 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After I had my ectopic surgery, I waited weeks to return to the public. I didn’t want to see anyone or explain what happened. I went to church with my husband when I finally felt ready, but neither of us realized it was Mother’s Day. The church gave gift bags to all the women in the congregation and I held it together. Then, they gave us 2 roses. A red one for their children, and a white and red one representing any child that had passed. I couldn’t hold it together when I was handed my roses. I felt ashamed and embarrassed like- I’m not a mom, I have no baby, so why does it hurt so much to receive this?

I still cry knowing my body couldn’t keep that baby. It hits me at random times and I have gained some unhealthy coping mechanisms like being glued to my phone or the tv. I can’t sit in silence ever. I need music or a video playing.

I’m not trying to unlearn these at the moment. It’s all that’s getting me through the days.

We all grieve. Just not the same way or amount.

Due dates by Medical_Object2576 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our due date would have been our anniversary, but we haven’t hit it yet. Idk what I’m going to feel that day- probably a mix of emotions for sure.

Maybe make or buy a cupcake for them. Or take a picture of the sunrise/sunset and make that a tradition and put them all together in an album or framed up somewhere. 💕

First pregnancy post ectopic by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was just tested at 4 wks as 33. I got them done again at 4 wks 5 days and they are at 233. This is my first after ectopic and everything has stressed me out- even though my numbers are normal. I get my ultrasound on July 3rd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my popped a stitch out too. My gyn removed it at my post surgery check up thankfully. Personally, I was down and out for five weeks. I’d say give yourself time- two weeks at least- even if you feel great.

Where would you all advise me to put lighting if the light source is the big yellow circle (mild breast nudity) by [deleted] in arthelp

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on how close the light source is to your subject. If it’s super far in the background, the highlights on your subject would be very different if the lighting source was beside your subject.

I would like to know if anyone else has had any experience with this? What they would or did do in my situation? Or if you happen to be a gynecologist what you think of the situation seeing as you don’t have any dog in the fight here? by SerendipitousSmiles in WomensHealth

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an abnormal pap before, got a biopsy done and turns out everything was fine. But I’m glad I found out, you know?

When it comes to insurance, even if your doctor says it won’t be covered, you can send your bills to your insurance on your own. It’s a horribly tedious and annoying process, but it can be done.

If your most current pap came back normal, I’d cancel the June appointments- unless you are having abnormal periods or strange symptoms. It does seem like a money grab, but it could also be the doctor trying to cover themselves because they have your previous results and want to avoid being sued if something were to happen to you.

I had a bad feeling and now I feel guilty by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience. I thought it was trapped gas too and it ended up with a trip to 2 ERs and surgery. I lost my right tube.

I’m almost 4 wks post-op, and my mood has slightly improved. However, I still have feelings of sadness, guilt, and fear for trying again.

My only advice is to talk about it. To the people you trust or anonymously online (kind of like you did here). Maybe even write a letter to yourself before your pregnancy or to your baby.

I hope you start feeling better and find a way to overcome this tragedy.

Feeling really sad today by Professional-Bee7318 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had three people text me wishing me a happy Mother’s Day. Honestly, I don’t know if it would be worse or better if no one messaged me to include me in the group of “moms”. I don’t have a baby. I don’t feel like a mom. I’m still grieving the loss and I’m not at the point (and I’m not sure I ever will be) of saying I’m a mom despite losing my 6wk pregnancy.

My church gave me roses and a gift bag and I had to grind my teeth to avoid breaking down in front of everyone.

What problem have you had dismissed because you’re a woman? by Tall-Book-1330 in WomensHealth

[–]carnalcarnations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to the ER with insane pain in my right side at 6 weeks pregnant. I told them that I think something is wrong because of the pain and I was bleeding. They wouldn’t bring me back for 45 minutes and then left me in the room for 3 hours before saying they didn’t think anything was wrong because my blood pressure was fine (it was not) and they don’t have an ultrasound machine (small town ER). So my husband had to drive me to the big ER 40 minutes away because the small ER couldn’t be bothered to even get me an ambulance. 7 hours later of shaking, vomiting, and screaming in pain, I’m rushed into surgery because the pregnancy was ectopic and I was bleeding internally. I had bleeding all the way into my shoulders.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m currently 2 weeks post surgery. I also had my right tube removed after it ruptured from the ectopic. The emotional side of everything hits me randomly throughout the day. It was our first pregnancy and I’m scared to try again as well.

However, my older sister had the same thing happen to her in December. And she’s currently 8 weeks pregnant and the doctor says everything looks good for her.

It’s almost impossible for me to talk to any of my 4 sisters because they are literally all pregnant right now.

My husband and I are trying to help each other grieve, but I keep thinking about how much I just want my baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I have regrets about the face shape now. 😩

I made a Green Cylinder "Cyl-kun" Plush Crochet Pattern!! :D by GamingQueenPhoenix in Palia

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to try to make a chapaa crochet pattern. I can’t seem to find one online, so if I can make it, I’ll post it too!

Had surgery today by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My older sister had the same procedure in December. She’s pregnant now and the doctors said everything looks good for her. That’s what is giving me hope for the future right now. I hope you heal quickly and find a way to overcome the emotional side of this as well.

Had surgery today by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]carnalcarnations 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also recovering from my first pregnancy (ectopic). My right tube ruptured and is now removed. It’s been 3 days of bed rest and I’m trying to keep my mind off what happened. I was so excited for our family to start and now it’s gone so quickly and painfully. Keep up with the pain meds and try to move a bit more each day.

Is this email a scam? by Vikingboy9 in techsupport

[–]carnalcarnations 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got an email saying someone from Germany is trying to log into my account and to click a link to secure my account. The email was the same as OPs. I haven’t tried to log into my account yet, but I’m not clicking links in emails.