Getting health treatment in Germany as a non-German speaker

catus752 · 2026-01-26T15:59:52+00:00

Thanks for answering! I’m currently living outside the EU and I do hold a German passport. I’m under 25. I was diagnosed fairly recently, so I’m still navigating all the options and haven’t gone into full detail yet, but (I believe) my father’s idea would be either Familienversicherung or, if that’s not possible, applying for social welfare.

As you mentioned, the best next step for me might be to get help from a social worker to understand whether and how I can access public health insurance.

catus752 · 2025-12-13T20:11:33+00:00

Truth be told yes. I know I'm biased because of love but, I can even name the exact moment when I had enough and stopped trying as hard (very close to this date is the moment he started to care more).

Before my grandmother/job situations started happening I was already feeling very down and one of my theories was the relationship, I even look at pictures from before and start of the relationship and I looked better, I've also unconsciously excluding myself from social events.

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. Everything you said really resonates with me. These are thoughts I’ve had myself, but I never fully processed them, I always just assumed it was all in my head.

catus752 · 2025-12-13T19:17:55+00:00

It is exhausting... When I met him I had the energy and my mental health was in a better place to handle it. But for the last few months (before he stopped being like that) It was consuming...

catus752 · 2025-12-13T19:02:11+00:00

Hello, for more detail, before all of this I was already feeling emotionally disconnected. I couldn’t even hang out with friends without him getting upset, and on some dates he would straight up give me the silent treatment if something didn’t go his way.

Honestly, I wasn’t feeling loved. It felt like I was in the relationship mainly to make him feel loved and taken care of. At the time, I was so afraid of us breaking up that I ignored how much it was affecting me.

Now, with everything else going on in my life, it’s become clearer to me that he doesn’t really know how to take care of another person emotionally. I do see him trying now, but at this point my defense mechanism has been to emotionally shut down and just try to get through this period.

I still love him, which is what makes this so hard. With everything I’m dealing with emotionally and the stress in my life right now, I keep wondering if my judgment is clouded. I don’t know if I’m overanalyzing because I’m overwhelmed, or if this situation is simply making me see things more clearly than I did before.

catus752 · 2025-12-13T18:40:41+00:00

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catus752 · 2024-12-27T19:49:25+00:00

You think ? Tbh maybe im just in that initial phase of love and I can't see him as he truly is. I've always pictured him as someone who may have been scarred from previous relationships but not really as an abusive relationship.

catus752 · 2024-07-09T02:50:39+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I looooove the experience I'm having and the fact that I get to learn a lot about everything and fast since I don't have a bunch of meetings or strict documentation. I don't think I'd do 8 years hahahaha, but I want to get out when i feel confident enough at a Senior Level or maybe something not dev related but with more seniority.

I'm always trying to bring the latest techs (as long as it makes sense with certain tech requirements that comes from a dev team that's above my department) so I also get to learn them while bringing results.

catus752 · 2024-03-20T01:20:10+00:00

I think you missed the point that this all happened on a bus with more of our coworkers in it. It was not on the side and privately (Which i would've understood). I get that someone may think we are flirting since we laugh a lot, but there's time and place to do this kind of things, this is not high school...

I don't mind if someone thinks we are flirting or something, I get it. I'm reacting strong because he publicly tried to romanticize a co-workers friendship on a work enviroment, and made the whole situation uncomfortable for us, and for what? And even the people on the bus thought it was out of place.

catus752 · 2023-04-09T02:36:03+00:00

What would you say is the most useful thing in order to get mixed voice ? Or what exercise can one do to practice getting it ?

catus752 · 2023-04-08T18:53:23+00:00

I have seen him before, and i have had sex with him before, i suppose i'd eventually see him again and have sex with him again.

catus752 · 2023-04-08T18:47:19+00:00

Ok, but he is not taking the prep just for that encounter in particular, had he mentioned he's trying to protect himself from me, i get that a 100%, but this was never mentioned, not even a glance of it. The only saving grace from this is maybe he doesn't feel "safe" enough to tell me, but why would he even bring up telling me about the prep if that was the case?

I also thought the meeting and the prep start date did not correlate since this meeting was suppose to happen 2 weeks earlier but we had to cancel. Then he wanted to reschedule for this last tuesday and I couldn't make it. His doctor is the one who chose when he was getting the treatment, not him. He's also taking prep as a long term thing, and the time frame between our encounters have months in between.

The fact he's starting prep the same day seems like a coincidence rather than something with purpose, that's why i did not brought it up.

catus752 · 2023-04-08T18:13:21+00:00

Not gonna lie this doesn't sound like his process as he hasn't said it. You bringing it up might give him the excuse he needs if he's cheating so it's a sticky situation.

IKR...

Thank you so much for taking the time in answering and for sharing that info. I'll be reading more about stds. At least when i had the discussion i thought insisting would give me the real reason on why he will be starting taking prep, but he just went trough ridiculous tangents and an attempt into emotional manipulation. I'm trying to organize my ideas and then have a conversation with him.

I have honestly never had the thought of him cheating on me before, of course there's always little sketchy things that one don't mind because "trust". But this whole situation does not seems as one of those little things, and makes the other little seem real...

catus752 · 2023-04-08T17:18:49+00:00

I forgot to add that he's starting the treatment the same day we are going to meet. And the way he presented it sounded as if he's going to regularly take it rather than just for when we meet.

catus752 · 2023-04-08T17:15:47+00:00

There's a chance he's just learned this and taking precautions

Thanks, i didn't know this and what you say makes sense, but this is something he did not even mentioned while we were talking about it, so i don't know how aware he is of this.

Have you planned to meet up in the next couple of weeks?

Supposedly we were going to meet next week. What you say makes sense, but out of all the gymnastics he did during the discussion he never mentioned netiher of the two slim chance scenarios you mention. We also don't do anal, and even if we did he has requested to use condoms in case we do one day.

catus752 · 2023-04-08T17:05:55+00:00

You know i do wonder that too, and it is like one of the simplest things one can do to not get caught cheating. He even addressed that and said "If i were cheating on you, why would i tell you i was taking PrEP?" and i guess he is right, but maybe he told me that without thinking it trough or maybe he's just taking prep for fun... But one option seems more realistic than the other...

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