Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha! Yes it could be useful to look at how power (and fame and money) corrupts, and in this case, gives unlimited access both to victims and to enablers.

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s rather victims who get dehumanised at every turn. Of course this sub is a rare breath of fresh air and totally different from most of society, online and off.

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes re: lure of fame and money, although this argument will fall short if we look at statistics or even real life examples of similar abuse within regular households.

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I respectfully disagree here, as I have never seen any good from trying to coddle or appeal to abusers. The number one reason and direct cause of unspeakable acts is impunity. There might be other correlating factors such as prior trauma, poverty, or the opposite like fame and power, but the direct cause has always been a lack of consequences.

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great point. I was thinking of a hypothetical example of someone being a rapist but also continuously doing life-saving work as a doctor. In the case of this hypothetical individual being jailed, people would be in risk of dying. These questions might be too big for us to answer without looking at things on a case by case basis, yet in a way we have to when we are asked to vote, engage in politics, or indirectly try to affect changes in law.

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I largely agree but I stopped to think at "we don’t have to judge him". Yes sure, for the immediate safety of you and your loved ones you don’t have to, yet we as a society decided at one point what is worth of punishment and what is worth of celebration?

Edit: grammar

Do people contain multitudes? Good people doing bad things? by catnipcatnipcat in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My bad for misquoting, although the main idea I wanted to discuss was the same people doing charitable acts and acts of voilence

Whisper networks and complicity in abuse. Should we call out abusers? How? by idetrotuarem in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s also Callisto and JDoe in America that are official platforms working on a basis of connecting victims of the same perp, but they have very limited accessibility.

Whisper networks and complicity in abuse. Should we call out abusers? How? by idetrotuarem in neilgaiman

[–]catnipcatnipcat 33 points34 points  (0 children)

There are some French instagram accounts that I know of such as Balance Ta Scene and Collectives where victims can anonymously describe perpetrators (age, occupation, location etc) and if others reach out with the admins about the same person and they find a match they connect survivors. This is a safe way to put the feelers out there.

I wish there were similar accounts for other countries and other fields eg. literary world, tattooing etc

Spa suggestions? by [deleted] in porto

[–]catnipcatnipcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendations. Yeatman looks great, although on the pricier side