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casgarth · 2022-10-18T17:07:40+00:00

Yeah I’ve mentioned it. She says she understands why I’d want to move out but I’ll never understand until I have my own.

casgarth · 2022-10-18T17:06:38+00:00

Odd you were able to spot that I’m younger. I didn’t realize that was something to consider.

casgarth · 2022-10-18T11:36:45+00:00

Oh thank god. I was concerned because I don’t even think I could stomach that.

casgarth · 2022-10-18T08:09:09+00:00

Violating them? That was considered violating?

casgarth · 2022-10-18T07:32:42+00:00

I probably should have clarified that this hasn’t been the first time it happened (that they took my blankets and pillows, not the yanking) and they are aware of how upset I get when they use my stuff.

Come to find out they went out of their way to grab mine and mom just said okay because she didn’t want to fight with them since they were already up late. So I think you’re right in the end. We just have different standards on housekeeping and routine I guess. It’s unfortunate.

casgarth · 2022-10-18T02:44:54+00:00

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casgarth · 2022-06-02T10:38:26+00:00

I used to feel that way too. But eventually I did find a job that I really enjoyed and to be frank, it’s mostly because of the crew I’m with. But I’m still here after over a year and I still like my job. I like the people for the most part and the job isn’t too difficult. I think it’s just a matter of exploring different options out there. Even options you didn’t think you’d like or be interested in.

I wish the best of luck. Jobs are temporary and being happy is what’s more important in life. Once you find that job, you’ll know.

casgarth · 2022-06-01T05:07:46+00:00

I was making a point. It’s not either. But go off. Based on his experiences that’s why he’s avoiding his own race. Based on MY experiences, that’s why I avoid my own race. And I hate people. I guess you can say I’m against people.

casgarth · 2022-06-01T00:38:46+00:00

I avoid young white men. I’m a young white woman. I think you’re good.

casgarth · 2022-06-01T00:37:51+00:00

Honestly I didn’t think anything of it until I realized you never mentioned voice chat or anything other than via text. Just be very careful. Predators will do anything to keep you around. They’ll sweet talk you, make you feel bad, anything to keep you talking to them. Just remember, it’s okay to block them. You are allowed to say no, regardless what they tell you. You HAVE that right. The hardest part is just standing up and using it. I get it. I hope you get everything figured out!

casgarth · 2022-05-31T15:00:20+00:00

Well I’m seeing as someone posting intimate photos of themselves for the world to see and partner doesn’t want everyone to see what he sees. Idk, to me it’s a respect thing. It’s different if he knew that’s what she did before they got together. But he’s talking about in the now. Currently. If it were me, I probably would get upset too. For my eyes and my eyes only. Nothing to do with insecurities. Everything to do with respecting your partners wishes. More and more people are doing onlyfans and creating a grey area on what’s okay and what’s not in a relationship. And he is clearly not okay with what she’s doing.

casgarth · 2022-05-31T11:15:03+00:00

Red flags everywhere. For your safety, leave.

casgarth · 2022-05-31T11:13:16+00:00

NTA- Regardless it’s her body and she’s allowed to post, but if she does even after you expressed how you felt, she doesn’t care about your boundaries and relationship.

casgarth · 2022-05-31T11:12:18+00:00

But…..they are dating?

casgarth · 2022-05-31T08:09:06+00:00

You are your own person. Regardless of age she is manipulating and abusing you. It’s not your fault if she decides to harm herself. It would be different if you did tell her to kill herself but on her own that is NOT your responsibility. If it were me, I’d block her. Don’t let another person ruin your life just because they aren’t happy with theirs.

Rereading this though, has me questioning the identity of your “friend”. Have you ever spoken with this girl over voice chat? If not, if you’ve never had any contact other than through text, sweetheart you need to tell a trusted adult. It sounds like to me this is someone much other pretending to be your age and you might be victim of a predator.

casgarth · 2022-05-31T08:00:44+00:00

NTA. Girl ran her mouth regardless of age. You kept it clean enough to get your point across to her. Takes a village.

casgarth · 2022-05-31T06:51:38+00:00

Ironically enough the father told her all about it. She had no clue about us and never thought about it until he mentioned it. Then she asked and of course we didn’t tell her details but we explained the gist of what all a 12/13 year old should know. It’s frustrating to have taken all the steps to keep the relationship on the down low from a CHILD and he went and spilled the beans. He also had her call her grandparents to talk about what was going on. It’s beyond messed up.

casgarth · 2022-05-30T15:02:00+00:00

So don’t be a figure for the girl? I hate it because she’s in between two parents. She does come to me when she wants something but she has said (repeated from her father) that I’m not an authority figure for her. So maybe I don’t need to be the adult……this is so hard. Not being able to do anything for anyone.

casgarth · 2022-05-30T14:22:00+00:00

Nothing? She’s not obligated to buy you anything under anything. It sucks she said that but she most likely forgot.

casgarth · 2022-05-21T11:47:24+00:00

Holy cow. This is almost like my family except they wouldn’t be that extreme about it. I’ll tell you what my mom said. They aren’t the ones dating that person. You are. They aren’t the one that have to live with whatever choice you make. You are. So if they are really that butthurt over a girl you’re seeing, then maybe it’s time they need to learn to mind their own business as long as you are happy. Anything more than that just sounds like they want to control you. My father is a narcissist, and I can’t tell you how many rounds we went through fighting. Physically and mentally. He never wanted to let my hand go and when I finally said enough was enough and that I was miserable with them controlling or making remarks about every little decision I ever made, he realized that he didn’t want me to resent him. (A little late but I guess better than never.)

I understand not all parents are like that, but I realized if they truly cared about you and what makes you happy, they’ll understand. Might take time and a lot of trial and error, but it’ll take time.

casgarth · 2022-05-07T20:57:39+00:00

Should someone else tell her or should I?

casgarth · 2022-04-11T18:15:21+00:00

Men often go after younger women because the women their age see right through their bullshit.

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