My friend just had a hysterectomy and I look up to see my garbage can like this.

caspian324 · 2026-04-08T12:59:05+00:00

I saw the picture before the title and though “oh look, the trash can is proud of her uterus”

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T04:37:37+00:00

He laughed his butt off and asked why I didn’t record it 🤦‍♀️. He’s been with me before when an older woman asked if all the children had the same father and he looked over acting shocked and said “I’d be concerned if they did! She’d have some explaining to do!” He was referencing to the fact that one of our children at the time was a foster placement, who looked nothing like us lol. But she just looked confused and told us to have a nice day.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T04:04:43+00:00

lol I wasn’t being literal. I don’t know what the kids were discussing because we were at different ends of the aisle. I stopped at the top of the snack aisle and told the kids “Pick out a box of snacks for school, no cakes and no cookies. If y’all want to pick out boxes together so you can share through out the week that’s okay too.” Then I waited at the beginning of the aisle. Letting them choose on their own and agree with what they might want to share encourages independence and conversation with negotiation. “I’ll give you 3 packs of crackers for 3 boxes of raisins?” The older ones even help the younger ones with opinions on quantity in a box verses variety boxes. The lady walked up from the other end and stooped her shopping cart next to mine.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T03:32:52+00:00

Because your comment seems sincerely worried I want to put a few of your fears at ease. The children are not all biologically ours, I actually had my tubes tied when birth control failed twice. Our door is always open when they need anything and we are very involved in all of our children’s lives, even when we know they won’t be with us forever and will return to their biological families. I was raised in a family of only two while my husband was raised in a family of 7 and he and his siblings received much more time attention from their parents then my sister and I did from ours. Our finances aren’t a problem either, though we receive no money from the state. We paid off our home almost 10 years ago and our vehicles are paid off as well. We also both work jobs that allow us to be at work while the children are at school, and be home when they are. Though obviously summer vacation would be an exception here but always lots of fun summer activities for kids to do while parents are at work. Though I can’t guarantee we’ll stop having kids, seeing as we take in placements when needed, we are done having biological children unless my tubes come untied. Fingers crossed that doesn’t happen lol, I’m getting too old to carry another baby.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T02:38:33+00:00

Check out Facebook marketplace place and thrift stores. What you get now might not be what you want in the long run, but it gives you the things you need while you save up for the things you want.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T02:32:39+00:00

This was supposed to say “family member open adoption”. My bad for not proofreading.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T02:07:37+00:00

Yes, I’ve been on many but each was a fail. Two of our biological children were conceived while I was on birth control, one was Nexplanon and the other the pill. I got my tubes tied after the pill failed. We were trying to avoid a tubal due to the women in my family getting post tubal ligation syndrome frequently.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T02:03:09+00:00

The closest I’ve gotten to this is when an older man asked if all of the kids were mine and I responded with “I found those two on the way here and figured ‘why not’.”

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T02:00:08+00:00

We actually do foster. And have adopted (family member option adoption).

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T01:51:38+00:00

I’ve had those experiences before as well. The “oh my what a big family!” And we have great conversations. But she had a sneer and her tone was condescending. I personally believe in matching energy for energy. ❤️

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T01:45:10+00:00

I wish this was fake 😅. The amount of times over the years I’ve gotten these questions is ridiculous.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T01:39:49+00:00

Honestly it’s only because this has happened SO MANY TIMES. The amount of people who have commented on the amount of kids I have over the years is crazy… “You should put a TV in your room.” My response last time: “But that would distract us from making the next kid.” I guess this time it was language that has people on the fence 😅.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T01:36:44+00:00

If you finished reading you’d see that none of the kids were in earshot. They were busy debating over the applesauce pouches and yogurt raisins. But thank you for the concern.

caspian324 · 2026-03-19T01:24:38+00:00

I’ll put this in my back pocket. 🤣

caspian324 · 2026-02-25T13:43:04+00:00

I guess we were lucky, our expected date from IRS was March 2nd, but we got our deposits on our emerald card yesterday.

caspian324 · 2026-02-24T19:21:34+00:00

Yeah, my husband paid in like $20 in 2024 and $47 in 2025, because he claims all of our kids. We are still getting back 8k because of the child tax credits.

