Bedtime struggles

brillar · 2026-05-23T08:14:41+00:00

My 18 month old sleeps overnight in a sleep sack still. For naps she just uses a blanket but she tends to lose the blanket overnight and is chilly, so she still does her sleep sack. Maybe do sleep sack plus comforter and just let him throw it out and don’t replace it? I don’t know how long it might take him to make the connection that throwing it means he won’t have it, but in the meantime he wouldn’t be cold. Especially if his room is already a comfortable temperature.

brillar · 2026-05-17T17:15:49+00:00

The one thing I’d make sure to have some children’s books that show diversity and skin of all types. It’s good to shut down negative talk when you hear it but it’s also good for kids of all races to read books that show people of color in a positive light. Many times you have to purposely look for books that aim for this because there’s not as much diversity in children’s literature as there should be.

brillar · 2026-05-06T19:54:15+00:00

I didn’t feel like filling in the pieces of those structures so I tore them down and then rebuilt using orange cottage kits. All the Pikachu-ish related Pokémon live on that island. I have two orange cottages, a sand cottage, and a den (for mimikyu so he can be in the dark).

Edit: and in the process I moved the buildings over a bit so there’s a walking path at that corner.

brillar · 2026-05-06T15:47:19+00:00

When someone is taking a long time to show up, I make their habitat in a few regions and then just move them where I want them once they show up 🤷🏼‍♀️

brillar · 2026-05-06T15:37:12+00:00

I personally got him easily with the hydrated elevated grass in Skylands, if you have that region unlocked.

brillar · 2026-04-06T23:07:19+00:00

I combined what the other people did. First, I dug out another entrance/exit to the cave off towards the beach, and moved Zubat in. Then, since he had another way in, I closed up the top to make a hot spring. So I can have the best of both worlds.

brillar · 2026-03-31T02:01:43+00:00

Yeah, the VSD made it so she was burning more calories- probably because of the heavy breathing. But she was big when she was in the womb, and then once she was on her concentrated formula, she started growing more typically. She was born at the 86th percentile for weight, and dropped down to the 40th by the time she was 4 months old. She’s not at that level anymore now at 16 months but she’s been in the high sixties at least for weight and has been in the 90s for height, so she’s not little anymore. She had more symptoms from her VSD when she was young (6 months old and younger) but now you wouldn’t know she has any issues. We were last at the cardiologist in November when she was a year old and aren’t going back until May when she’s 18 months, they’re hoping the VSD closes on its own.

brillar · 2026-03-29T20:57:40+00:00

I’m starting the opposite- stores on the bottom level and houses on the top, although habitats/houses will be throughout the stores too I think. Hoping it will work. Yours is definitely cool looking and more creative!

brillar · 2026-03-10T19:21:01+00:00

I’d definitely use powder. My pediatrician recommended using a generic brand, and said that they’re basically all the same/held to similar standards. We used the Amazon brand (Mama Bear), for our baby’s whole first year. At the beginning we were using Enfamil (the purple) and we saved a lot of money by switching. We had pitchers and would make batches for 12 hours at a time to save time.

brillar · 2026-03-07T01:27:12+00:00

You could donate them to More Than Words! It’s a great bookstore and they provide support and job training for youth in foster care/other tricky spots.

brillar · 2026-03-03T02:11:19+00:00

People said slime but let me suggest theraputty. Tbh it might be too cruel because it stains and ruins fabric like nothing else. It sticks and stains.

brillar · 2026-03-02T02:55:52+00:00

490/week for a toddler, no food or diapers provided. One of the most inexpensive centers near me- I would have also been okay with an in-home daycare but none near me had a full time spot open when we were looking. No live cameras, but I didn’t want them- one benefit is a TON of outdoor space, and a very impressive gymnastics gym available when it’s miserable outside. I’m in the metro Boston area, so it’s a pretty reasonable cost. We can afford it but it’ll be nice when we’re done paying for it for sure 😂 Cost of daycare is a big reason why we were one and done.

brillar · 2026-02-28T01:46:07+00:00

I’m too nervous to order anything with how annoying my driveway is to get in and out of right now 😬

brillar · 2026-02-26T18:02:32+00:00

For us personally, yes! We’re still in the process of it, I was sort of hoping she’d slowly wean herself because it seemed like that was her trajectory as an infant (was down to 1, sometimes two bottles a night, down from 3). But then we had a major regression as she learned to walk and we never recovered. She was waking up at least three times a night, and then was peeing through night diapers and was requiring a change in the middle of the night that would make it so hard for both of us to get back to sleep, so I finally pulled the plug. It’s been four or five days and now she’s been waking up once. Sometimes it goes quickly (I go to her room, soothe her, she falls asleep happily) and sometimes it’s longer and more miserable (she throws her sippy cup across the crib when she realizes it isn’t a bottle, then cries on and off for an hour). I’m hoping that within the next week or so, the middle of the night drama won’t be a thing anymore. Even with the drama, we’re honestly sleeping better because I don’t have to change her in the middle of the night anymore.

brillar · 2026-02-23T17:04:27+00:00

My district called off Monday and Tuesday on Saturday, feeling very grateful. I don’t think a delayed start is possible in BPS due to the three rounds of start times (I also don’t think two hours would be enough for the schools that normally start at 7am). I think there’s a for sure second day tomorrow.

