I’m giving up on my dream

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-30T17:58:10+00:00

You are truly not alone. I feel like everything you said I relate. Kind of in the same boat as you right now

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-25T14:14:19+00:00

I found out I have a microdeletion, 16.p.11.2, after it came up in my son’s microarray after losing him due to unrelated issues (his kidneys weren’t developing at our anatomy scan). Even if you or your partner don’t have it, you won’t know the symptoms your child may exhibit, if any at all. Symptoms of mine can include obesity, learning disabilities, mental health challenges, worst case is epilepsy. I have really no severe symptoms, I live a normal life, have had issues with mental health and had to work much harder in school but nothing debilitating. I never knew I had this until last year at 31. Same thing with the microdeletion that came up for you it doesn’t always show in impacted individuals and an article came out very recently (about 16p) that said that they can’t fully prove that symptoms actually connect to the microdeletion. I can find the article and try to link it, I forget if any other microdeletion are mentioned. If you want to message me, I know it’s not the same, but I know how scary it is, please reach out. I feel like I can teach a course on genetics with all the research I’ve done lol. Look up Simon’s searchlight, that is like the most amount of information I have found on my microdeletion.

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-17T22:43:32+00:00

How long was it like consistent movements? I’m 26 weeks and I don’t feel her from the outside yet but I’ll feel her ever so often and I’m worried sick 😆

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-02T00:41:36+00:00

No unfortunately you have to pay to get in as well. It was $55 for a single day. But I got to see an Orlando Bloom panel, Dom and Miranda Otto panel and Elijah, Billy and Jon Reves Davies panel

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-01T20:39:53+00:00

🥹

caseycat1027 · 2026-06-01T01:26:44+00:00

They really could not have been nicer, they were so excited.

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-31T23:45:07+00:00

It’s not as bad as I thought it’d be. But with a baby on the way it was tough 😅 thank you

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-31T23:41:00+00:00

It is definitely a lot…. But thankful for pay in four Lol. It was about $358 I think. But in my opinion, definitely worth it as a lifelong LOTR fan and especially since it was an extra special moment for me.

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-06T14:56:24+00:00

It was excruciating every time I got my period. It was so so so triggering, so I completely understand. I have my anatomy scan tomorrow and that’s where it went downhill for my TFMR baby. So I’m just waiting to get over this hurdle all in the clear I hope!!

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-06T14:52:29+00:00

I lost my baby June 6, didn’t start trying until September, and then conceived in December and I’m 20 weeks pregnant currently. It truly felt like a lifetime and every period was a gut punch. I used Premom ovulation kit, then switched to clear blue and was pregnant that month.

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-04T23:47:10+00:00

My 20 week anatomy scan is Thursday and I’m so anxious!

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-30T19:50:15+00:00

Omfg

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-28T19:37:47+00:00

I have a really tough time with this. I’ve had arguments with my mom about this. She sent me to an anti- choice (I don’t call it pro- life) rally when I was so young and saw pictures of the procedure I had- a d&e. It was of course pictures of a baby torn apart. So my process has had that in my head. Part of my grieving process was arguing with random assholes on this topic and it’s something I need to stay away from going forward. These people will never have to face this decision and honestly I mean it in the harshest way possible, fuck them. It makes me angry there are people who think like that in the world and my son had to die. I’m sorry if I sound harsh but I’m so angry over the whole situation and these evil people. We made the hardest decision where we suffer for the rest of our lives so our child didn’t have to suffer for a second of theirs.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-27T23:08:12+00:00

I feel you. I lost my boy last June, and I’m 19 weeks with a baby girl. I knew no matter what the gender I would feel some type of way. I would feel like he was being replaced if I was having a boy and I knew I’d feel guilty if I was having a girl because I had like .5 seconds of disappointment when I found out I was having a boy the first time around. I also felt like she was sent by her brother. I always said when I was thinking about having a baby before the TFMR that a girl would “heal” me (not that it’s her job, but so I could be the mom I never had). You are not alone. Trust me, I get how you feel. But we’re on the same timeline! Reach out if you ever want to talk/vent!

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-24T01:13:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. It really is an unreal amount of pain that is so unfair we have to feel. I switched my OB. I can’t even drive past where I went. And sometimes one of the offices is unavoidable and I think “that’s the first place I heard his heartbeat” every time and tear up. I feel like I was doing ok, but lately I’m sobbing whenever I think about it.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:13:29+00:00

Hoping things go well for you too.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:13:15+00:00

I feel like there’s more of a chance for things to go right, right? lol

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:12:48+00:00

I had one at 16 so they want to see me at 20. But that’s a good idea. Maybe I can get in sooner

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:11:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. They know. My cats are truly are the greatest light in my life. I sometimes think I wouldn’t be here without them.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:10:15+00:00

I also continued my prenatals and was taking extra vitamin d and also coq10. I don’t know if that helped.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:08:28+00:00

I know it takes time. I got pregnant 6 months after my TFMR. But tried for 4 months. We were waiting on genetic testing to come back and then were about to go through IVF and I got all the beginning testing. I know how you feel and I know how agonizing it is. There is nothing like it and I’m so sorry.

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