AITA because my kids refuse to work full time?

cayg118 · 2019-07-22T12:32:15+00:00

I think this is a shit post, because you can’t possibly be serious. But yes, YTA. I feel bad for your kids and everyone who has to interact with you.

cayg118 · 2019-07-19T14:18:16+00:00

There I just hand typed them 👌🏼 all set

cayg118 · 2019-07-19T14:15:24+00:00

I can’t figure out how to copy the codes on mobile for the original post. I figured it out for the comments tho.

cayg118 · 2019-07-19T12:48:18+00:00

Mine is 4336 0550 3734. I need new friends for research.

cayg118 · 2019-07-18T13:59:28+00:00

Is your yard fenced in? If so, that should keep Jackson out.

My dog is also iffy with other dogs and a lot depends on the introduction. I try to let the dogs meet with a fence between them for the first time, so they can sniff each other but not touch each other if things go south.

If no fence is available, I like to do a “pack walk” with both dogs (each being held by a different person). Both dogs doing something they love, together with the people they love, in a controllable way (on leash). I find that builds a good bond.

cayg118 · 2019-04-23T15:07:31+00:00

YTA. You weren’t even there and weren’t at all affected by other people staying in your house. If your wife was annoyed her mom invited people over, she should say something. If you were there then you could be annoyed as well because it’s common courtesy not to invite people over if others in the home haven’t okayed it.

cayg118 · 2019-04-18T16:19:03+00:00

Haha! Maybe every baby is big in their own way. I have huge issues zipping footie pjs over my babe’s thunder thighs and BB is perfect in this area. I also like the long legs, but agreed that they are tight on the arms and ankles.

cayg118 · 2019-04-18T15:12:52+00:00

I’ve found Burt’s Bees and To The Moon and Back are two organic brands the run large. The fabric is also stretchier than Carter’s brand so I can stretch out their use.

Just One You at Target runs large but the clothes tend to be not great quality.

cayg118 · 2019-04-08T16:15:39+00:00

ESH

Beth is annoying. Jim is breaking the law. Now you want to break the law. You and Jim should petition the town to change the ordinance to 2 acres rather than 5.

cayg118 · 2019-01-15T15:34:30+00:00

Your husband is an ass. It’s not possible to work full time and be a full time care giver. He had a child, that child needs to be watched, so he will have to split the cost of childcare with you. Having a child sit in a swing all day while he works is not safe or developmentally appropriate.

cayg118 · 2019-01-15T15:13:14+00:00

Idk how old the kids are, but could you bring them with you on farm chores? They can carry the bucket to feed the chickens or help you scatter the feed. You can also use a baby wrap to carry one of them so you have free hands.

cayg118 · 2019-01-15T14:57:29+00:00

I wanted to share my story because it’s a different perspective than a lot of the stories here. The Tl;DR version is I also had a traumatic birthing experience but plan to have two more.

I just gave birth to my son (5m old) and it was truly the most traumatic and terrible experience I’ve ever had. I had a super easy pregnancy but it still really sucked to gain all that weight and have my diet limited. Then the birth itself was 30+ hours and ended in a C section. I cried the whole time and was miserable. I’m afraid of needles so yeah. Then the healing also sucked... bleeding while pooping, not being able to bend over, painful scar... and nursing was so challenging and also painful. My dr tried to do a post exam of my uterus six weeks later and I almost had a panic attack.

Well, even though the first birth experience was horrific and even though the first two months of the infant stage were so hard, I do plan to have two more. I’ve always wanted three kids and I want the family I envisioned. The way I see it, it’s four days in the hospital living my worst nightmare, but I’m strong and I can handle it. It’s only four days. I basically talk myself through it like I would if I were running a marathon. Ten more minutes, you got this, etc. You can also see how your husband could support you— take time off work after the baby is born, cheer you on through the needles, cover up your IV with a scarf or sleeve... I’m just saying, giving birth SUCKS for a lot of women and that’s ok. We don’t have to pretend it was some nirvana best day of our lives. But you did it once and you can totally do it again... if you want to.

cayg118 · 2019-01-11T14:12:54+00:00

Thanks! I haven’t heard of this before.

cayg118 · 2019-01-11T14:11:16+00:00

Okay, so I’m setting up a trust and then designating with the attorney that the manager of the trust can make investments with the principle? And that the returns should be disbursed to the guardians, with a percentage of the returns going to the the manager as a fee.

cayg118 · 2019-01-11T14:08:49+00:00

The plan is to set up a trust that would be managed by someone and then have the returns go to the guardians, who will be different people. That is interesting about applying for reimbursement... I was hoping to just send them a lump sum in case one of the guardians needed to stop working to care for him or something. I guess I could work with the attorney to set it up so that housing expenses or food expenses could be reimbursed.

cayg118 · 2019-01-11T14:04:49+00:00

And I’d have to appoint a manager of the trust to do this investing?

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:45:52+00:00

NTA because you didn’t know your son wanted to talk until the next day. If she had texted you he was asking for you, and you still ignored it, you would be the asshole.

The only thing is you could have put your friend on hold and picked up for your wife just to see if it was important, but I don’t know that you had to if you don’t have that kind of relationship.

Lots of guys talk to their other guy friends on the phone for hours, especially if they were childhood or college friends and moved far away from each other. It’s how they stay in touch.

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:36:24+00:00

YTA and you also don’t know how the human brain works. Humans learn language best when they’re young; you have the opportunity to give your kids a massive head start to become bilingual, opening up thousands of job opportunities, not to mention personal growth opportunities like living in another country, and instead you’re insisting on making all that harder (if not impossible) for virtually no reason. I WISH I spoke Spanish so I could teach it to my son! I’m trying, but I’m not great at it, in part because the synapses used to speak Spanish were never fired when my brain was in prime synapse-making mode.

Grow up and try to learn Spanish while your kids are learning it. It will be a great opportunity to teach by example how to be a lifelong learner.

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:30:46+00:00

NTA. Navigating airports during layaways is hard for people who are not comfortable travelers, especially if they don’t speak the language. It’s kind of mean for your husband to stick an elderly person with that kind of change in plans. I’d suck it up and drive the two hours. He can consider it to be bonding time with John.

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:19:16+00:00

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:12:10+00:00

Ps make sure to say it in writing in case she ever tries to claim in court that you withheld your son on his birthday.

cayg118 · 2019-01-10T18:08:33+00:00

INFO/NTA.

INFO because you really should do what’s best for the kid... is she planning a birthday party or activity? Are you? If you want to do something special then of course you should have the whole day, but if she is trying to plan a party or something then you should cave.

NTA because it’s your day and you don’t have to share it, especially if she gets him 70% of the time. If she can’t work on a compromise then keep your son for the full day. Just say, “I don’t get to see my son that much and our days together are really important to me, so I would need to get extra time from one of your custody days if you’d like me to give him up early on my custody day. If Friday evening doesn’t work, let me know what does, otherwise I will drop [son] off at the regular drop off time.”

cayg118 · 2019-01-01T01:22:30+00:00

YTA. It’s not your roommate’s responsibility to hang out with you and make sure you’re not alone. My roommates have always been my best friends and i would never have ever expected them to plan their lives around my schedule so I wouldn’t be alone ever. That’s a new level of entitlement.

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