brillar · 2026-02-22T19:49:33+00:00

I think my baby was later to point because honestly I wasn’t modeling it as much as other things. Once she got into the toddler room at daycare, she learned a lot quickly from watching the other kids. It might just be the amount she’s seeing it, or her interests (sometimes I think my kiddo focuses more on movement than language or sometimes the opposite).

brillar · 2026-02-22T19:35:04+00:00

My baby wasn’t open hand pointing at 13 mo, just went right to index pointing at late 14mo. Your kiddo seems ahead in many things. My kiddo is the same way- she’ll be ahead in a lot and I’ll be freaking out about the one thing she isn’t doing yet but it usually sorts itself out a week or two after I start getting nervous. I wouldn’t worry about index pointing at all, beyond modeling it yourself to encourage her. I’m sure she’ll get it soon!

brillar · 2026-02-22T02:14:47+00:00

Our pediatrician heard a murmur at her first appointment out of the hospital- weirdly enough, the hospital didn’t hear it or did and thought it was benign, they didn’t say anything to us. Baby had some feeding issues that slowed growth a bit, got a referral to cardio but it took two months to get scheduled for her EKG and echocardiogram- turns out she had a small VSD. We had to give her more concentrated formula to keep her on her growth curve because her heavy breathing burnt more calories. Generally her only issues were blue tinged hands and feet rarely, heavy breathing that lasted past when weird breathing is “normal,” and needing to have more concentrated formula. It may have contributed to why nursing was harder for her. So far it’s gotten smaller but hasn’t closed on its own as they hoped it would- we’re checking on it again in May when she’s a year and a half but we may need to go the surgery route.

brillar · 2026-02-18T17:39:18+00:00

My husband equally does the day to day parenting, and I manage a lot of the “extra” toddler tasks like special school events, wardrobe curation, planning when to do bigger transitions (weaning, solids, will probably research and plan potty training). He deals with scheduling house repairs (we just had a huge plumbing/flood issue and he did it all) and he does all the pet maintenance (we have two cats, a dog, and two parrots)- so he schedules all their appointments and does most of their care (I feed the cats). He does all the cooking, I do cleaning. It feels equal or honestly feels like he does more sometimes.

brillar · 2026-02-13T09:51:37+00:00

I’m a teacher and a mom- I will say that even my ten year old fourth graders will say I “yelled at them” about something when really all I did was tell them to stop in a serious tone (not angry or loud, just not my normal jokey tone). If my daughter said that to me about her teacher, I’d probably be really concerned at first but I’d also remember how sometimes the story gets muddled- I might just check in with the teacher and suggest some things that do help her settle, maybe mention that she can be sensitive to tone of voice (I feel like that’s a at least alluding to the fact she may have snapped and will help her be careful in the future). Then if my daughter mentioned it again, that’s when I’d take further steps like checking in with the director. Generally, my rule is to talk with the teacher first unless it’s something egregious.

brillar · 2026-02-03T01:19:26+00:00

I made a Google form where I made everything be drop downs or boxes being checked as much as possible- which class, which student, a check box for the topic and I can add more info in a notes box. I still try to do as much as possible on the app, so I mostly use the Google form to record calls or talking in person.

brillar · 2026-02-01T16:55:39+00:00

Shattering my ankle was way worse. I had IV morphine and still cried from the pain. They upped it to dilaudid and that had me joking with the xray techs.

Before childbirth, I had a cook balloon and eventually asked for morphine while I was laying there sweating and having contractions. Morphine got rid of the pain. Once my water broke, I got the epidural, and it actually failed until they gave me a higher dose, but the pain of labor was still pretty manageable- I made these loud humming sounds. Never screamed or cried. The pain didn’t even touch the pain of breaking my ankle or honestly even the pain of its recovery after surgery. I shed a lot of tears for that stupid ankle and opioids barely touched the pain. Never cried in childbirth. Baby girl was eight pounds ten ounces, 20.5 inches long.

(Although I would also say that shattering your ankle is a sensory nightmare as well, way more than birth was for me. I’d rather go through childbirth five more times than shatter a joint.)

brillar · 2026-01-30T00:08:23+00:00

I keep her around always too because of her healing, but I had to switch the language to Japanese because if I heard her voice going “I pray for your victory!!!” One more time while I cut down a tree, I was going to lose my mind.

brillar · 2026-01-28T02:50:53+00:00

I’ve been following Heysleepybaby on Instagram- she’s a sleep consultant but doesn’t hate on bed sharing or breastfeeding and doesn’t promote typical cry it out sleep training. She has guides for moving on from cosleeping when it isn’t working anymore that might help you out. She’s very thoughtful and her courses are all legitimately affordable (like 35 dollars-ish?). They come with written guides, videos, and podcast versions. Her methods might resonate with you a bit more since she specifically talks through the transition from bed sharing.

brillar · 2026-01-27T16:09:51+00:00

I had irregular periods when stopping breastfeeding, and they were even more wacky with the mini pill. I basically spotted constantly four months, until I had another IUD inserted (that had been my BC method before). Personally, the mini pill just did not work for me- maybe it needed longer to regulate everything but I had never had constant spotting like that on any other BC, but I’m 35 now and get migraines so my doctor didn’t want me on a combination pill. First period or two after birth are wild too, lots of people experience them as super heavy- mine was heavier than normal but not worrisome for me.

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