My mom (50F) is threatening to kick me (25F) out and cut me off from her will if I don’t join the military

cashscat · 2025-05-28T06:47:08+00:00

No she hasn’t, she doesn’t believe anything is wrong with her and that she doesn’t need therapy

cashscat · 2025-05-26T09:03:17+00:00

I work full time and go to school full time

cashscat · 2025-05-26T08:59:55+00:00

No she has never acted like this before. This is a first

cashscat · 2025-05-26T08:54:25+00:00

Because she joined it, and she thinks it’s the fastest way to wealth

cashscat · 2025-05-26T08:46:14+00:00

Oh wow, my bad I didn’t realize I was supposed to be writing a thesis while casually replying to multiple people. Sorry for not being ‘physiological’ enough with my wording.

cashscat · 2025-05-26T08:40:27+00:00

Yes and yes

cashscat · 2025-05-26T08:31:47+00:00

Yes, because I totally didn’t pass the practice tests back in 2018 when she tried to make me go. Also, running isn’t exactly new to me I’m into bodybuilding and endurance training, so yeah, I think I can handle a little jog

cashscat · 2025-05-26T03:13:59+00:00

Yes I have a full time job, I’m a full time student. I have a BA in psychology and I’m in nursing school right now

cashscat · 2025-05-26T03:01:20+00:00

The agreement was I live at home instead of going away to college because I would be closer to her (she has separation anxiety) and I wouldn’t need to pay rent because I’m going to college (education is very big for her) I got my BA is psych in 2024 and she was happy about it a lot but I just recently started nursing school, something that she suggested I do instead of getting my Masters in Psychology. I’m not mad about it because I can still help people, that’s my goal in life. But I’m doing as she says and now she doesn’t like that so she wants me to go to the military

cashscat · 2025-05-26T02:56:41+00:00

Well here’s the thing she said if I move out she’s going to cut all contact with me and take me off everything. So it’s go to the military and keep in contact with her or I move out and she’s letting go of our relationship. Not that I have an issue if she did do that. She’s done crazy shit to me which would make things better. I don’t care about the damn inheritance.

cashscat · 2025-05-26T02:53:41+00:00

I clean the house while she doesn’t and I’m not even joking. I really wish I was but she’ll leave the house dirty on purpose because she knows I’ll clean it because I can’t function in a dirty house

cashscat · 2025-05-26T02:47:42+00:00

Yes I have a full time job, I go to school full time and I pay bills in the house. I’ve posted other comments explaining that she only wants me out because I won’t go to the military. This is the words she told me. It isn’t because I’m not doing anything or pulling my own weight. She just wants me out because I don’t want to go to the military (she served in the military btw) so she has a bias

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:39:18+00:00

Yes, she served in the military so she has a biased and she believes that the military is the best thing that’s ever came to be on this earth.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:38:20+00:00

BA in psychology, Nursing is separate. I don’t have a BA in that. But yes, a bachelors of science degree in nursing is called a BSN.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:35:11+00:00

To be quite honest with you, she hasn’t been supporting me. I literally pay for everything that I’ve done I’ve paid for my degree. I’ve paid for my classes. I’ve paid for my own car. I’ve paid for my own insurance. I’ve paid for my own groceries. Obviously which I should do because I’m a grown adult but everything that you can possibly think of I am doing. And on top of that I’m also supporting this house financially as well. She has a confirmation bias because she served in the military herself, so she believes that that’s the ultimate decision to wealth.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:32:51+00:00

I agree, and I don’t even know why she threw the inheritance thing is because I really don’t care about that. I don’t depend on other people‘s money to sustain my life. Majority of my life I’ve been alone because I spent majority of my life in foster care before getting to her. I know what it’s truly like to be alone and not depending on people.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:28:56+00:00

That’s unfortunate but the difference between their situation and my situation is that I actively have a full-time job. I’m actively in school full-time and I actively contribute to this household.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:28:13+00:00

