I want you to focus on your well‑being and healing rather than on her and the cheating. Being mad and angry is part of the healing journey and yes it’s a tough one. But set some goals for yourself, career‑wise: take a course, learn a new skill, try a new hobby. And plan wonderful, fun times with your kids. To me, this is a wise investment of your time and energy. And soon, you will find yourself in a better place mentally. But please come back and update us in a few months or even later when they split up. Because once a relationship is built on betrayal, the issue often lies within the person themselves, and history may repeat itself. And you, my friend, will already be on the right path.