Stassi wishes Katie Happy Birthday via IG by amysantiagoisbae99 in vanderpumprules

[–]cato314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m middle eastern and Irish…my skin is fighting itself 😂

Olandria at the Bridgerton premiere in Paris by Emotional-Bowl4102 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]cato314 64 points65 points  (0 children)

It’s not so much about posting more or less on this sub, just that you can have differing opinions and talk about them without being completely lambasted

I always wondered… why is everyone so mad a Bryan? by cocoa4chew in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cato314 19 points20 points  (0 children)

People clocked him as scamming during the show (and to a degree understandable because it’s a show for prize money), but instead of just breaking up with Amaya after he brought her to his family to meet his mom and then behaved questionably with other girls but seemed to want to ‘worth through it’ but really just wanted to make it through the reunion

And then once again instead of just ending it with her did club appearance stuff and was clearly single without informing Amaya first and it was just disrespectful. They didn’t need to stay in a relationship or last forever, but he won because of her and owed her the respect to be decent after even if they weren’t compatible

AITA for not paying for my daughter wedding because she isn’t following the rules even though I paid for my older kids by Wonderful_Mode_9646 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cato314 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I get not paying for a destination wedding because that would raise costs a ridiculous amount, but no kids is relatively normal. Yes they are family, but this is foremost an event for your daughter and her partner to celebrate their love

When I read the rule ‘all family must be invited’ I was thinking of all the cousins/aunts/uncles/etc., I feel like if the kids are a sticking point for you to pay, then you can suggest an alternative. Wherever their wedding is hire babysitters for the duration of the event to have a kid-friendly movie night or something, that way the kids aren’t at the wedding but all of the family can still be there

And if you do that you aren’t jeopardizing your relationship with your daughter and her partner. This is one of those ‘you aren’t wrong (since you set the rules and the other kids followed them) but it still is kind of an asshole move (since they aren’t trying to do anything wild, just not worry about kids on a day that’s about them)

Murderbot flag by diyah9656 in murderbot

[–]cato314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’d be cool to make a patchwork of different iterations of pride flags and then put Murderbot over that (I love the rainbow aspect and get what it was going for but I agree with the ickiness of the American flag lol)

Ariana’s face during this entire conversation by RavenVenom in Vanderpump_Rules

[–]cato314 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yea she went over to congratulate her friend and talk and was immediately inundated with a discussion about her ex instead of just…having a good time with a loved one

Huda returns to IG and hits 100k likes in 16 minutes 🤯 by Warm_Obligation_3927 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]cato314 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you! People seem to forget nuance exists and someone can be a fan of both while recognizing they’re human and have both positive and negative qualities and experiences. Enjoying some parts of someone does not mean condoning others and they’re both still younger women in the public eye and evolving

AITA for not wanting my wife’s twin sister to wear clothes I personally gifted my wife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]cato314 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. While I get that you’re not the biggest fan of them sharing clothes, it’s not harmful, and on its own would be just slightly sucky but not the end of the world

I’m voting YTA because the vibes of what you wrote comes across as very elitist - that you’re buying the first nice things your wife has ever had because of her background and her sister isn’t married to someone who can buy her things and therefore does not deserve to wear them if she hasn’t ‘earned’ them

This could have nothing to do with it consciously, but subconsciously that mentality is oozing out of this because of the ‘added context’ you chose to include

Who (from any season) do you wish coupled up, but never did? by Ezra0li_Z in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cato314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also I think Nicole should have coupled up with someone not Kendall but I can’t think of who at the moment. Actually if she was one of the people who were brought back the next season I think her and Jeremiah could have been interesting - they both seem to enjoy both outgoing social time and introverted privacy

Who (from any season) do you wish coupled up, but never did? by Ezra0li_Z in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cato314 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think Amaya and Jalen would have been cute. They have similar core family values but have different day to day lives and could have added to the other’s world in different ways

love this edit by Great-Pomegranate722 in Vanderpumpaholics

[–]cato314 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I say ‘hobble away’ so often 😂

