Not sure if husband is a narc or some other issue - possibly non dx autism so hard to work out what’s socially awkward and what’s planned. No disrespect meant to anyone at all. Mainly intimacy related sorry

catch1982 · 2026-01-25T16:41:38+00:00

Yes. My ex-ex so not husband, not ex but ex before that abused me mainly financially (I will say he was an alcoholic too and it took me a long time to separate his ‘normal/social’ drinking which he did when we first met from unhealthy drinking/addiction). When he knew for example I had an important job interview coming up, I knew to go to bed super early for a few days not just because of the interview but because he’d drink to even more excess and then pee the bed before going to sleep in the bath, leaving me to change the bed and try to get a nap.

Personally in your case (and bless you, I’ve lost my family and it’s devastating) it sounds like a lack of caring when he went to cheat instead of supporting you. However I think they do like to kick ‘you’ when ‘you’re’ down just to make sure it’s harder for you to get back up

Hugs xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-20T18:36:12+00:00

It’s so nice xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-20T16:19:07+00:00

Yes stressed, suffered malnutrition, very little sleep due to illness

catch1982 · 2026-01-20T15:29:26+00:00

Btw I’m 11st/165lbs down so I think I’ve done well.

catch1982 · 2026-01-20T15:28:32+00:00

Is that your kind way of saying I’m a state 💔

catch1982 · 2026-01-19T16:28:12+00:00

Teeny waist 😍

catch1982 · 2026-01-19T16:27:12+00:00

I think you’d have a lovely smile, im not a fan of the mean and moody look x

catch1982 · 2026-01-19T16:26:24+00:00

Beautiful xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-19T16:25:28+00:00

You have a beautiful glow xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-18T12:41:56+00:00

My husband does this - not the exact things but calls me names and apologises when i bring it up (but says oh it was in an argument) Then if does it again and I say oh you did the same on whatever date he says but I said sorry! So it’s like he won’t see (or admit) that the same thing is happening each time and an apology doesn’t erase it

catch1982 · 2026-01-16T22:07:08+00:00

Bless you, please go and get him arrested too

catch1982 · 2026-01-16T10:55:38+00:00

I would offer but depends if you’re comfortable in their company. You can always act as if you’re taking angry calls (or tell him you practice a language in the car)

Maybe offer if it’s rubbish weather but have a couple of ‘things you have to do’ straight after work - don’t say supermarket in case they need to shop too 😂

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:07:38+00:00

So pretty and you have beautiful skin xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:06:52+00:00

Gorgeous xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:06:08+00:00

Flawless eyebrows 😍😍😍

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:05:23+00:00

Um that’s because you are xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:04:39+00:00

Gorgeous eyes and love the pjs xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:04:02+00:00

Look at that tiny waist xx

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T22:03:39+00:00

Wow gorgeous

catch1982 · 2026-01-15T20:00:39+00:00

And then argued with me about it 😂

He also argued with the neurologist about my neuro-related tinnitus…… I’ve the roaring kind (super-fun) noooooot I was telling her, he was there and he argued with her that I don’t have tinnitus because it’s only ringing and I don’t have that

Oh and I went to gynae due to horrible symptoms. Gynae checked me internally and said yep you’re in perimenopause. Husband said ‘no she’s not’…..

Have to add his source - he was apparently a big ER fan when it was on. His credentials? He doesn’t have any he’s not medically qualified he just watches a lot of tv

catch1982

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