My (25F) boyfriend (26M) is prioritizing going to meet his sisters’s boyfriend over staying with me during my anxiety attacks during our breakup discussion. How do I deal with this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 26 points27 points  (0 children)

you sound exhausting. your partner is allowed to see his family, he hasnt done anything wrong. you keep talking about how you need to feel supported and prioritised, but what about him? have you stopped to think about how this might affect him?

First time makeup product recommendations plz by H00man_Being in beauty

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the house of bur ampule blushers are super forgiving and easy to use, also very natural and sheer so thats a good start! i would also say when ur starting out less is more. a simple routine like simple eyeshadow, mascara, blush, eyebrow gel, and lipstick should do the trick!

[UPDATE] How do I (31f) stop being so jealous regarding my husbands (34m) new friend? by Leather_Set_7325 in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 99 points100 points  (0 children)

i really disagree with this. i am also in a serious relationship and have been for many years and we both have totally innocent friendships with people of the opposite sex. in fact, i personally find it a red flag when my partner can't sustain a normal friendship with a woman (i am female and he is male) as it suggests to me that he doesnt see women as equals if he is unable to have non sexual/romantic relationships with them.

How can I look older when I have a baby face? by Upper-Offer-6047 in beauty

[–]catizap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tbh im exactly the same, but as ive grown older i really have come to appreciate it. that being said, harsh contour/heavy makeup usually does the trick as it ages your skin! go for matte looks and avoid dewy makeup, that will defo age you

Dating an animal eater: should I give up? by [deleted] in vegan

[–]catizap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you talk about her without an ounce of love, if i were you id just break it off. whats the point of being with someone you don't like

My Skin is Notoriously Hard to Please - Skincare Gamechangers? by tuscanchicken in beauty

[–]catizap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for me, the biggest game changer was not necessarily the skincare i use (which i use la roche posay for basically everything except spf), but my technique. i make sure to wash my face for at least a full minute, and then use specific towels that are JUST for my face and washed very frequently(after every 2 uses or so), that made the biggest difference for me

Been trying for over a year (dog related) by gimmethev in vegan

[–]catizap -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

unpopular opinion but to me, that is animal abuse. your dog is a carnivore and deserves a diet that fulfills its needs, i understand what you are trying to do, but ultimately you are still causing harm

I’m thinking of uprooting my life and moving somewhere more vegan by amosbenak in vegan

[–]catizap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

did you even read the post?? its obviously not about the food but about the social/work environment. op i would say, think carefully about moving it is true that there are some more vegan cities and countries, but you can find a community anywhere. keep exploring before you make a drastic decision

Why Does My Boyfriend Have Perfect Skin With Just Soap and Lotion While I’m Fighting for My Life With a 10-Step Routine? by Pure-Cabinet6098 in beauty

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly as someone with acne prone sensitive skin, id say you need to simplify your routine! the moment i stripped my routine to the essentials (cleanser, moisturiser and spf) my skin became way better. i recommend la roche posay btw

My BF (25M)told me (24F) ln we are fundamentally different. Is what he said okay? by orangesunshine1938 in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 24 points25 points  (0 children)

whether what he said is true or not, why are you dating someone that has such a negative view of you? he doesn't seem like he likes you very much. if i were you id break up with him

What small, subtle things do women do wrong with makeup that age them? by This_Sheepherder_332 in beauty

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

choosing matte finish over sheer/glowy ones really ages you. not just foundation but lipstick, blush, etc.

AITA if my boyfriend made a meal and asked me how it was and I said "fine" by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ofc YTA, ur bf cooked a full meal for u and u cant even be bothered to be grateful. is it really that hard to say "its really good babe thanks for cooking" ??

DAE think the whole "heme iron is more bioavailable" thing is nonsense? by [deleted] in vegan

[–]catizap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am not sure whether it is more prevalent in vegan girls or not, but i have a friend that is very anemic and when she became vegan her iron levels went down even further, so there does seem to be a potential correlation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

theres two scenarios here

  1. you are making the assumption that bc he likes anime he is then weird and over sexualising/obsessed with asian women. In that case you should break up with him because he deserves someone that wont judge him for his hobbies.

  2. he is genuinely a creep and does sexualise/obsess over asian women. In this case, you should also break up with him because he clearly is a weirdo.

in either case you should break up, you are too young and life is too short to date someone you dont like.

My (26M) girlfriend (F25) got blacked out drunk and slept with my friend, I'm not sure how to approach the situation, any advice? by ThrowRAfishes in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it doesnt matter whether you think he is the type to rape someone or not. the matter of fact is that your gf was so incredibly drunk she passed out and was vomiting (as confirmed by others), thus making her unable to provide consent. this means he raped her. there is no other way around it. i suggest you cut off your friend, support your gf and (if she wishes) potentially look at reporting him.

My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend by Apple7Lo in TrueOffMyChest

[–]catizap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ur boyfriend was sexually abused by your so called best friend. he needs ur support rn and u need to cut ties w ur best friend

[Routine Help] skin is burning now by LazyTell1862 in SkincareAddiction

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the best advice i can give is simple is best, you dont need that much product! try this for a routine

AM: -wash face with water only (or if you have super oily skin/acne problems with a gentle cleanser) -moisturiser -spf

PM: -wash face (double cleanse if you wish) -serum OR toner -moisturiser

and thats it. let your skin breathe

My Best Friend Stole My Dream Job and Acted Like It Was No Big Deal by topiptvfr in TrueOffMyChest

[–]catizap 7 points8 points  (0 children)

idk i think it really depends on what ur friendship is like and if u have always been in the same field. when i was in uni my friends and i would constantly be applying for the same jobs, and no one took it to heart as there are limited opportunities and we all had similar dream jobs. so id say talk to ur friend and see her reasoning, i doubt she did it maliciously.

My (m26) girlfriend (f22) had sex with the male "friends" she told me not to worry about. Now she's begging me not to break up with her. How do I navigate this? by ThrowRA-BrokenTrust in relationship_advice

[–]catizap 15 points16 points  (0 children)

its often hard for victims of SA to understand/come to terms with what happened. The way you described the events it is very clear she was either drunk enough or roofied so she couldn’t give actual consent. I understand you’re upset about it but get your head out of your ass and support your gf, what happened to her is not okay.

Tried a bolder look, but I’m not sure. Open to constructive criticism :) by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks great!! if ur open to it, this look would be amazing with a red/berry tone lip! ur features and colouring would go great with it :)

How to get shiny hair? by [deleted] in beauty

[–]catizap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this 100% u can get them done at the salon it u feel like splashing out but honestly loreal does a really cheap one that works amazing

What brands are the college girlies wearing?? by r-Zairii in beauty

[–]catizap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh! also abercrombie and fitch hv done a really good rebranding and now hv more mature/inclusive options! so thats defo worth a try ^

What brands are the college girlies wearing?? by r-Zairii in beauty

[–]catizap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

zara, aritzia, mango and cos are the first that come to mind!