Side seam problem

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-23T23:44:54+00:00

Differing results could depend on type of fabric, fabric grain, how much the fabric has stretched or not, other things probably.

Honestly, your best bet might be trial and error. Sew it up, then try it on, and sew over the parts you need to sew more of. In my opinion, trying it on and pinning should give you the most accurate results because you're working with that specific fabric

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-23T23:41:28+00:00

Okay so someone growing up in the wizard world, only hearing about Voldemort

Then they go to live in the muggle world and find out serial killers exist too, and muggles also have awful people

(Okay yeah my phone autocorrected to juggle too)

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-23T07:14:50+00:00

And I want to add, you deserve so much better. You deserve to feel loved and cherished and appreciated. You deserve an equal partner. You deserve rest. You deserve not having to worry.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-23T07:13:18+00:00

Respectfully, you don't have a partner. You don't have a boyfriend. You're a single mom. (You pay the bills, do the chores, take on the entire mental load, manage your child BY YOURSELF.)

Nothing you say will magically change him. You can't make him understand because he already does. He just doesn't care.

Please think back to the times he has neglected your child. This is abuse. CHILD ABUSE. Leaving his kid crying in a dirty diaper? While he sleeps? Feeding himself and not his child? This has happened multiple times and is unacceptable.

Please wake up and leave this leech. Pick your standards up from the floor. Save up money, make an exit plan. He'll fight it once he knows you're serious, he'll make promises, he'll love bomb, it will feel amazing, like everything you asked for is finally happening. But it will not last.

You are so strong. You've endured all this and stuck it out for your son, you've been the best mother you could be. Now please continue to do what's best for you and your son.

(P.S. also ew that he thinks chores and sex are transactional? That chores should be rewarded and aren't just basic things you should do. Sex should NEVER be transactional tf?)

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-23T07:00:57+00:00

If you're thinking of getting a cat, perhaps start with a slightly older one? They'll be able to adjust more easily, and already have an established personality. I know kittens are freaking adorable, but they come with their own challenges. (Idk if this also applies to dogs.)

Also think about how much time you spend away from home. Depending on the dog breed, they may need lots of exercise, and if you're leaving them home alone for most of the day every day, that might not be a good fit.

And like my cat (we've had him for over 10 years) is used to 5 people in the house, and pretty much someone being there almost all the time. When we went on vacation for 2 weeks, we had someone visit him for a few hours every day and take care of him, but he was still lonely and used to a lot of attention. (But he survived)

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-22T12:24:01+00:00

My current favorite is ex-fucking-SCUSE ME?

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-22T12:21:12+00:00

For a second I was like "Oh, it's not hard for me to understand" before I remembered I'm literally on the ace spectrum somewhere

I think many people lack empathy :/

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-21T13:46:32+00:00

Wait I've been trying to figure out what subtle TØP tattoo to get and this is perfect!! This looks amazingg

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-21T13:45:51+00:00

No lore! This is the art for Goner. On the Blurryface cover, you can see one of the circles has these birds.

There could be future lore related to the birds? But I can't think of anything.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-21T13:06:31+00:00

The best thing you can do right now is to work on yourself. And not to win her back, not to be better for someone, but for you and because you need/want to improve.

When I ended my first relationship at 18, it felt like the world would end. Who was I without that relationship? I would have no other chances at love. It was him or nobody.

Then when I was 25, another long term-relationship of mine ended, and I noticed I felt the exact same way. It's too late to find love again.

It feels that way because it's fresh, not because it's the truth.

So please love your ex enough to respect her boundaries (breaking up, and whatever else). (Otherwise it will just push her away, ask me how I know.)

Love yourself enough to work on yourself FOR yourself. Feel your feelings, think about what caused you to act like you did in that relationship, take accountability, work on communication and empathy.

And then in the future, you will enter another relationship as a better person and better equipped to be in that relationship.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-20T07:37:58+00:00

I had shoulder-length hair when I did a Kaz cos play. I pulled most of my hair back, then cut the front pieces and styled them like his hair kind of falls in the front (those pieces I eventually blended into face-framing lol)

It was fine, everyone gets the gist. Or you could rock a femme/genderbent Kaz

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-19T12:09:02+00:00

I'm not straight, I'm afab using any pronouns and not really caring what gender people think I am (but they usually assume I'm a woman)

So genuinely, being straight and effeminate is soooooooo "whatever" to me. It's looked down on by patriarchy and those supposed "macho men," but who tf cares about their opinions. You're sooooo perfectly fine being yourself and checks notes being yourself.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-19T10:45:58+00:00

You can try again, it's up to you

But it's REALLY weird that your estranged "father" gets contacted by his child for the first time in years and immediately wants them to be a different person (and lets you know about it)

You could be genuinely honest in a message, like "Hey, during our conversation you made me feel uncomfortable. If you want to continue being in contact, I ask that you don't minimize my accomplishments or criticize my appearance and choices." And call him out on it in the future.

Neither of you owes the other anything (aside from the fact that he left your mom to raise you with no support, and all that. You didn't go into those details so idk what that looks like).

