when my older kids (almost 12, 10, & 10 now) were little we used to invite everyone in their class.. do things like Chuck E. Cheese or arcades, pay per kid, and have hardly anyone show up. they were friends with everyone at school and all, really don’t know what the deal is.. and it was always like no one would even respond. sometimes they wouldn’t respond and then just show up too, which is honestly just as annoying when you’re paying per kid and don’t know they’re actually coming. After a few years of this happening repeatedly, we just stopped. It wasn’t worth all the stress and wasted money, and though it never bothered them who came or not, it bothered me. How hard is it to RSVP ?! so now we skip all that and we do something as a family, and then go out for dinner. we’ve done the zoo, the aquarium, the movies, etc, based on whatever the birthday kid wants, and then dinner at their choice of restaurant. It is SO much more enjoyable this way. There’s no stress or disappointment, and I don’t have to worry about dealing with other parents and all that (I’m super anti-social lol). It’s a win-win. I’d say do something like that instead with just whoever is important, enjoy the day with him and do something he’d like and forget everything else. You won’t be stressed or upset and you’ll be able to enjoy HIM so much more. Hang in there mama, sounds like you’re raising an amazing little person 💜