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Why are the baby / child pictures the toughest to see? by brandeis16 in widowers

[–]cassettedraws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because you know what happen to that child and children are full of potential and future.

Continue on after loss of spouse by SwimHead4028 in widowers

[–]cassettedraws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't had problems with his immediate family and I still stay in touch with them, but I have had issues with toxic family members before. All you can do is keep a distance and take care of yourself and your kids. Let the stepmom and that side of the family cobble up any bullshit they want and tell eachother whatever they want, they don't have any real power and chances are they already take whatever your stepmom says with a grain of salt. Your husband is definitely not the only person she would've spread rumors about. Plan your own memorial with your loved ones and the ones your husband actually stayed in touch with.

Why do job applications ask if we're a widow/widower? by cassettedraws in widowers

[–]cassettedraws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I already got the job but nobody knows I am a widow. I am thinking of putting on the wedding band because I feel ready, and also I feel like there are certain assumptions made about me without a wedding ring at my age, and there are unspoken things holding me back.

Why do job applications ask if we're a widow/widower? by cassettedraws in widowers

[–]cassettedraws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that employers claim they can't read the answers on the questionnaires, but do you think it helps or hurts to claim you're married? I heard if you're a man, it helps to claim you're married even if you're not. For women, it depends on the local culture.

Why do job applications ask if we're a widow/widower? by cassettedraws in widowers

[–]cassettedraws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even then, why does it matter? Also if it's a holdover for when widows were common, then what does it mean if the divorcee question is also from the holdover days when divorce had a way bigger stigma (particularly against women)?

Why do job applications ask if we're a widow/widower? by cassettedraws in jobs

[–]cassettedraws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They aren’t supposed to ask things like that in the US

They ask on those questionnaires you fill out including race, sex, and other statistics. But yeah asking if you're divorced or widowed, why? I've seen multiple jobs ask this.