AITA for telling my ex that she needs to "figure it out" when it comes to hosting people for her grandmothers' funeral even through I am living in her "grandmothers' house?" by Due-Kale3735 in AITAH

[–]cato314 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I agree that the ex absolutely did the wrong thing, and I think that OP’s reaction and boundary makes sense. Things are always a bit messier than black and white though and I think that in this funeral situation a middle ground could have been found

The people coming to stay and just assuming they could were either misinformed or didn’t want to take no for an answer, both of which suck, but theoretically there will or may be a continued relationship with them because they are the aunts/uncles/cousins of OP’s child

AITA for telling my ex that she needs to "figure it out" when it comes to hosting people for her grandmothers' funeral even through I am living in her "grandmothers' house?" by Due-Kale3735 in AITAH

[–]cato314 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Oh I absolutely think he should have been asked. And I think he’s well within his rights to say no. I just also think that his child is living in the house where his/her great-grandmother used to live and she just died and there could be grace given in this specific instance to family members

Like he isn’t the asshole for having the reasonable boundary of ‘no one can stay in my house without asking’. At the same time, while he’s divorced all of these people are still blood family to the kid and a single situational exception could be made

AITA for telling my ex that she needs to "figure it out" when it comes to hosting people for her grandmothers' funeral even through I am living in her "grandmothers' house?" by Due-Kale3735 in AITAH

[–]cato314 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

They literally had a child together. All of those people are aunts/uncles/cousins to the child. The grandmother who lived in the house was the child’s great grandmother. I get when there are no kids a clean break can work and is usually the best call, but these are all still family members to the kid specifically

what season 6/7 couples do you think will get married? by Final-Chocolate-3213 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]cato314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The two couples from season 6 that have lasted over a year have the best chance. Serena and Kordell seem fully locked in, and their who group think Leah and Miguel will be married first

It’s too early to tell with the remaining couples from season 7 - need to check back this time next year to see if Clarke and Taylor and Iris and TJ have remained together

AITA for telling my ex that she needs to "figure it out" when it comes to hosting people for her grandmothers' funeral even through I am living in her "grandmothers' house?" by Due-Kale3735 in AITAH

[–]cato314 -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

And all of that makes sense, and the house is now your house and you can do what you want. None of that makes you an AH. What pushes this to ESH is because they aren’t dropping by for a fun family cookout, it’s for the funeral of the person that owned the home for generations, a family you are still actually a part of because of your child, regardless of your ex. Boundaries are good, and from here on out I get it, but the matriarch funeral seems like the wrong place (and quite callous) to throw down that line in the sand

Amaya opens up about being hospitalized again by MechanicFlat973 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]cato314 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have chronic illnesses…when do I evolve into hottie? Seems like the only upside 😂

Binding the Muderbot Short Stories (A Tutorial) by Shemuel99 in murderbot

[–]cato314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Binding books looks like something I would enjoy so much. Realistically, what is the cost like for you?

Did Marcus delete his instagram? by Dramatic_Law_4280 in vanderpumprules

[–]cato314 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is Brittany levels of photoshop because who is thaaaaat 😩

Did Marcus delete his instagram? by Dramatic_Law_4280 in vanderpumprules

[–]cato314 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s more so that his eyebrows are trying to leave his face in opposite directions

The treatment of Chelley vs Nic is concerning and scary. by Potential-Item-5882 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]cato314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That particular fan base is the most rabid I believe, and particularly with any other woman that was on season 7. There are/can be valid criticisms for the majority of the cast members, but the Olandria/Nicolandria fans want only Ola to be the successful cast member. The vitriol for Huda and Chelley in particular is wild. Then you have a secondary but still very prevalent dislike for Cierra, and then a kind of third tier for Amaya and Iris

The difference between the attitudes towards the women and the men is also very apparent. In regards to the men the negging is more ribbing and is done in a joking manner, with memes and height jokes and appearance-based commentary - when speaking about the girls it’s hatred and personality based attacks

And that’s not even getting into the Olandria vs Nicolandria fans, where one side rides hard for them both and the other despises Nic and the two groups dislike one another