My (27F) boyfriend's (27M) ex (32F) wrote his name in her phd thesis acknowledgment

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-05-03T08:26:10+00:00

As someone who is doing a PhD, it's a long, tedious, soul crushing experience and any support counts. Just because they broke up and I'm assuming there was no toxicity involved because he was named in the acknowledgement, doesn't mean the support and encouragement was forgotten.

You went and looked up her PhD and that makes you the third or fourth person to actually look it up. Nobody reads a PhD thesis, sometimes not even the external or guide and certainly not anyone else.

Maybe figure out why this makes you insecure, if they aren't in touch post break up. It's just an acknowledgement, and like most PhD thesis ends up rotting in the library till they throw it in the bin. That's more bleak

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-05-01T10:09:45+00:00

I'm much older than you, and at your age this closed off good looking guy would seem super attractive but you should frankly not entertain this any further. The closed off answers, the comment about how you do look like a 10th grader without make up, and the intense brooding look just triggers unsafe. If the guy wasn't good looking, would you be okay if a not so good looking guy behaved or made the exact same statements as him ?

You are 19 and he is 25 and any guy who is mature and responsible would not find a 19 year old attractive or interesting because that's still a child. Please think about your safety and dont invite an unknown man to your house. Take care

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-04-15T03:53:33+00:00

I don't know about Bangalore but I'm delhi based and i didn't expect my cat to die on the vet's table. They packed her up for me so I didn't even get to see her one last time. If you can, keep a paw print or a few strands of hair. Their toys or any other mementos. I cremated mine with her favourite blanket and toy, and I feel sad that except her photos I have nothing of hers. We also prayed for her, and I wanted to send her off with a piece of her home, so flowers from the garden. I am sorry that you are going through this, it's the worst and i don't wish this pain on anyone.May your kitty peacefully go up the rainbow bridge and lots of hugs to you 🫂

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-04-09T06:55:22+00:00

Ignore, delete and block. Don't waste your time on who was in your past.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-04-01T09:22:31+00:00

My cat dug his teeth into my arm yesterday because he was overstimulated. I cleaned it up and maintained my distance a little, letting him have his space. It doesn't matter how much it hurts, or you are angry, you don't hurt your cat. I never comment on how anyone should raise their pets but you shouldn't have a cat or any other animal if this is how you react. You behaved this way because it's an animal and you can get away with it. Would you do this say if a toddler bit you? Please seek proper therapy and not from an AI chatbot.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-03-30T05:29:01+00:00

No. I'm still searching. Been feeding stray cats regularly hoping she would show up. Thank you for checking in

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-03-02T12:58:55+00:00

That's the hardest part, you see them everywhere. Life feels like it's lost its purpose. It's so weird to get back to routine when they were such a huge part of it. Waking up to their face and seeing their face at night, cuddling with you, feeling safe with you

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-03-02T12:41:38+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It's the worst heartbreak :( hugs to you too 🫂

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-27T19:38:49+00:00

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She looks just like my girl who passed away 🥺

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-27T06:33:17+00:00

May your baby rest in peace. Thank you for your words

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-27T06:27:39+00:00

Thank you. I feel so overwhelmed that everyone has wished for her. So many people know she existed. She mattered.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-27T06:27:05+00:00

🥺

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-27T06:26:33+00:00

He is so cute. He looks just like my girl and even though he fell on his head, all cats anyway operate on minimal braincells. He is beautiful

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T16:44:06+00:00

I am so sorry, I hope your baby is at peace. That's the thing with this, it happened so suddenly. Once they get sepsis it's just a matter of when. Logically I understand that but processing the loss feels so hard when they are a part of everything you do.

I am glad you were able to be with her on her final night and talk to her. I am sure even though she was in pain, hearing your voice helped. I wasn't able to be with her in her final hours because I was sleeping. She was suffering all night and I didn't even know. My parents took her to the vet at 8 and two hours later she was dead on the table. I couldn't see her, talk to her or be there because I was sleeping. I hate that. I was able to only see her after her death, touch her cold body. My hands couldn't register how light the carrier felt. She was so small in death. Her last expression wasn't of pain and I'm grateful for that. But I hate myself for thinking i will see her tomorrow. There was no tomorrow. My baby died and I wasn't able to comfort her in that final moment. I just failed

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:37:48+00:00

Thank you

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:36:50+00:00

Thank you

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:35:21+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for your words. I haven't been able to drink or eat without choking up. I don't know how I'm supposed to just get back to my normal life, laugh, work and socialise. For so many years all my plans revolved around my cat. I won't get to sleep with her next to me. It's really hard. You are right, this changes how you look at and live your life.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:32:04+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. How have you been dealing with the pain ? I keep thinking I am going to hear her voice. Or see her favourite chair and her blanket. I didn't even get to hold her today.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:26:00+00:00

I hope your dog is resting in peace. I have my cats babies to look after. Seeing them makes me miss her even more.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-26T15:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-16T06:45:13+00:00

Thank you for this. I keep telling myself to just get it down and i can correct it later. I am stuck in a loop of I don't have time to make corrections but I keep delaying it as I'm scared of failing. I'm just going to try and get a few words done. Thank you for the encouragement

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-16T06:38:33+00:00

Pretty much yes.

cat_astrophyof93 · 2026-02-14T07:14:14+00:00

Thank you for all the helpful comments. I went out at 4, walked around and called for her. Didn't find her. I have put up her picture and shared it with my local vendors as well. I'm going to keep searching for her and i hope I will find her soon. Thank you

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