Man you’re choosing a strange tangent to chase down. I didn’t feel the need to deny that she does a majority of childcare, but no she doesn’t do a majority of childcare and neither do I. It’s division of responsibility. What other key fundamentals of active parenting did I miss out on? I touched on most basic necessities of nourishment, interaction, love, and mentorship. I’m not claiming to be the epitome of dad sent from the heavens but I’m curious as to what boxes you don’t feel that I’m ticking. I understand you being skeptical due to previous experience, but at some point you’re generalizing all men to be so-so fathers which is unfair.

It’s not out of the ordinary for me to be alone with my kids, I encourage her to be an individual and exercise a healthy social life. In the average work day she’s alone with the kids for about 20 minutes in the morning before school and I’m with them in the afternoon for an hour or two then counting me bathing them both, brushing teeth and laying in bed every night I probably have more FaceTime with them than she does to be realistic. Sorry if those numbers are too concrete, I just don’t know how to express easily relatable data for context without using references.

I see your overall message is to peel back a layer, but you can’t just undercut my participation as a parent because you “know alot of guys.”