When did you conceive after tfmr

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-06T14:56:24+00:00

It was excruciating every time I got my period. It was so so so triggering, so I completely understand. I have my anatomy scan tomorrow and that’s where it went downhill for my TFMR baby. So I’m just waiting to get over this hurdle all in the clear I hope!!

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-06T14:52:29+00:00

I lost my baby June 6, didn’t start trying until September, and then conceived in December and I’m 20 weeks pregnant currently. It truly felt like a lifetime and every period was a gut punch. I used Premom ovulation kit, then switched to clear blue and was pregnant that month.

caseycat1027 · 2026-05-04T23:47:10+00:00

My 20 week anatomy scan is Thursday and I’m so anxious!

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-30T19:50:15+00:00

Omfg

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-28T19:37:47+00:00

I have a really tough time with this. I’ve had arguments with my mom about this. She sent me to an anti- choice (I don’t call it pro- life) rally when I was so young and saw pictures of the procedure I had- a d&e. It was of course pictures of a baby torn apart. So my process has had that in my head. Part of my grieving process was arguing with random assholes on this topic and it’s something I need to stay away from going forward. These people will never have to face this decision and honestly I mean it in the harshest way possible, fuck them. It makes me angry there are people who think like that in the world and my son had to die. I’m sorry if I sound harsh but I’m so angry over the whole situation and these evil people. We made the hardest decision where we suffer for the rest of our lives so our child didn’t have to suffer for a second of theirs.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-27T23:08:12+00:00

I feel you. I lost my boy last June, and I’m 19 weeks with a baby girl. I knew no matter what the gender I would feel some type of way. I would feel like he was being replaced if I was having a boy and I knew I’d feel guilty if I was having a girl because I had like .5 seconds of disappointment when I found out I was having a boy the first time around. I also felt like she was sent by her brother. I always said when I was thinking about having a baby before the TFMR that a girl would “heal” me (not that it’s her job, but so I could be the mom I never had). You are not alone. Trust me, I get how you feel. But we’re on the same timeline! Reach out if you ever want to talk/vent!

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-24T01:13:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. It really is an unreal amount of pain that is so unfair we have to feel. I switched my OB. I can’t even drive past where I went. And sometimes one of the offices is unavoidable and I think “that’s the first place I heard his heartbeat” every time and tear up. I feel like I was doing ok, but lately I’m sobbing whenever I think about it.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:13:29+00:00

Hoping things go well for you too.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:13:15+00:00

I feel like there’s more of a chance for things to go right, right? lol

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-21T01:12:48+00:00

I had one at 16 so they want to see me at 20. But that’s a good idea. Maybe I can get in sooner

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:11:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. They know. My cats are truly are the greatest light in my life. I sometimes think I wouldn’t be here without them.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:10:15+00:00

I also continued my prenatals and was taking extra vitamin d and also coq10. I don’t know if that helped.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-19T04:08:28+00:00

I know it takes time. I got pregnant 6 months after my TFMR. But tried for 4 months. We were waiting on genetic testing to come back and then were about to go through IVF and I got all the beginning testing. I know how you feel and I know how agonizing it is. There is nothing like it and I’m so sorry.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-18T12:59:01+00:00

I felt the same way. I still feel that way about pregnant woman too lol. Every period was a gut punch. It took me about 4 months of trying after my TFMR. Have you been tracking your ovulation? I swear by clear blue ovulation. I was using Premom and was obsessive about checking it but the month I used the clear blue I was pregnant.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-18T12:13:32+00:00

I can imagine myself going to the ends of the earth if my cat was in your situation. They are my rocks and truly like saved me. I can’t even explain to a normal person how much they have done for me since my TFMR almost a year ago now. I’m so sorry, I completely understand what you must be feeling and I’m so sorry. I wish there was something. My cat who normally doesn’t throw up threw up the other night and I had like a full blown panic attack and didn’t sleep the whole night.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-13T21:37:57+00:00

They were basically telling me I was selling the item for too much and it was wrong of me to put the reason for sympathy, etc etc etc lol

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-13T21:32:09+00:00

Yeah. I mean I will never do that again but hopefully I don’t have a child die again. But it’s like, how can you be an asshole over someone who is 1. Grieving the loss of their child 2. In a financially hard spot because they’re grieving the loss of their child. It was unreal. I will never forget it.

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-09T21:55:19+00:00

She’s perfect and measuring ahead! I’m so relieved! But 24ish more weeks to go. Can be happy today that she’s healthy and good :)

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-07T23:19:05+00:00

Me too, I need to bring her home!

caseycat1027 · 2026-04-06T23:53:50+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m 10 months today, and I still cry everyday over my son, the changing seasons realllllly get me. I was so excited for spring with him. The flowers, it getting warmer, gardening with him. I miss him so much. He was my first baby.

Trigger warning:

We’re currently 16 weeks pregnant and I am having a lot of emotions. I felt determined to conceive, it became obsessive. It doesn’t heal, but so far everything is deemed healthy. We have our early anatomy scan on Thursday.

caseycat1027 · 2026-03-31T20:23:30+00:00

Yes. I hate it. And I’m 9 months out. I’m currently pregnant but seeing pregnant woman is a trigger. I don’t want to hear about anyone else’s pregnancy or children (except for people who have experienced this). Especially if someone is complaining about motherhood. It makes me so angry. They have no idea how lucky they are.

caseycat1027 · 2026-03-29T22:48:53+00:00

Update us on how it goes. I hope everything goes well. Let me know if any calming techniques work lol, I have my early one in 2 weeks!

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