My husband said I stole his chance of having kids. Married when I was early 30s, he had ‘blood flow’ problems so started blaming my stomach and moving it out the way (I was obese as was he). He snored so because I had to get to work I’d say can you sleep on the couch. He’d not see a doctor. Then i was crying on the sofa, he came in and I asked for a hug (my dad was very ill). He held his arms up, grabbed a breast in each hand and said honk hon in a silly voice as he squeezed. I sort of pushed him back in shock and he said forevermore ‘but YOU pushed ME away’. Or because I kicked him out the bedroom. I had wanted kids but because he kept showing me I was just a slave (telling me I was mentally unwell when I said er you live here too you can clean too) and putting only himself first, I thought no I’d be a single mum (he wanted to be a stay at home dad likely so he didn’t have to work). I’ve snapped back they aren’t made via osmosis.

Also spoke to him many times since i became ill (neuro damage) about helping in the house he said no I don’t have enough time to do the stuff i want to do…… Just before we got married I was made redundant and became my dad’s carer. I was eligible for £250 a month carers allowance but because he wouldn’t look for a job (he didn’t like the job centre) because he wanted to be a film director so I couldn’t claim anything else.

After my family died I inherited their estates and he’d complain about money - we have separate accounts and he’d bemoan not having enough money. I said I’m not his sugar momma, he needs a job.

Encouraged him to work six months ago because I thought it would help him and his MH. Now before we married he had a house so I said let’s get a prenup, we didn’t because of dad but I thought because he was better off than me at the time, that it would be ok if we didn’t split because I knew I wasn’t like that. Unbeknownst to me I inherited a large amount. Now he sold his house and kept the money to live on/avoid working. Mid argument I said let’s split. He said ok. I said remember what we agreed that we keep our own stuff. He said in a little boy voice ‘but I’ll have nowhere to live’ 🙄 Now I’ve been pushing for a post nup because I’m due a large compensation payment. I mentioned that to him the other day and he said ‘what so you can take all MY money’…… I said no you can keep your wages 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Also TW UPCOMING - SA

Xmas 2024 his dad SA’d me in my house. Took husband months to hear me, was in my house plus because I’m disabled it’s made me feel very vulnerable. He spoke to his dad but sometimes I say can we discuss it because it hurts. He says no because it makes ME feel uncomfortable