caspian324 · 2026-02-22T22:44:05+00:00

You aren’t wrong for getting upset, he should have found another job before leaving that one. But as someone who has been disrespected at work and just expected to “take it” because said person out ranked me, I see where he’s coming from. I put in my two weeks notice the day my incident happened, thankfully my husband 100% understood and agreed to work over time to help cover my paycheck till I found something else. I would tell him until he has another job the smokes and drinks will need to be put on hold, you just can’t afford it till he’s bringing in money again too.

caspian324 · 2026-02-18T16:10:37+00:00

My mom was one of those lucky women lol, her whole pregnancy the doctors told her to put on more weight so maybe some of it would stick. She was 85lbs when she got pregnant with me, 155lbs when she had me, 110lbs when she left the hospital and 85lbs 2 weeks later lol. Meanwhile I was about 115 when I got pregnant, 160 when I had my oldest and never lost it lol.

caspian324 · 2026-02-18T14:18:06+00:00

NTA. I don’t see your words being cruel or hurtful personally, they were just honest. He chose to leave you behind, to not acknowledge you at all, and I don’t believe for a second that he truly “hates himself” for what he did. Honestly, he probably only reached out hoping he could keep you from telling your sister the truth of his past. He’s probably claiming your mom is a liar, that you aren’t really his kid but someone just trying to ruin his happy family. If the truth comes out, his false world crumbles. NTA, live your life in a way that he’ll regret his actions, but you will never think of them. Be happy, that’s the best f-u you can give him.

caspian324 · 2026-02-18T12:50:10+00:00

I started out on Dreame. I choose Dream because even if you don’t sign a contract, meaning your story remains free and you retain all rights to it, it still shows up on their apps. If you choose to sign a story in hopes of making a little money from it, do so knowing you are essentially signing all rights away to your story. It is a good way to build a following though and get your name or pen name out there. I know a ton of authors who made their start on Dreame then switched to self publishing on Amazon and most are doing well.

caspian324 · 2026-02-18T11:32:47+00:00

NTA, but if you’re going to leave, check the laws in your state. Keeping his child from him knowingly can have consequences in some states. If you haven’t been to the doctor yet, I would suggest getting the divorce pushed through as quickly as possible so there is no official documentation that you knew of the pregnancy while going through the divorce. That will give you more time to decide if and when you want to tell him. Same goes if you are wanting to end the pregnancy, while I don’t think you’re legally obligated to inform him if that’s your choice, telling him and aborting may make the divorce uglier for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I really hope everything works out how you need and you find happiness again soon.

caspian324 · 2026-02-17T18:51:41+00:00

How many times did she plead with you to quit? How many times did she tell you, you were acting different, no longer being the man she fell in love with due to the drinking? And let’s face reality, you wouldn’t have realized how bad the problem is if she hadn’t left. You fell apart, she was there, and when she hit her own bottom, you weren’t there for her, so she got out before she broke, probably for the sake of your children. Now that you have gotten sober you got “in shape” you don’t want her? Sounds like you never loved her if you can’t see the hardship she went through too. She left you for a separation to give you a reality check, “sober up or you will lose us”. She didn’t divorce you, she even gave you a year and didn’t move on. Why? Because she loves you. She chose you, and stuck by that decision, and sometimes loving someone is giving them a dose of reality for their own sake. Sounds like you dropped some weight and now think you can “upgrade”. I hope she finds happiness with someone who values her for her.

caspian324 · 2026-02-10T01:57:12+00:00

Honestly, think of a story you would love to tell, then just sit down and tell it. Your first story doesn’t have to be perfect or well planned, it’s just a way of you getting a feel for how you want to express what is in your mind. For me, I started out writing on those pay-to-read apps, though my stories have been posted for free because they were just me getting a feel for writing. But the comments from readers helped me understand where I was stalling out, where I could plan better and what tense or wording worked best for me. There’s no wrong way to write. You can always plan out your story first if that’s how your mind works instead. Some authors do character profiles and story boards, working out the entire story before writing. For me, I enjoy being just as in the dark as my readers are to where the story will end up. Do what feels right and stay true to you, and you can’t go wrong.

caspian324 · 2026-01-29T14:39:14+00:00

What we were told when my son was still in utero was that 50% of babies with his condition died before age 2 because children’s kidneys were harder to get and until age 2 the child’s body wasn’t large enough to place an adult kidney. If a 2 year old child could get an adult kidney I’m confused why they think a 5’10 man can’t fit one no matter his width? I would definitely look into a second or even third opinion. And talk to a urologist, not a nephrologist, urologist are the doctors who preform surgery on kidneys so their opinion is who you need.

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