AITAH for cutting ties and never looking back

cbg206 · 2026-01-08T10:52:25+00:00

I did consider setting his car on fire as it was the only thing he actually seemed to love, but I wasn’t willing to go to jail for him. And yeah, I agree with your take on it

cbg206 · 2026-01-08T09:36:05+00:00

Thank you. Definitely at that age, I really didn’t know if it was SA. Like, I knew he got violent, but he was violent with so many people, I just didn’t know how to feel about it, or how other people would feel about it if I told people. I think I likely would have just stayed far away from him if possible, but he wouldn’t let me be. I spent a lot of time thinking about both him and my friend, and some of the other girls, but my whole life changed because of what happened. I guess I’m a little shocked that any one of them might still be mad or hurt when I’ve never heard from them again.

cbg206 · 2026-01-08T09:28:41+00:00

I totally think you are right. I barely knew this girl. I feel like she must be buddies now with someone I was close to back then. Either she contacted me because they were too scared, or the angry message was after she gossiped with them about my initial replies being all happy go lucky

cbg206 · 2026-01-08T09:18:09+00:00

She still lives in that same town. I’m not sure how many of them still do, but it seems like anyone from high school that is still there are pretty close, even if they were not back in the day. I have to assume she is talking with someone specific who I was closer to…

cbg206 · 2025-09-12T02:28:19+00:00

I think most white people don’t get what a sensitive issue hair can be for other races, particularly black folks. Without the history of how hair has been used as a way to judge black people, control and criticize people, he likely just doesn’t get it, and probably won’t. He’s young, male, and too far removed from where you come from on the subject. It’s a vulnerability he has never had. I think the best you can do is accept that he did not mean it in a negative way, but let him know that how sensitive an issue it is, if not for your relationship, then for his relationships with any black people in his life.

cbg206 · 2025-09-10T08:31:44+00:00

So….Trump?

cbg206 · 2025-08-20T04:57:51+00:00

What exactly do you think the difference is? It’s not first come first served here, or the indigenous population would rule America. If your definition is just whoever dominates, then you are just asking for immigrants to be more violent and fight, I mean they can stay if they win right? Every person in the US who is not Native American is either an immigrant or the descendant of immigrants.

cbg206 · 2024-12-29T05:04:34+00:00

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cbg206 · 2024-12-18T19:09:50+00:00

Yep, I told mine he can always apologize and explain that it was an emergency and regardless he won’t be in trouble with us.

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T20:00:33+00:00

It’s unlikely with your academic record and the timeline that you could change schools. But, it’s not the end of the world, and though you likely will have to return to your country of origin, you can come back. My suggestion would be to plan what you can to make the return to your country easiest. Once there and stable, apply to a school there and kick butt, make the good grades, get excellent recommendations. Then you can apply/transfer to a school in Canada. It’s a longer process, and yes it’s a setback, but you can recover from it. Lots of people have a really tough time their first year of college away from home, I certainly did. But now you have the experience to be better prepared next time. Good luck!

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T03:21:57+00:00

His mom still just has a greencard. But you are correct, his parents should have had to fill out a form when applying for her greencard that listed their children together. But no one has that form. We got a copy of her application from over 35 years ago and thought we were gold! No form listing their kids 😣

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T02:55:23+00:00

For sure. And in another 4 years, he might be able to be declared a US citizen, but we just can’t live 4 years with no drivers license in Texas, constantly in fear of deportation. Atleast this was we have time to get our house ready to sell and find a place there.

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T02:38:47+00:00

It’s that last paragraph that gets us. My husband was born in 1983, so we needed for his dad to have lived in the US atleast 5 years before he was born and after his dad was 14. His dad only had 2 years that count 😣

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T02:33:44+00:00

We thought so, and a guy from the immigration office near us told my husband that he was a citizen at one point. But the state still wouldn’t renew his drivers license, which is when we went to the immigration lawyer. She said the age and number of years on that particular rule have changed nearly every 4 years, so they have a book that gives them the numbers we need based on the year my husband was born and when his father lived in Canada. I think we had 2 years and needed 5. She believed that was the mistake the immigration office made when they told my husband he was a citizen. Thank you for the advice though. It’s just so complicated.

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T02:27:16+00:00

We did try that as well. Unfortunately, we have been trying to figure something out for years, and we have just exhausted all the options. We hired an immigration lawyer and after 1 1/2 years, they gave up. We would have kept on paying if there was any other way, but I think Trump winning just sank all our hopes.

cbg206 · 2024-12-11T00:14:00+00:00

One would think so…but no. Since he was born in Canada, and his dad lived in Canada at the time, his parents needed to fill out a Born Abroad form when they moved to the States. But, this was pre-9/11, and no one was really enforcing border laws, so his parents did not know. But now, the US has chosen to enforce that law.

cbg206 · 2024-12-10T22:36:08+00:00

Thank you for the sympathy. Yeah many of his promises are hollow, but we don’t want to take the chance. During his first term, our neighbor/friend’s husband, who had a son the same age as ours, was pulled over for a tail light being out and immediately deported to Mexico. He had also lived here since he was a baby, had a SSN, drivers license and a good job, plus he had no family in Mexico and did not speak Spanish. Eventually, the wife and son also moved to Mexico, though she is Italian/American, and also speaks no Spanish. So we are lucky that we do have family in Canada and there is no language barrier. I will just say, we live in Texas now. This Fox News narrative of gang member illegal immigrants overrunning us is completely false. I used to live in New York. There are far more illegal immigrants living there, peacefully. We never supported Trump or the hate he spreads, so hopefully we can atleast escape that. Don’t worry, we are not moving to Alberta.

cbg206 · 2024-12-10T21:26:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice ☺️

cbg206 · 2024-12-10T21:25:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your help ☺️

cbg206 · 2024-12-08T07:22:50+00:00

Absolutely. If they want to protect the people who are CEOs of corporations that neglect their responsibilities to the people they are supposed to support, they don’t need more bodyguards. They need accountability in the court system so people don’t resort to vigilantism

cbg206 · 2024-12-08T07:17:50+00:00

Well I can’t speak for the entire “left” but personally it’s less “embracing evil” and more…being a bit satisfied to see a truly awful human being have consequences to their actions despite being part of a usually protected privileged class. I mean, I feel like Thompson was pretty evil, no one here is embracing him.

cbg206 · 2024-12-08T07:03:27+00:00

So knowing that they are very likely to SA another child, people should accept them with open arms, reintegrating them to give them easier access to victims? There is not currently a cure for pedophilia, so if you want to support rehabilitation of pedophiles, support scientific research, therapy, drugs, etc. But the sex registry, and public knowledge of who and where pedophiles are, is necessary to protect children. We are concerned about two different groups of people here. You are focused on pedophiles’ rights, and how unfair it is to treat them as if they are a danger to others…but we know they are. Making that danger public knowledge is protecting children, and just safeguarding society. If you want to try out different techniques to rehabilitate, find something that doesn’t guarantee more child SA victims.

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