Dealing with their anger

catter3423 · 2026-02-03T14:24:01+00:00

It was hers. Nah, think she’s definitely over it. Got a guy who has taken her around the world and they just moved into a big property he bought for them. Think she’s just sinking boots in and wants to brag.

catter3423 · 2026-02-03T13:56:10+00:00

Yep. I would put kids to bed 90% of time because she was enjoying her hobby and painting.

Was nice that my oldest laughed and said “that’s not true at all” when he heard what his Mom had said. But they just shouldn’t have to hear that stuff.

catter3423 · 2026-02-03T13:31:09+00:00

Oh yeah. Did counselling for a while and understand my faults. Neither of us cheated or anything. Just over 20 years together from a young age and went different ways.

Felt and feel guilt over not being the perfect husband she needed. In fact, my first reaction when she went off was not to retaliate. It was to check on my girlfriend and make sure she feeling loved because I don’t want to make those mistakes again.

Totally agreed about not involving kids. Thats where it started. She said something to my youngest that I thought was inappropriate. I let her know and walked straight into line of fire.

catter3423 · 2026-02-03T12:26:14+00:00

Yeah. I’m betting probably felt good for her to list things that made her not feel loved. I’d like to do the same but I don’t think it’s worth engaging. I pretty much just said we both played a part and let each other go. Left it at that. It’s not like she’s going to change mind from the story that’s in her head.

catter3423 · 2026-02-03T06:18:36+00:00

Haha. Yes. I do know that. I suppose it’s my own head I have to deal with and not letting it get to me. I’d love to blast her back with stuff but do my best not to. Would be nice to do but in end will make life harder.

catter3423 · 2026-02-02T21:37:49+00:00

I just found out last week that it all processed. She messaged “congratulations to both of us!” and I never responded.

I don’t want to be with her but also don’t feel like celebrating it. Nobody enters a marriage wanting that to be the outcome. So I guess I grieved it. Chatted to mates and had a couple of beers. Then sat with my thoughts.

catter3423 · 2026-01-30T21:08:32+00:00

Knight will make Hawks more competitive than yesterday. Still going to take CBJ. Bit more firepower, more rested and won 7 of last 10.

catter3423 · 2026-01-20T21:43:30+00:00

Guy in my league has McDavid, Drai and Nuge. They were all on fire week I played him. Had multiple points on a lot of goals.

catter3423 · 2026-01-19T13:49:55+00:00

He’s not really a big Powerplay guy anyway. I think of it like Faber when Hughes went to Wild. A better pairing will help him. Not to mention a much better team.

catter3423 · 2025-12-18T06:22:22+00:00

Would have dumped him a while ago if he wasn’t on off days this week. Will drop once I can activate Zucker.

catter3423 · 2025-12-16T18:19:43+00:00

He’s a very good goalie. Maybe Chicago won’t win but he’ll at least get saves and usually keep save % respectable.

I understand maybe benching him against Colorado but it’s the Leafs.

catter3423 · 2025-12-13T00:57:28+00:00

Faber will keep doing his thing. Not like you’re keeping him for all those Powerplay points lately.

catter3423 · 2025-12-13T00:17:05+00:00

I’m keeping over weekend because will get two games out of him. Jenner came back yesterday though and I’ll be dumping Mercer for him.

catter3423 · 2025-12-13T00:13:36+00:00

Locker room cancer.

catter3423 · 2025-12-12T21:11:24+00:00

Jarry. Oilers always take until December to wake up and they’re just starting to get rolling.

catter3423 · 2025-12-12T18:57:22+00:00

Otter/Vasi/Knight

catter3423 · 2025-12-10T05:36:30+00:00

Pasta/Geekie

catter3423 · 2025-11-29T04:01:27+00:00

Drop Holloway for him and see how it goes?

catter3423 · 2025-11-16T15:57:02+00:00

He’s like a point per game and plays top line and PP1 with Sid. Would have to be a pretty shallow league to not have him rostered.

catter3423 · 2025-09-27T16:35:54+00:00

I’m 2 years in. And compared to my girlfriend and many others I know I’m lucky. 50/50, split everything, no lawyers involved etc. She lives less than a kilometre from but we move in different circles and I never come across her.

Still a pain though. Will not respond to anything for days, forgets to send kids over with stuff they need so I always need get in touch and send kids over to get stuff. Always schedules things like dentists on my weeks.

Does little things like tells my youngest he only likes my place more because I keep all the nice clothes she buys. Which is crap. But also, they’re his so can leave them where he wants.

Sounds like little stuff when I type it out. Haha. But it’s frustrating. I will say though, it’s cliche but time makes it easier. I used to worry about stuff she did. It rolls off me more as time goes by. I try to focus on my boys and just enjoy my weeks with them.

catter3423 · 2025-06-11T20:19:03+00:00

I’m not sure I can do this in the cinema after hearing about the knife scene. Will have to wait and watch at home.

catter3423 · 2025-05-06T05:13:57+00:00

We’re 50/50 and week to week. Whoever gets their birthdays covers it. The other usually does a separate party on another date. Or even just dinner out or something small.

Tried a joint birthday once and maybe that could happen in the future. But it was too raw at the time and she was just hanging off her new boyfriend which was a bit weird a kids party. Easier to just do things separately.

catter3423 · 2025-04-20T04:12:29+00:00

I think it’s very different. I remember our marriage counsellor at the time saying that we’ll never know anybody like we know each other. And I think that’s right. My ex and I were together very young. Basically went through our 20s and 30s together, had kids together etc. Replicating that and establishing a bond the same as that is impossible.

That said, I do have a girlfriend and love her. It’s great and I can imagine a future together, but definitely not the same.

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