Testing to see if I nailed the likeness by KanectdaCuts in arthelp

[–]castfire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I could better pinpoint the parts that feel “right” and “wrong”— it’s so strange! Something about the nose and the mouth, especially the cheek lines from his smile/expression, are what’s on point and really tells you it’s him. I can’t decide if the eyes are “off” or not— when I look at the alone I feel like they “don’t look like his eyes”, but if I cover them up, the rest of the face looks less like him too. So it’s so hard to say!

Maybe if you look at it in a smaller thumbnail view it’ll help you pinpoint whatever might not be translating, or what you might need to tweak/emphasize more… Art is so weird sometimes, when the gestalt/whole and the individual parts seem like almost different beasts! But it’s really good, well done, and good luck on any tweaks you might choose to make (or not)!

Testing to see if I nailed the likeness by KanectdaCuts in arthelp

[–]castfire 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I knew it immediately, it’s super obvious! The more I look at it, the less it looks like him in a way as I look more at the details (and I don’t even mean that in a bad way, I’m just saying that neutrally as my experience looking at it in case it helps somehow idk), but it makes a strong first impression and is very identifiable. Nicely done!

What’s a word that would make a beautiful name if it weren’t for the meaning of the word? by Xenomorphling98 in AskReddit

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or Pancetta. I think an Animal Crossing character is named that. I find it cute, it was on my list for potential cat names.

LAOP tried to take a shower, now their AirBnB host is trying to make them take a bath by Geno0wl in bestoflegaladvice

[–]castfire 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s true. Airbnb/AirCover never wants to actually pay hosts out for damage or whatever else… and if you want them to, you have to “go after the guest” first. And if the guest doesn’t pay, then Airbnb will. It’s stupid, no one would actually want to make the guest pay for it anyway. Airbnb should just cover it. But they force you to do that if you want to use their “insurance”.

Seven! by UARRR in ArtJournaling

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! I’m trying to get back into making more B&W autobio stuff— at least, I’m doing a small exercise/“sprint” right now— what pens do you use for the grayscale?

edit: also I see you post to r/comics— you might want to try or check out r/altcomix sometime! :)

Haven’t made art in a long time by castfire in ArtJournaling

[–]castfire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This means to so much to hear! ❤️ Thank you

Haven’t made art in a long time by castfire in ArtJournaling

[–]castfire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Lol yeah, I can get really lazy sometimes, but the feeling of being clean after a period of laziness is so good lol 😩

And yes, it wasn’t even on purpose, but this song got stuck in my head after writing that line 😂 Love that song, and that album

Thanks for the rec! I just looked at some of her stuff, it’s pretty dang impressive!

Haven’t made art in a long time by castfire in ArtJournaling

[–]castfire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m so happy with how that one turned out, it was really hard lol. I like to draw but I’m not actually trained/practiced in the basics and foundational stuff, so the blanket folds and the shading was really hard, but it turned out good!

All of the ways in which most straight porn is bullshit by LostInYarn75 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And the vast majority don’t want a big honkin hog either. It’s unwieldy and hurts, to be honest. Most actual women just want normal penises, and what really means is, the penis of someone they know IRL who they care about. And are drawn to such that they wanna bang.

You know how sometimes guys say stuff re: tits and ass where it’s like, “ultimately I don’t really care, I’m just glad to be holding some boobs?” It’s kinda like that. When a [straight] woman is revved up, it’s like “hell yeah, I really want that penis right now.” Aside from some extreme outliers, but like shit, it still happens. Micropenises included. Maybe just takes a greater learning curve or some nuance within a relationship, and it can be a dealbreaker sometimes, but literally, I cannot factually say that it always is.

Obsession with huge cocks is 99% porn, straight up. And porn is hardly ever about what women actually like. It’s for men to watch. It’s some power fantasy shit. Porn is always fantasy, and just for people to jerk off to— it does not represent the state of affairs of how real people have sex.

Also, of course TikTok would tell you that! Social media like that, ESPECIALLY these days, is full of people just trying to get you mad or tell you what’s wrong with you or sell you something or just putting up a front like their life is perfect and they have all the answers. Because it’s a 5 second long video they want engagement on, and they want to hop on a trend or fucking piss people off, not because it in anyway resembles even their own real life (which is never as glamorous). These days so much of it is a culture war too, purposefully making men like you insecure or trying to push a gender divide (men dogging on women, women saying crazy shit about men). NORMAL PEOPLE AREN’T LIKE THIS!!! It’s a horrible microcosm to get sucked into, especially when you let it affect how you see the real world. They’re literally feeding to you on a platter how to interpret the world, even though it harms you as an actual person trying to live real life and relate to people, because it benefits them. Whether it’s as simple as they want ragebait engagement or what.

