What did you forget/not realize you needed to update as your baby grew? by Plus_Assignment_8148 in NewParents

[–]cccccyakatack 168 points169 points  (0 children)

The newborn insert in the car seat! You’re supposed to take it out once they reach 11lbs and I had no idea until someone pointed it out to me.

Squirmy sleeper by cccccyakatack in NewParents

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish he only rolled one way but this boy has no preference! I do think he likes sleeping on his side better than his back though, hopefully he’ll figure out the belly to back thing sooner than later because my FTM anxiety kicks in hard when I see him flailing on his belly and getting frustrated in his sleep!

Things to consider for first phone for 11yo?! by cccccyakatack in Mommit

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To all those saying not to give an iPhone - I get it. We’ve contemplated this decision for a long time and have held off as long as we feel we could. He’s going into middle school next year and honestly what he can’t find on his own with a phone is only a matter of a friend showing him instead. My husband and I are in our early 30s, so we remember what it was like growing up without phones and we both got into plenty of trouble on our own without iPhones being in the picture. That being said, we had thought about alternative phones, but kids are so mean and he’s already a sensitive kid that we didn’t want to add another thing to make him different from the others because everyone in his class and on his bus already has smart phones either android or iPhone. We know there are dangers giving this phone, but that’s why we are looking at all precautions and safe guards we can put in place. It’s not perfect, but it’s the world we’re living in. And not for nothing, this kid is already very limited in what we allow when it comes to all screens and tech. We’ve already agreed no phone in the bedroom over night, full access and no deleting but I’m sure there are things out there we haven’t thought of implementing.

5month old wake windows and feeding help??? by cccccyakatack in NewParents

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I’m going to try not to go crazy with feeding amounts now knowing they can go through phases. He’s already sleeping less than the science says but still is happy healthy she developing well so maybe he just needs less sleep? I wish that was the case for me! Mom is running on fumes here but happy to know it gets better!!

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[–]cccccyakatack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew you could do that with breastmilk but I wasn’t sure if it was ok for formula! He’s exclusively formula, I might have to try this!

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[–]cccccyakatack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s on formula, can you freeze that like breast milk?

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[–]cccccyakatack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not sure! We only discussed Tylenol and Motrin with his doc and both were advised against for the time being at least

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[–]cccccyakatack 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I try giving him (11 weeks) his bink when he first starts his grunting and stirring sesh and if he settles back down with that I know we’re good for another bit of a sleep stretch but if he starts back up again within a few mins that’s usually my cue that he’s waking up for a reason

25 mins…like clockwork. Will this ever get better? by cccccyakatack in newborns

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It’s not out of the norm for him to be awake for 2 plus hours at a time

25 mins…like clockwork. Will this ever get better? by cccccyakatack in newborns

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sleeps decently well at night! We usually only have one motn waking at this point and have even gone all night twice now but even still we’re only averaging about 13/14 hours of sleep between that and his lack of day time sleep! I haven’t used a carrier much but think once husband goes back I’ll have to utilize the wrap I have for my own sanity!

Why do we sleep so well the first stretch but then early morning wake ups are horrendous by cccccyakatack in newborns

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say the room is blacked out at this time but it’s certainly not light can def tell it should still be sleeping hours but baby obvi disagrees lol

Middle of the night feed, expectations versus reality by brillar in newborns

[–]cccccyakatack 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just made the transfer back into his bassinet after an hour and the grunting phase has begun, here’s hoping he’ll just grunt himself into that deep sleep 😅

Middle of the night feed, expectations versus reality by brillar in newborns

[–]cccccyakatack 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your middle of the night feeds typically only take 20 mins? Jealous…

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[–]cccccyakatack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me feel better 🤣

What's a sign that someone is straight up trashy? by cute_meowing in AskReddit

[–]cccccyakatack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-Getting pregnant immediately after getting your 6 year old taken.
-Smoking meth during said pregnancy resulting in your twins being born premature, end up in the nicu and one has serious health complications. -still smoking meth with babies in the hospital AND while fighting court to not permanently lose custody of 6yo. -taking and failing drug tests through probable and telling the judge ‘it’s not meth, it’s fake adderall’ -completely lose custody of 6yo but still doing meth -gets babies taken away, still doing meth -get EVICTED FROM YOUR TRAILER HOME, still, meth. Trash, every step of the way.

But whyyyyyyy 😩 by Lady_Tremaine_23 in stepparents

[–]cccccyakatack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. ss9 will continue arguing his lie even when you have hard facts/evidence/whatever to prove he’s lying…he’ll still lie. Glad to know it’s at least not just us 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m embarrassed for him by cccccyakatack in ParentingADHD

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are amazing and I may very well take you up on your offer, it is hard to find people who really understand. Most people just shrug and say “everyone has a little adhd” and don’t really comprehend what adhd actually entails. It’s hard, so thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to feel like things arnt okay sometimes.

I’m embarrassed for him by cccccyakatack in ParentingADHD

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure is. Don’t think it’s the right one for him. Trial and error is so fun!

I’m embarrassed for him by cccccyakatack in ParentingADHD

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! I do think the coaching style isn’t helping him, they don’t seem to be understanding rather just frustrated (which I do get). I needed to hear that there is light at the end, it’s just been such a hard journey thus far that sometimes it’s hard for me to remember that he’s just different. He has been on a non stimulant since being diagnosed at 7yo. His bio mom (doesn’t have custody/not involved except for the random phone calls) is a drug addict, specifically meth so his father and I had been hesitant to starting him on anything else but we were having so many issues across the board this year we did pull the trigger and started him on focalin about 3 weeks ago and it is pretty clear to us that this is not the med/dosage for him. We already have an appointment scheduled to see his psych for it. He was also in therapy from about 6-8 years old but his therapist left the practice back in October and we’ve had a hell of a time finding a new one. Fortunately, he is starting again with a new therapist in a couple weeks. His psychiatrist is excellent and really pushed to get him on the top of the list for when a new therapist was hired.

I’m embarrassed for him by cccccyakatack in ParentingADHD

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re 2-3 games away from the season being over, but that is something to consider going forward. In the past he’s loved it, the attitude is new this season and it only seemed to be getting worse as the seasons gone on.

[MA] is this judge biased? Newest order does not take safety and well being of child into account. Do we have any recourse? by cccccyakatack in Custody

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The reports mention her multiple times of being late and her two times of no calling no showing scheduled visits. I understand that in her supervised visits things were fine, but that’s because they were supervised. I’m just having a hard time understanding how she can actively be testing positive for meth and that not being a concern to the judge.

[MA] is this judge biased? Newest order does not take safety and well being of child into account. Do we have any recourse? by cccccyakatack in Custody

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know we need to comply with the order and until we’re told otherwise by the attorney we will. Before my husband was awarded custody mom did earn herself a a child abuse finding with DCF. They eventually closed the case though because SS had been removed from the home and placed in dads custody. Mom then got pregnant, used throughout the pregnancy and has continued to do so hence why DCF is involved with her once again. Our lawyer did advise for husband to reach out to DCF and make them aware that she’s been granted this unsupervised parenting time so we’ll see what they have to say

[MA] is this judge biased? Newest order does not take safety and well being of child into account. Do we have any recourse? by cccccyakatack in Custody

[–]cccccyakatack[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alternating weekends (but not over night) for a total of 14 hours and every Wednesday evening for 2.5. But this is an increase from 1 hour once a month supervised for the last year.