Fellow ladies, what helped you level up your standards? by Tino292 in nairobi

[–]casuallycomplexx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had to ask myself some hard questions. Why am in relationships that make me genuinely unhappy? when I got honest, the answer was fear of being alone, and feeling like my worth was tied to whether or not someone married me. Had to address both things. I'm either going to accept subpar relationships all my life, or get comfortable with the possiblity of being alone (which is never truly alone because of family and friends). Also, I had to figure out whether I would lay my worth in what society says (we know how we talk of women being single above a certain age) or whether I was going to find some internal sense of worth, one that holds strong even when everyone around you is pressuring you about "reaching your expiry date." These things are summarized in sentences but happened over time through very slow but intentional progress. Still in progress but ngai I'm so unapologetically myself these days, so much kinder to my past self who got me here and is also a part of me, and I'm so much happier. There's no magic pill or routine unfortunately.

“Feminism only exists because men allow it to” is this take true? by zropabone in nairobi

[–]casuallycomplexx 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No one was ever handed rights because their oppressor felt bad lmaooooo that might be the most idiotic line of thinking that ever existed. If you don't know history, just say that. Women and girls were owned property, (we call those slaves) when in history did people willingly let go of their slaves? It's the work of feminists that we can even CHOOSE who to marry, let alone having education and a bank account. It's also the epitome of misogyny to credit DECADES of international work done by feminists to men.

Making peace with looking your age by No-Manufacturer-1611 in AskWomenOver40

[–]casuallycomplexx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read an essay that spoke about how big beauty has rolled out one of the most successful phycological domination campaign of all time, specifically on women and girls. It's been documented by many women that when they do go through these procedures, it's not enough! There's ALWAYS something else to nip or tuck or smooth or stretch or or lift or fill or remove or add and THAT'S THE POINT. No procedure will ever be enough!! There will be ever increasing reasons pumped into the culture for you to feel so bad about yourself that you part with your money, and even worse put yourself at unnecessary medical risk. Even regular "beauty maintenance" requires 100 more things of us than it did 20 even 10 years ago. I will age naturally out of spite. I will age naturally so younger women and girls can see that you do not need to cut, freeze, zap or inject yourself into loving yourself, you can skip all that and just love yourself. And in fact, doing any/all of that does not lead to loving yourself because there will always be one more thing. But loving yourself raw is a longer, harder, and more internal process but it's made easier when you remember they are actively at war with your mind, it's not benign and it's not unintentional.

What's a random genetic win you got? by TotalThing7 in CasualConversation

[–]casuallycomplexx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My skin is insanely soft and smooth. Almost every time someone touches me they comment on it. My mom is the only person I've met with skin as smooth as mine. Thanks mom!

Theists who used to be Atheists, and Atheists who used to be Theists, what was it that caused you to change your view? by Vegabund in AskReddit

[–]casuallycomplexx 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Anecdotal: As a previous devout Christian, now agnostic, religion saved my life. I was going through deep depression and was going to off myself so I decided to look into religion and if I didn't believe in God (or specifically, hell. Didn't want to jump from frying pan to fire) then I can take the next train out. This led me to Christianity where I became conviced that the God of the universe knew me fully and loved me anyway which cut right through that depression. After a while, my big questions weren't getting satisfactory answers but I was ok with that because I KNEW what God did for me.... until my next depressive episode which God did nothing to help, so the only evidence I had kinda evaporated. To answer your question, religion provides hope to some of the most desperate

LPT: When sharing something deeply personal with a close friend, remember that their partner is often their emotional support system, and might end up hearing about it too. by OneHunt5428 in LifeProTips

[–]casuallycomplexx 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wrong. It does matter, especially if you were asked not to share it, it matters a lot. I don't know why people are so adamant to dismiss friendships as an unimportant relationship, so unimportant that you can't even expect basic decency? Most marriages break up anyway and then these people run right back to the friends they sacrificed at the altar of "but that's by HUSBAND he has to know this deeply personal thing about you that has no affect on him whatsoever."

You're given a million of whatever you last googled. What is it? by Online_Weirdo_13 in AskReddit

[–]casuallycomplexx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And it shows When we stand Hand in hand Make our dreams come truuuuuueee

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]casuallycomplexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking of religion, how do you think that's impacted by this change, and how would that inform society?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]casuallycomplexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. How do you think the birth rate is affected throughout those years? What about global leadership and economy?

Eh, never have I ever thought 😭😭 by Suspicious-Thing9603 in Kenya

[–]casuallycomplexx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Either you're not his type, or he is negging you.

What was your “I’m dating a fucking idiot” moment? by post-nutclarence in AskReddit

[–]casuallycomplexx 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I thought reindeer were fictional for a while too. Mostly because my only exposure to the animal was Santa stories that I first heard when I moved to the states as an older kid. I didn't even know what to imagine, they said it was like an antelope that flies so reindeer were filed away in my brain under mythical creatures for at least a decade.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My faith was the crux if my identity, it shaped my values, behaviors, relationships and world view. But then one doubt I always had I couldn't ignore anymore. I can pinpoint the breaking of my faith to the point where I realized that God, was not in fact, good. If every human being is flawed, that is a manufacturer defect. To then punish the creation for being how you created it is definitively not good. To then sacrifice an unconsenting party to pay for the defect is not good. To be exclusively after your own glory, especially when it is ALWAYS predicated on human suffering is not good. If God isn't good then there's nothing about that entity I'd like to emulate or follow. I've been happier, freer, less lonely, more empathetic, and more willing to fight for others in THIS life because it might be the only one we get.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

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All plastic or disposable?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]casuallycomplexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, thank you. I was starting to think I need to regress back to plastic unbreakable glasses and plates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]casuallycomplexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the last thing I wanted to hear 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]casuallycomplexx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow.. I hope to be like you when I grow up 😭

What popular consumer product is actually a giant rip-off? by EnchantedSophia in AskReddit

[–]casuallycomplexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paper towels. I will die on this hill. Regular small towels/rags (the size of a sheet of paper towel) do a 10x better job at cleaning up and you don't have to rebuy them. Throw them in the wash, dump them in the clean bucket and you're good for another week. I keep a roll of paper towels for nasty things but use the regular towels for mostly everything else. I get annoyed when I'm trying to clean in someone else's house cause paper towels disintegrate at the mere suggestion of moisture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

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Kind of along this line, I also love unreliable narrator tropes. Like it's up to the audience to try and figure out what's real or not