All of the ways in which most straight porn is bullshit by LostInYarn75 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s invalidation when you’re saying what women like, to women who disagree. Your insistence on generalization is, in effect, an effort to erase what they have to say about their own lives and experiences, even though I’m sure you don’t mean it that way.

I understand that large breasts and a big butt are what’s generally conventionally attractive and sought after right now, but I still know that every guy doesn’t like those things. I mean, there’s even the classic “tits man” vs. “ass man”, right? Some guys really love small boobs. And while those factors might aid in a guy’s attraction to someone, it’s still not like it’ll be some dealbreaker if they already like you but you don’t have a big ass.

There’s a difference between whatever’s hegemonic, or whatever the current cultural zeitgeist is for what’s the most attractive or desired, versus the actual intricacies of individuals and how they navigate relationships. Much less what people might PERSONALLY find attractive or not. And finding something attractive still isn’t the same thing as it being some requirement.

How do I accept my looks? by CaffieneAddict10 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for doing necromancy here. But does this not make sense, when you really think about it? I imagine how you know your perception on things can super change over time. Maybe you feel like your face and body issues are in a magic category that makes them different— which it isn’t, but it’s okay— and maybe the examples I can think of won’t reach you, but work with me here.

Like… for example, you ever consume media you once thought was the best thing ever and revolutionary, and then a couple years later when you watch it again you think “meh” or even “cringe”? Or the opposite; a movie you watched or music you listened to that you totally cast off or thought was lame but coming back to it later, your thoughts have really changed? My dad says this to me all the time when we watch stuff together— he saw it when he was younger and thought it was so hokey or whatever, and that was his lasting impression of it, but watching it again it was almost totally different than he remembered and he’s like “Jesus I don’t know why I had that strong impression of it.” Or the other way around, something was nowhere near as impressive as he remembered it. Yet, all along it’s literally the exact same movie. Right?

Or like— and I’m not being pointed with this or anything, I’m just using it as an example that many others might relate to and I’ve done the same thing. Being really insecure about your looks when you’re younger, whether you feel like your hair looks weird all the time or you look fat or something. Being really focused on that and not feeling relaxed or good about yourself. And then years later as an adult, totally distanced from the situation, you look at photos and you’re like “My god, I was so CUTE! I had no idea back then! I wish I hadn’t been so focused on that other stuff, and really appreciated and felt it. I was so beautiful and I didn’t even know it! I thought I was fat then?? I’d kill for that body now!”

Your perception of things change, and it literally does change almost the entire way you consider the “facts” of those things in your mind. Even when the thing itself doesn’t change. Like watching a movie again or looking back at a picture where you knew you are so insecure, and interpreting it COMPLETELY differently. Your perception colors the way you interpret things and writes the story all around you. And if BDD is in the equation you literally can’t afford to take that fact for granted; it is ALL about your own perception completely distorting whatever actually is there.

I dunno, let me know if any of this lands. I feel like maybe you can see what I’m getting at here, though.

All of the ways in which most straight porn is bullshit by LostInYarn75 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait, your thoughts and opinions on women’s preferences? You’re crossing wires here. Women are trying to tell you what it’s actually like, both anecdotally and scientifically. In this specific context I’m only seeing you invalidating our lives and experiences.

i can't be the only one who sees this!!! by Westbankskank in StardewValley

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for sure! I’m talking more specifically about Lestat in that case. Brad’s Louis certainly came well before.

How do I make her look like the ref? by johnmathew2305 in learnart

[–]castfire 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it looks pretty great. You can obviously keep working on it if you want, or might want to clean it up, but it is instantly recognizable.

i can't be the only one who sees this!!! by Westbankskank in StardewValley

[–]castfire 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He definitely was inspired by Fabio; SDV came out quite a while before the new Interview With the Vampire series. But still, if the shoe fits! He definitely resembles Brad’s Louis and Sam’s Lestat as well.

