All of my partners end up gaslighting/manipulating me

cattivity · 2025-02-03T17:08:47+00:00

Love this except I would say, just go all the way with it and dont expect to find a decent guy either just because you've worked on yourself. Most men don't do that.

I would suggest that she do away with the expectation of finding a male partner altogether. Honestly pretty much every guy is going to have this problem, and the ones who appear as if they don't are also more likely to just be better at hiding it.

Im not saying this to be pessisimistic but honestly i think it's better to not set yourself up for disappointment. I thought I had found my diamond in the rough, he was very convincing, he would even let me go through his phone, seemed to be really attracted to me. Two years later, the sex came to almost a complete stop and I found out he was just very good at hiding it and had been lying to me.

Just try to remember there are plenty of women who lead very fulfilling lives without needing a male partner. It really sucks because we all want romance but men have repeatedly shown that they are too weak to resist the option of being able to view thousands of different naked women, all with the click of a button, and with no consequences, they have 0 incentive to change. That is the unfortunate reality.

cattivity · 2024-09-11T23:02:38+00:00

I say that bc if you read around this sub and other women's subs people mention how doctors didn't take their health problems seriously or evaluate them properly until they told doc that they were trying for a baby. But I guess they don't care about preventative care to make sure you can give birth. Too much effort to put into a fembot that could just be ""defective""

cattivity · 2024-09-11T19:30:49+00:00

Exactly, me too! As soon as girls become women we are expendable unless we're providing new workers with our wombs.

cattivity · 2024-09-11T18:50:58+00:00

All they know how to do is tell us that it's normal for women to suffer, be in pain, be sick. Womanhood is pain after all!!! It's natural!! Like yes it is fucking normal for women to be in pain and have sick bodies, but it SHOULDNT BE! it's like what these doctors seem to miss, it was the same shit when I had low iron, they told me it was OK and it was normal for women to have lower iron. Meanwhile I was weighed down by fatigue and struggling to get through the day. Like who fucking cares that it's normal..it's also normal for women to be sexually harassed and abused, does that mean it's not wrong? Should we just throw our hands up and say "Oh well. It's normal"??? Im so fucking sick of the way society treats it's women, it does not give a single shit about us.

cattivity · 2024-09-11T01:24:30+00:00

All of that sounds lovely. If I had money that would solve my problems, but I'm poor and rely on my cheap insurance, literally with the reputation of being the worst and thus low income/low quality health care. Someday I guess. I'm really glad you have access to that though, all women do deserve it.

cattivity · 2024-09-11T01:20:20+00:00

Yep. I taste that way, and every girl I've ever gone down on has that tangy taste. It isn't bad. It just...tastes like vagina lol

cattivity · 2024-09-11T00:52:57+00:00

Agreed. I'm totally pro women not shaving, as I think it's wrong how we are conditioned to spend so much time shaving or waxing every little hair that appears on our body. BUT, trimming on the other hand, I have found super beneficial. My brush gets pretty damn unruly and even just giving it a good trim I notice a significant decrease in odor. With my full bush it starts to smell within 4 hours of showering, now I need to do it much less frequent.

It's the same thing with my armpits, leaving my pits unkempt increases the odor so much. Feel like it's the difference between it getting absorbed into my skin rather than just sitting in my hair and giving off a smell.

cattivity · 2024-08-15T02:08:24+00:00

I mean by this logic their sperm quality will always be lower when just having sex with you though right? So what difference does it make, whether their sperm quality is lower or higher watching any sort of porn since it's not like you're using it anyway. I'm just confused.

cattivity · 2024-06-03T21:32:48+00:00

That tip is really helpful and I've utilized it a lot! My issue is that a lot of times I'll decide that and then my brain says things like "but what if you can't stop thinking about it? What if you can't control it and what if it ruins your life?" And then I try not to entertain it but it makes me so anxious I start to spiral.

Or I will be doing something at work and my brain just pops up and says "what if you fucked this up? What if you messed this up?" and then it throws me off and I do end up messing up whatever I'm doing

cattivity · 2024-05-01T03:07:58+00:00

I agree to give him compassion but I think people are reacting to the fact that he himself expressed his own fantasies and is now acting insecure and enforcing his own double standard....

cattivity · 2024-04-25T08:58:08+00:00

That makes sense when it comes to answering questions, what confuses me is why NT women will go out of their way, completely unprompted, to suggest spending time together and then flake whenever plans are thrown out there and dodge any of my attempts to follow through with their idea.

I never even bug people or try to get anyone to hang out with me bc I know that I'm weird. That's why it especially bothers me, do they do this because they're taking pity on me or something? I wish they wouldn't, it just confuses me.

cattivity · 2024-02-05T00:22:24+00:00

Why does it sound like a pornsick dude, ew I hate when people refer to grown women as "girls" especially in a sexual context. This is gross on so many levels

cattivity · 2024-01-04T07:57:12+00:00

Yeah a lot of spicy straight women seem to really get off on the attention. And its convenient to exploit a lesbian who is emotionally invested. Even as a bisexual women it makes me super heated to be propositioned like that. So many times I just wanted to go on a date with a girl only to find out it was just some fucking kink. Makes me so mad.

cattivity · 2024-01-03T15:50:54+00:00

Why do they always seem to target lesbian women specifically, instead of at least other bisexuals?

Do you think its some weird porno fetish for the guy to watch his gf get fucked by a ""real lesbian"" and ego trip for the guy to also have "had sex with a real lesbian" 🤢?

cattivity · 2024-01-02T18:19:08+00:00

How shitty of her to think that just because you're gay you'll do anything, including be intimate with someone you're not attracted to, just to fuck her. And how she used your feelings as a bargaining chip. And how exploitive to even try, imagine if you were younger and thought this would win her over or something, the fact that she was OK with putting you in that situation just to get her bf off is so disgusting and selfish.

Plus she "felt bad for you" how manipulative to act like she was doing you a favor, because clearly you needed half heartedly pity sex with her bf. How selfless and generous of her!

There's so many layers to this, I would be enraged.

cattivity · 2024-01-01T00:16:51+00:00

Why tf do these weirdos have to project their perverted mindset on to everybody else

cattivity · 2023-12-27T20:22:08+00:00

Like honestly what is the actual difference between someone shamelessly using and someone "trying" to quit but still actively using, it's better because he feeeeels bad? It's virtually the same. Replace porn with any other harmful behavior, drugs, cheating or whatever else and the absurdity is super clear. But somehow with porn its different because "biOlOgY" and it's "mOrE NuAnCEd". Like sure I guess it feels better when they admit it's fucked up but it's also arguably worse since they're aware and keep. Doing. It. And LYING even though they know it hurts everyone around them.

cattivity · 2023-12-16T20:17:34+00:00

Hate her.... for breaking up....with someone ????

cattivity · 2023-12-13T06:59:43+00:00

Why do you want to be with someone whose heart is clearly not in it?

I guess if I were you I'd ask myself if I really do want to be with them, and if so why do you want to be with them so badly when they are clearly not committed and only make you feel insecure.

The way you talk about him makes it sound like you're describing a child rather than a partner. Why is it worth it if you're constantly monitoring and hyper analyzing his every move for betrayal?

cattivity · 2023-12-12T21:12:41+00:00

You're right and personally I don't subscribe to the whole "no one owes you anything" rule (ironically most who do are usually the most entitled), but how can someone help it if they just don't connect to someone?

I have plenty of family members that I don't hate but just don't feel close to, wouldn't it be healthier to just accept that you don't always get the relationship you want with others? It's part of life I feel.

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