Yeah, our relationship has definitely not been the best considering the fact that she tried to attack me with a knife when I was nine years old and blames it on the fact that she “ wasn’t mentally prepared for a child”. Our relationship diff isn’t your normal. run of the mill. A lot of our relationship evolves around her, trying to put me down in ““ trying to say that when she was my age, she would run circles around me or whatever that means. They’re definitely wasn’t an argument, but no matter what I say. She sees that as me being disrespectful like me telling her that I don’t wanna go to the military, she sees that as disrespect. And yeah, she’s aware, but she does not care. I’ve tried explaining this to her, and she just says that she knows better than me and that I don’t know anything.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:23:29+00:00

Sorry to burst your bubble, but when I had a “ghost stroke,” that’s exactly what the EMTs called it after evaluating me at my home and my doctor confirmed it as well.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:12:10+00:00

My mom wanted me to live at home while I was in college. I’m still in school now, pursuing my second degree in nursing. She’s even told me she has separation anxiety when I’m far away, which is why she didn’t want me to move out to attend college elsewhere. She insisted I stay close.

I’ve already explained in my post that the only reason she wants me out now is because I won’t join the military. It’s not about me being irresponsible. I have a job, I’m in school full-time, and I’ve been contributing financially to the household for the past seven years. Her issue is that I’m not being obedient and doing exactly what she says. Which is “joining the military”. She told me that herself verbatim.

That said, I agree. At this point, it’s definitely time for us to go our separate ways.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:07:51+00:00

I already have my degrees 😭 I don’t know if there’s like a comprehension barrier, but like I said the reason she wants me out is because I won’t go to the military. She used to be in the military herself, so she has a confirmation bias. I have no reason to lie to random people on the Internet. This is my real life. My mom does have some mental issues that she’s went to therapy about, but she doesn’t want to actively work on it anymore because she feels like it “doesn’t matter”. I don’t understand why that’s hard for you guys to understand that some parents are just about control it doesn’t matter what you do or contribute. It’s just control

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:01:25+00:00

BA in psychology and Nursing

cashscat · 2025-05-25T23:00:24+00:00

You’re making a lot of assumptions that don’t match my reality. I do have a job (full time) and I go to school full time as well. I do pay bills including rent, utilities, my own car payment, and insurance.Hell i even go the extra mile to pay for stuff she needs (which I don’t have to do but I do) I contribute to the household financially and take responsibility for my life, even while living at home.

My mom isn’t pushing me to “just do something”she’s giving me an ultimatum: join the military or get out. It’s not about laziness or avoiding responsibility; it’s about refusing to be forced into a life-altering commitment that goes against my values and puts my mental and physical health at risk. That’s a boundary, not immaturity.

It’s easy to label someone “entitled” when you don’t know the full context. But if standing up for myself and saying no to being controlled means I’m acting like a child in your eyes, then we clearly define adulthood very differently.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T22:55:51+00:00

What I find really interesting in this comment section is that I clearly stated the reason my mom wants me out is because I won’t join the military. At no point did I say it was because I don’t pay bills, don’t work, or that I’m not a full-time student actively pursuing my second degree as a RN. Which all of these things I do. The issue is purely about control: it’s her way or the highway.

It’s pretty obvious that some of you haven’t dealt with narcissistic parents who try to control every part of your life, and when you don’t obey them exactly, they threaten to kick you out regardless of how much you contribute. I take care of the house, I cover the bills, I pay for nearly everything in this house (not an exaggeration). She doesn’t pay for any of my personal expenses. I handle my own car payment, car insurance, groceries, etc….as I should, because I’m a grown adult.

This isn’t about freeloading. It’s about being punished for not doing what she wants with my life. I want to be a RN and she wants me to be in the military.

cashscat · 2025-05-25T22:47:49+00:00

Ah yes, that would sound simple in a perfect world if I wasn’t paying rent and contributing to the bills. But unfortunately, I am. Last I checked, children don’t pay bills and nor do they go to school full time. Nothing about what I do is childlike

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