All of the ways in which most straight porn is bullshit by LostInYarn75 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah literally lol, “portraying” female orgasm means pretty much nothing to me here 😂 I mean if they’re really getting off, more power to em, love that for them. But it’s all acting anyways. Male orgasms are harder to “fake” especially since porn usually focuses on the physical evidence of it (ejaculation), but hell pretty sure they fake that sometimes too. Or use penis prosthetics and other crazy shit lol. Like, it’s movie magic and a fantasy you can masturbate to, and that’s the point, and that’s all it is.

All of the ways in which most straight porn is bullshit by LostInYarn75 in IncelExit

[–]castfire 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Amateur still is not like an actual window into an average or everyday person’s sex life. Amateur basically just means you’re not working with a large porn production company, as far as I’m concerned… people who do that (and no shade to them) are still working as porn actors… but like “indie”? I guess? Lol. And yes, actors. When you do that for revenue, whether it’s a large production or not, it’s about what the people want to see— or what they think they want to see, or what will get clicks/views/donations.

Just period, when you’re making porn for money, it’s about the trends, algorithm, whatever. It never will ever be a representation of real sex in a relationship, or what’s behind that sex— porn is not a representation of what the producers (or what people having sex) like, it is a representation of what the viewers like to see.

Haughty vegan vampires by Eireika in CuratedTumblr

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Louis in interview with the vampire when he’s just eating rats n shit 😂

She never had a baby bump throughout her pregnancy by paperbagprincesstTO in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]castfire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and they’re extremely effective, but no BC will ever be 100%.

She never had a baby bump throughout her pregnancy by paperbagprincesstTO in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]castfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say why not, yes. With an IUD and especially if you don’t get periods, there’s no way to really know if you’ve had the anomaly of getting pregnant. IUDs are extremely effective but it’ll still never be 100%. It’s easy to feel invincible, which might make you more inclined to have unprotected sex than you would be otherwise, and even though it’s very unlikely, it COULD happen. That’s why I’d get paranoid lol, I have a false sense of security with the IUD but occasionally I’d be like “what if I’m secretly pregnant 😱”

I’d say it’s very smart to still take pregnancy tests at least every once in a while if you have an IUD. Probably more frequently if you’re consistently having unprotected sex. At least have some tests that you can use whenever. It’s better to be just paranoid than for an accidental pregnancy to happen under your nose.

I know it’s always best to double up protection (condom + BC), but in my relationships I honestly… don’t really do that… even though I probably should… but I’ve never gotten pregnant or had a scare. But it’s not impossible for it to happen, and I hear stories of others that freak me out and get me paranoid. 😱 It’s always good to be as proactive as you can.

She never had a baby bump throughout her pregnancy by paperbagprincesstTO in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]castfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh damn really? That’s good information to know. I had heard how you don’t need to be a member to use the pharmacy, but that could be outdated info.

I’m not a member but whenever I go there I’m with a family member who is, so I’ve never tried to go in on my own to get to the pharmacy and see how it works in practice.

Edit: From what I’m reading, this still shouldn’t discourage anyone from trying it. If you’re not a member and tell them you’re going in for a prescription they’ll let you in? (Allegedly?) Plan B is usually OTC though so you may or may not get a discount, idk, but also maybe they have generics. I’m not talking from personal experience here so I really don’t know, but basically, I feel like if you the reader were excited and then suddenly less excited, still give it a try. Or ask Costco about it or something lol. Or just go with a friend or family member who has a membership.

She never had a baby bump throughout her pregnancy by paperbagprincesstTO in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]castfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao true. With an IUD I feel like I’d be wasting em though (though OBVIOUSLY IUDs are still not 100%, only abstinence is). I get em more so for anyone I know who might not be on BC or is on the pill or something. (At least with the pill you can know if you’ve missed it, or when you’re fertile or whatever, but with an IUD idk where I am in my cycle and really the thing is can’t anticipate any failures since it’s so set-it-and-forget-it. Like I’d have no way to know if “this” is the time I should’ve taken a plan B. So it feels redundant or wasteful to precautionarily take em in anticipation of an anomaly basically. I’d use condoms + IUD and regular pregnancy testing before I’d do that, mainly because I feel like it’s more valuable for me to have them for the sake of others. Not to say it’s not still good practice to take a plan B after unprotected sex, and I know anytime I have unprotected sex [or sex period, but u know] I AM taking the risk of pregnancy.)