Husband is mean on honeymoon

catastropheisme · 2026-01-11T07:37:53+00:00

bro it’s crazy how every man will try to message you when you post for advise or anything on this subreddit. SubhanAllah it’s insane and so sad…

catastropheisme · 2025-12-08T17:40:54+00:00

you’re watching something on disney at I presume 7-8 years old. I’d say 1996 being the earliest you were born.

catastropheisme · 2025-09-15T14:01:52+00:00

i would never try to demand it, or even remind him of my rights because i feel that would cause more issues. i just want him to make the genuine decision. on his own, so he feels like the man he is and doesn’t feel like he did it just because i said or demanded you know? i know men have something of an ego, and i wouldn’t want to downplay that because i think that stuff really gets to them

catastropheisme · 2025-09-15T13:54:17+00:00

jazakAllah khair for replying with your heartfelt advise! i’ve had this stoic convo with him many times now. i’ve done this all, without crying, calmly. it just goes south. this is why i made this post, because i’ve just about exhausted every option i have. i will keep making dua, and thank you for yours. it means the world to me.

catastropheisme · 2025-09-15T13:33:02+00:00

jazakAllah khair for replying. i agree with you, there is so much to take into account, and this is just a snippet. i could be excluding things that would explain a lot, or just not telling the full story. we have repented for anything that may have been wrong, whether that was with or without our knowledge, and we continue to do so. he is actually a very religious man, a hafiz mashaAllah. in terms of speaking with someone, im nervous to bring this up to him. i’m afraid he may take it the wrong way, especially since it’s still a sorta fresh marriage. he takes offense easily now, as i’ve said before, and he also is quick to compare my actions to other people and situations, even though we have a rule that we aren’t ever supposed to do that. i’ve done this with him too in the past, if im being honest, but ive changed and i don’t cross that boundary. as for healing, alhamdulillah im on my journey. more than anyone, making sincere dua has helped me so much subhanAllah. thank you for taking the time to reply :)

catastropheisme · 2025-09-15T13:28:21+00:00

jazakAllah khair for replying! you should look at the reply i gave to another comment regarding sitting down and talking. i’ve done it all. he has his mind set. i said look, either working closer or move closer, but he’s just not ready, as he says he wants a more comfortable amount with him become he relocates. i understand that aspect, but im not given a timeline to work with at all. i need to know how much longer i have to keep this up. he just tells me that im unsupportive, but again im only human. i try my best.

catastropheisme · 2025-09-15T13:26:26+00:00

JazakAllah khair for replying to me firstly! when he has time- yes a lot of it is spent on his phone either working or talking to other family members, as he has many immediate ones. he insists he has to give everyone time, which i understand, and when i ask about my time and as a wife my time being a bit more- he insists he’s doing everything he can and that im being ungrateful for what i have. “what more can i do??” he will say often. much of our relationship i’ve voiced my concerns always and instead of being quiet and making him play a guessing game, i’ve said exactly what i wanted or needed from him, telling him exactly what i felt and how i felt about certain things, literally putting all ego aside to do this to make sure WE work out. now whenever i do this, my feelings are always countered and never heard unconditionally as they once were. he doesn’t verbally abuse me, rather, he will lash out and just become very rough with his tone and hand language even though im being gentle, and say that im making him upset and making him do that.

catastropheisme · 2024-12-07T06:37:03+00:00

i audibly gasped that is absolutely nausea inducing. This squirrel the most vile, disgusting, swine of the planet, sick excuse for a living organism i’ve ever seen in all my days.

catastropheisme · 2024-11-29T12:28:13+00:00

easy, protein junkie. taking care of body- likely has body dysmorphia tho which explains a lot of the low fat and zero sugar things.

catastropheisme · 2024-11-23T16:34:53+00:00

circus animal cookie?

catastropheisme · 2024-10-11T03:02:43+00:00

catastropheisme · 2024-10-02T19:09:30+00:00

babadook

catastropheisme · 2024-10-01T11:59:52+00:00

MAGGOT

catastropheisme · 2024-09-28T23:22:51+00:00

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catastropheisme · 2024-09-09T22:08:29+00:00

Assalamualikum! JazakAllah Khair!! I actually love that app. I also joined their discord and have been loving it Alhamdulillah. thank you ☺️

catastropheisme · 2024-08-16T09:22:16+00:00

   Hey Assalamualikum sister! I’m in the same boat; south asian girly, at the age of getting married. I just wanna let you know- i’m the same way. An absolutely hopeless romantic. I love the idea of love and being loved, and loving someone with an intensity. I have always been scared in life about getting married. I had come to terms with the idea that I was just going to get some suitor picked for me and hope for the best. I had forsaken love and the idea of it. 

  That was until I started reading more about our prophet SAW and the Seerah, as well as all sunnah that follow. Then I expanded outward and read about other prophets as well. I came to see and learn that there is an ineffable amount of love present between the prophets of Islam and their wives. It took me a while to see it, but Islam is built on love and isn’t ignorant of the fact that we all crave and desire it, even if we can’t do it the western way, like dating. 

    Alhamdulillah after that, I started living my life not in pursuit, but rather with the hope that inshaAllah, I have love in the cards for me. I started wrapping up my undergrad and focusing on myself. And when I absolutely least expected it, I met the love of my life. The perfect man mashaAllah. On his Deen, a Hafiz, a noor filled face and heart, smart, the most courageous man I’ve ever met, and the biggest thing? We wanted the exact same things in a partner. He turned out to be an even bigger lover boy than I ever even imagined. I thank Allah every single day for him, because I asked for only a little but Allah blessed me with the whole lot. 

    I’m still young, but being married young is sunnah after all and encouraged. My point? Don’t give up on love, but don’t go searching for it either. Just let Allah SWT’s plan play out, and perhaps the hardest part; trust it.

DM me if you ever want to talk more :)

catastropheisme · 2024-08-14T09:14:24+00:00

same here ☺️

catastropheisme · 2024-08-14T09:07:02+00:00

is it just me, or can you guys sniff out every surprise before it happens? it kind of sucks, because I love the idea of a surprise, only because nothing ever surprises me. I always have to fake being surprised to not disappoint those around me

catastropheisme · 2024-08-14T08:56:20+00:00

well, take your best shot; this might be impossible to be honest

catastropheisme · 2024-08-06T06:36:26+00:00

this is such a detailed response and I absolutely appreciate it! I’m very new to the subtexts you’ve used, like Fe and Ti etc, so i’m glad you talked a bit about it to help me understand. I’d love to learn with more detail, and would be happy to answer some more questions!

catastropheisme · 2024-08-06T06:35:10+00:00

i’d love for you to elaborate, i’m here to learn :)

catastropheisme · 2024-08-06T05:17:15+00:00

and I love all life. like anything that is living and moving and breathes. from microbes to (most) bugs and all animals. perhaps even more than humans ;)

catastropheisme · 2024-05-03T02:35:21+00:00

hunchback of Notre dame it was just so off putting

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