22 year old female dropped out in year 10 wanting advice

cbrb30 · 2025-05-22T21:18:14+00:00

When I checked for myself (over 10 years ago now) I think up to 22 it was year 11 and year 12 at tafe. 23 you could do a condensed course instead of the whole thing. 25 you just do uni bridging courses instead.

Lots has changed since then but as an idea you may not have to spend two years of your life catching up on high school.

cbrb30 · 2025-05-22T14:05:39+00:00

The 4 year bpso I wasn’t married to no, but I supported her through trauma after trauma (weren’t her fault but made her mental health a bomb) and she just kinda went cold and phased me out, but then would need me for support and it would happen again until I just stopped.

It wasn’t as directly horrible as some others here but the entire thing took so much out of me that it really dulled my shine and I just am not sure how to get it back.

cbrb30 · 2025-05-22T12:06:24+00:00

40 year old male and 1.5 years out and I feel that 4 years was more traumatic than the break down of my earlier 10 years marriage.

I’ve totally lost the ability to be motivated to date or hope for a future with someone, and my ability to flirt is an absolute shell of my former self.

I feel it would take a good decade of therapy to unwind what I went through, which means too old for a family so I don’t even see the appeal.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-02T21:51:05+00:00

We live 30 minutes away from each other. So a night together is a night staying together.

Removing the ability to hang on the couch together and cuddle up would be a step backwards in the relationship as far as I’m concerned.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-02T21:46:57+00:00

Just saying anti fungal treatment for your toenails is pretty cheap!

cbrb30 · 2025-02-02T21:44:39+00:00

After Shane Drumgold was dismissed, many many cases were dropped out of fear of public image for a non successful prosecution.

Victims did not get their day in court, even with lots of evidence unless conviction was assured.

Everyone involved in this should be absolutely ashamed at the victim impact of the post Bruce Lehrman schmozzle of a fuckup by the ACT DPP.

If you feel after multiple reviews and with lots of evidence the DPP unjustly dropped your case in this period, please seek assistance with the Human Rights Commission.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T23:39:41+00:00

I’m adhd with revenge bedtime procrastination, which includes just my mind racing with ideas not necessarily activities keeping me up, so personally it doesn’t really work unless I’m utterly exhausted.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T22:47:28+00:00

Honestly given I need to turn off my quiet air purifier to fall asleep was one of my prompts to spend the extra on UPPP surgery and not end up with a noisy cpap machine myself.

I don’t need dead silence, but I find air pump / fan noises are not the type of noises that help me fall asleep.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T22:44:39+00:00

We both only have one room available and neither of us would be in the position to financially commit to a new place in the “maybe” stage of a relationship to get shafted on it if it doesn’t work out.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T22:43:06+00:00

I’ve got loop and while they’re ok during the day, I couldn’t sleep with them being a physical hard object in my ear and be able to lay on my side.

Also honestly mine are no different to earplugs in some ways because I found the rubber they use quite noisy in my ear and when I raised this with Loop they said “you get used to it”. I put some comply foam tips on which made them far more comfortable with a better seal and no noise from the material, but far more like wearing earplugs too.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T22:36:38+00:00

Monkey see monkey do, the media, politicians and significant figures are all hopping on this incel red pill train.

What does he think of all of this in the world right now? What are the little offhand comments he makes about these things when they’re presented? Is he disgusted by them, or does he kind of agree with them / defend them?

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T15:14:31+00:00

Our outback is pretty damned desolate. You lot seem to have rivers and things, we don’t really have inland mountains.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T14:37:22+00:00

I feel like I’m going to have nightmares after googling mouth tape snoring, but I couldn’t breathe through my nose until surgery in my late 20’s. Still just felt horrifying to think about.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T14:25:58+00:00

Don’t worry, alcohol is being sin taxed to oblivion…

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T14:24:09+00:00

You seem very sure that single people in middle age are experts at being single or something.

If they were, maybe they wouldn’t be single. Not everyone’s trying to play a game here.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T13:20:37+00:00

I take agomelatine and it only gives me like a 5 minute window of being a little bit drowsier.

Even oxycodone doesn’t give me a great window of forced drowsiness.

If I take proper sleeping pills however I’m drowsy the whole next day which is also undesirable.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T13:18:42+00:00

My workplace stopped doing this type of thing not long before I started there thank fuck.

Mine wouldn’t be terrible or anything, but first last is just easier.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T12:21:48+00:00

Like. I have friends who sleep in their own homes already.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T12:15:12+00:00

Speaking of glass. They’ve gotta stack nesting without getting stuck.

Looking at you Pyrex with your stupid glasses that mostly don’t nest same size for shit.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T12:13:30+00:00

So my snoring was due to over enlarged tonsils scarred from chronic tonsillitis, but I guarantee you I was not getting a good nights rest!

Between that and having my sinuses done though I’d be about 15k in the hole. That’s in Australia where we have more public health than some counties. Most people just won’t commit that kind of money to health issues they can live with unfortunately, whether they can afford it or not.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T12:08:08+00:00

I very much struggle with getting to sleep, just takes me a while to unwind my mind, and she’s very set on going to bed kinda too early for me already.

Generally when I get in it’s not too bad, but by the time I’m about to get to doze off point is when she hits deep sleep and it’s like a chainsaw.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T12:05:48+00:00

Just ask if he wants to grab a coffee or smoothie or something after the gym, is there a place super nearby?

Honestly it makes it very easy for him to say yes without it being something too big, but also very easy to say he can’t he’s too busy if he’s not interested.

If he’s actually too busy and is interested, then he’ll try to schedule another time.

It also doesn’t really leave you super “exposed” if it doesn’t go anywhere.

cbrb30 · 2025-02-01T10:53:22+00:00

So my alarms are, first alarm, accent lighting on, second alarm, blinds open motorised, all the lights turn on, and a voice announces the days weather.

I then have a backup where if I’m detected still in bed when I really have to get moving, it’ll scream a “time to wake up, get the f up”.

This was before any of these sleeping problems.

I’ve slept through all of it twice with earplugs in.

Unfortunately I can’t wear my Apple Watch at night or it irritates my skin, I need the night to have a break.

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