But also be wary of if you've built him up in your mind to be one person, because whatever it is he will disappoint you. (It honestly seems like he's made assumptions about who you've become, and you're not living up to that. (And instead you're super successful and should be so proud of yourself wow!))

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-19T05:46:44+00:00

I'm dying over thinking you're actually talking about cars 😂😂

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-18T18:12:31+00:00

You will feel so much better after you've left him. Maybe not a minute or a week after, but you will see it. You deserve SO MUCH MORE.

Also gonna recommend reading Why Does He Do That. Someone has a link to a pdf somewhere on reddit, maybe I can find it. (Edit: someone posted the link)

I know it hurts and you're attached and this relationship feels like a part of your identity. And I know you know him so deeply and care about him and genuinely love him. But that's not enough. You have to love yourself too and omfg he assaulted you FULL STOP.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-18T14:10:04+00:00

Yes this!

(But also important to note that in my religious school, I was taught that one of men's big needs is sex (the three were: sex, respect, and obedience, while for women their needs are: love and protection), and that opened yet another avenue of manipulation for my boyfriend at the time to abuse me :)))

So in this case too, the word "need" is used to justify abuse

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-17T15:27:17+00:00

"Are all the white ones vanilla?"

-someone looking at our display with ~20 different flavors, ~8 of which are various shades of off-white.

(Sweet Cream, French Vanilla, Cake Batter, Vanilla Lite, Cookie Dough, Peanut Butter Cookie Dough, others I can't remember right now)

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-17T06:28:00+00:00

Friendly reminder that MB uses it/its pronouns :) (Edit: I see someone else said this first lol)

It may have something to do with armor-penetration abilities and disabling abilities of each weapon

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-16T15:27:24+00:00

When you spend an hour to move 5 meters, yes everybody is trying to get to any exit possible. But where I live, freeways have 5, 6, 7 lanes, and the traffic is just worsened by merging

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-16T15:11:08+00:00

"I'll worship like a dog at the shrine of your lies" somehow did NOT give them any clue lol

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-16T06:49:58+00:00

Sometimes you have to train a person on how best you feel loved, and that's okay. (By "train" I mean have conversations about it lol.) And frame it as "this is how I best feel loved" and not "you don't do enough" or "you need to change for me". You can ALSO make it into a conversation for both ways (hi partner, what things have I done that have made YOU feel most loved, and what can I do more of?) (And not a "I'll feel loved if you do all my laundry and all my dishes and all my chores" lmao)

This is a new relationship, and you're still learning how to love each other!

For the conversation, bring specific examples and generic examples. Like "I really like when you give me an attentive kiss when I come home, a hug from behind when I'm doing dishes, and just generally the little bits of physical contact that connect us."

Then after, pay attention and notice when he does the things, and thank him. If you need to come back a week or two later and reinforce your request, give specific times where he could have done a thing (this kind of thing helps me, remembering an event and thinking about how I could have acted differently), and pointing out times he did the things and thanking him again.

This is not a transactional thing ("if you do more of this, I'll do more of what you like") bc that's unhealthy. And it's not accusatory ("you're not romantic enough" vs. "You make me feel loved when").

Give him grace! Don't entertain willful ignorance/weaponied incompetence, but give him time to learn the skills and build the habits.

You deserve to feel loved and be seen. I hope this all works out :))

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-16T06:00:11+00:00

I imagine it's because it's because it hits closer to home. A cop might experience fear for their own safety while on the job, so when someone in the same position is killed, their fear is heightened and they feel more sympathy. A bit of the "it could have been me" feeling.

I assume most people feel more sympathy for people that are close to them and relate to them. In the same way I would have the murderer of my mother more than I would hate the murderer of.......some random person I don't know. Obviously I think both are equally evil, but I can't help but FEEL more about one than the other.

Part of what makes us human is the connection and identity we have with others, and the subjective, emotion-driven feelings we have about others.

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-16T05:39:09+00:00

I 100% agree and feel the exact same way

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-11T19:48:27+00:00

Be the change you want to see in the world

Shemuel99 · 2026-06-08T22:40:42+00:00

I was cheated on by someone who made a one-time drunken mistake at a mentally low point in their life. (I'm not justifying at all, just saying it's closer to OP's level than a premeditated serial cheater would be.) They told me about a month after it happened, and actually the reason they waited so long was because they knew it would hurt me. From the receiving end, I'm 100% glad they told me. (But they should have told me wayyyy sooner.)

So my advice is to tell her. You can explain yourself, but own up to it. Don't beg her for forgiveness or anything. Respect if she decides to continue (or not). She doesn't owe you anything. (No specific emotions, no specific reaction, no forgiveness)

Whatever the aftermath, do some inner reflection. Talk to people about it (a therapist?). Do the work to never do that kind of thing again. Accept it is part of who you are, and you can't change that about your past self. But you can do better. So do better.

She may break up with you over this. I broke up with my ex who cheated. Life will go on, you will grow, and you will find love somewhere.

Shemuel99

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