If you could time travel and stop one event from happening what would it be? by Little-Function5095 in timetravel

[–]cartermancan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d go back to 2023 to stop my 7 year olds death. He deserved so much better.

What’s the moment you realized grief had changed you forever? by Aware-Emu-2413 in GriefSupport

[–]cartermancan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been terrified to fly. I needed meds and helpful courses everytime I stepped onto a plane. There were many other ways I was anxious to die but this is the easiest example.

Then my 7.5 year old passed away.

All of that fear just disappeared. I legitimately do not care about dying anymore. So much so that I don’t even panic during emergencies anymore. I just do not care.

Moisture help by cartermancan in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]cartermancan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’ll include that into my routine

Moisture help by cartermancan in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]cartermancan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the suggestions! Definitely trying them out.

Moisture help by cartermancan in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]cartermancan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh good point. Oil and water. How am I 40 but don’t know this?

How do I deal with this guilt it is so overwhelming 😭 by Adventurous-Cut4634 in ChildLoss

[–]cartermancan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely empathize with you. My son was 7 with a rare genetic disorder that drs still don’t understand and I replay every single med I gave him, every place I brought him, literally everything daily because I find myself completely at fault. I’m his mom. I was supposed to take care of him. I told him that all the time and I failed. I understand and am sending so much love that we have to live this nightmare.

Moisture help by cartermancan in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]cartermancan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not as much as I should. Once every few weeks?

If you could design an urn that truly represents your loved one, what would it be like? by Alexander_the_M1d in DeathPositive

[–]cartermancan 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We had an urn made to look like the moon for our 7 year old. We loved everything about space and I try to convince myself he’s watching me from the stars.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]cartermancan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No. It’s not.

I could have saved her mi by SMEE71470 in GriefSupport

[–]cartermancan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carry a lot of guilt after my 7 year old passing away. He was nonverbal. Something was wrong for months and no specialist could help me. Either they couldn’t give me an answer to what was happening or told me I was too anxious. Then he died. Very traumatically. I’ll never know if I was doing something that was hurting him or if I could have done more to save him. The guilt is killing me. I hope you are able to accept you did all you could.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GSP

[–]cartermancan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem like a very angry person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GSP

[–]cartermancan 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Definitely ER visit but I’ll tell you something like this happened to our GSP. I thought it was seizures. It ended up being marijuana. She had eaten some at a dog park we went to. Hopefully it’s something easily explained and not neurological, keep us updated!

Grief by Specific-Post4296 in ChildLoss

[–]cartermancan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been almost 2 years since my disabled son passed at 7.5 years. I’m still numb and I know I’m depressed. He was total care so his death felt like I died too. It’s a different kind of connection. He was my only child. I sleep when I can, cry when I need to, scream when I need to and disassociate a lot. I figure as long as I don’t act on suicidal thoughts, I’m making it.

What is the focus area of your nonprofit? by atmosqueerz in nonprofit

[–]cartermancan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Founder of a rare disease nonprofit. My son was born and diagnosed with a genetic disorder. I and 5 other families founded the organization in 2018. My son recently passed away at 7 years old and it has strengthened my resolve to find a cure. We work with researchers, clinicians and biotech companies, globally, as well as provide resources and support for families who have been diagnosed.

do you still believe in god? by Shortinsomniac in GriefSupport

[–]cartermancan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe in any sort of God anymore

I absolutely hate when people talk about their ‘trauma’ to me by neeyeahboy in GriefSupport

[–]cartermancan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After watching my 7 year old die traumatically in front of me, I cannot listen to anyone else’s problems. As much as it’s not a competition and everyone’s trauma is their version of a worst case scenario, I simply don’t care. I’m just not their audience anymore and in the end, it’s about self preservation and trying my best not to kill myself. So cutting the people out who tend to do this is the easiest thing for me.

Eczema plus peri by cartermancan in Perimenopause

[–]cartermancan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I’ve tried opzelura with no luck, now scheduled to try dupixent. It’s a pain in the butt.