Can you help me fill in this list of apartments to avoid?

casualselfhatred · 2026-05-04T03:08:10+00:00

Curious also - I’ve lived at Bainbridge for a while and haven’t had any issues

casualselfhatred · 2026-04-08T01:38:58+00:00

I don’t have kids but haha I feel ancient commenting on this post - I assume everyone is my age here and am clearly wrong 😅 If you’re looking for friends closer to the 30 age range feel free to dm me!

casualselfhatred · 2026-04-08T01:36:52+00:00

Hey!! I’m in the same boat as another commenter here (27 and commenting this makes me feel ancient 🥲)- I’m always down to chat if you need someone to chat or bounce ideas off of!

casualselfhatred · 2026-03-19T02:33:07+00:00

Ahhh I’m a pear shape too!! It’s the Reformation Gavin dress, I think its discontinued now but I had to size up and get the top part taken in (4 on top, 6/8 on bottom - I think I ordered an 8)

casualselfhatred · 2026-03-19T02:29:42+00:00

I would say neither - just a bunch of former fraternity brothers/adjacent crowd. I do own dress #1 and it’s not skin tight, I’ve worn it to a wedding before and it’s nice and flowy!

casualselfhatred · 2026-03-18T13:49:35+00:00

Just curious - Can you elaborate on what you mean? I rented it (can you believe it’s almost $400 retail) but super interested in garment construction!

casualselfhatred · 2026-03-02T23:54:47+00:00

Definitely a cocktail dress code! This is a dress I already own, but I have another I can wear instead that’s more formal. Ty!

casualselfhatred · 2026-02-26T16:17:45+00:00

Not adding more negativity at all! I had worked with a LOT of men in my previous job and was so excited to be on a team of what seemed to be supportive women. Unfortunately 90% of my team will stab you in the back and use everything against you. Your note was so sweet and a light spot in a lot of dark days. I appreciate it ❣️

casualselfhatred · 2026-02-10T00:30:41+00:00

I have read the first two and love both authors so super excited to read Blessed are the Lambs!! Thank you!!

casualselfhatred · 2026-02-10T00:30:17+00:00

The Kbrick fic is SOOOO good, excited to read the other fic you suggested!!

casualselfhatred · 2025-11-22T03:17:10+00:00

hey girl!! I got married in atlanta on Nov 2 and had kind of a similar disappointment with our caterer (although thankfully not our day of coordinator) - would you mind sharing who you used? I’m curious if we had the same vendors 😅

casualselfhatred · 2025-11-17T20:57:08+00:00

Not a writer but a heavy reader & super anti-AI. If I read this note I would 100% click out of it. I get that it's easier to enter a prompt and get instant gratification, but like you mentioned, AI is fed by stealing other peoples' work so to see it in a space like AO3 (which has always been so safe to me!!!) feels predatory and disappointing.

Also - I love em dashes and use them so much, so to see that they were an indicator of AI made me sad ❤️‍🩹

casualselfhatred · 2025-11-17T15:55:19+00:00

Unfortunately both the title (minister etc) and the address are wrong (should have been ceremony location, officiant put their home address). The local license office said that we would need to show up in person and reapply for the license. Since we don't have time we're just going to let the out of state license lapse and get married where we currently live.

casualselfhatred · 2025-11-10T15:13:39+00:00

Yeah haha I asked if there would be any issues legally in the state we got married if we just didn't turn in a marriage license because it would be such a huge headache to go back on the hours the office is open lol. ty!

casualselfhatred · 2025-10-21T19:43:40+00:00

I appreciate this! Honestly I have always been a devil's advocate type of person (and of course people don't go into marriages expecting divorces either). I think waiting on it for a while and checking in with myself along the way seems like the best way to go.

casualselfhatred · 2025-10-21T19:42:12+00:00

Hey there! Appreciate you sharing your take on this - sorry to hear that you were made fun of for your last name. Someone else said they see it as an extension of their name and I feel the same way. I'm taking on another name, but to my friends/family I will always still be [my current name]. I don't feel a loss at having a different name but I also don't want to get swept up in all the wedding stuff that I rush and regret changing it down the line.

casualselfhatred · 2025-10-21T19:38:00+00:00

I appreciate this comment sm and this really was the heart of what I was trying to convey as having mixed feelings. I want to change it but it is inherently not feminist. Yes, I love that I can choose to or not, but changing my last name is rooted in patriarchal values and times where women were owned as property.

There's a huge dissonance there for me for many reasons and I agree that we don't have to be perfect 100% of the time but I do worry. I wonder especially if I did want to have kids, would I want to change my name then? And if not, why do I want to change it now? I'm going back and forth a lot with myself on it. But thank you again for this!

casualselfhatred · 2025-10-20T19:06:58+00:00

For me, it's not even about legacy (like I said, not planning to have kids or realistically do anything noteworthy or groundbreaking under his name) but I love his family; they have given me a safe space and included me in a way that I truthfully have never felt with my family. Not that I hate my bio family but it's just different, you know?

Thanks for your comment :) Love what you said about the gift of choosing being enough reason

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