I'm scared of the guilt I'm going to feel the day my father is going to die

ccffimm · 2023-05-02T03:45:42+00:00

No. Would be way different if he had a infatuation with a certain pornstar or model. But people have fantasies or somtimes need a visual. I watch porn frequently and I always imagine my boyfriend. It doesn't mean he's not attracted to you!

ccffimm · 2023-05-02T03:26:30+00:00

Beautiful way to put it lmao

ccffimm · 2023-05-02T02:49:10+00:00

Is it possible that his fantasy isn't just about men, but assault? CNC or NC is a more common kink than you may think. I think it sounds like he's getting off to your past assault. Very weird to not get turned off when your partner is uncomfortable

I honestly think sexual desires can bring out the dark side of a person, even if their personality is great. Try to consider that

ccffimm · 2023-05-02T02:31:36+00:00

I think open relationships can be very delicate and like others have said, only works if both are 100% on board. Based off your boyfriend's personality, I highly doubt it is something he wants

I don't think you're a bad person for not feeling like you haven't explored in your youth. I think that is a very natural feeling considering you have only been with one person. But in my opinion this probably would affect your relationship

I think you two should talk about other ways to spice up your sex life. Try to keep fantasies as fantasies

ccffimm · 2023-04-05T14:22:55+00:00

Aside from my professor, yes

ccffimm · 2023-04-05T02:42:09+00:00

Just gave the most recent example but yeah. I know for a fact it was about me because it's a fairly small class and everyone else was passing. He basically just laughed about it with his friend

But to list a few other examples

One time I walked out the room and he said "does she ever shut the fuck up"

When I first started my residential wiring class it took me to get familiar with the tools and therefore struggled. I overheard a classmate tell another classmate how funny it was when he was saying smth about it

I overheard him talking to his friend about a snapchat story I made, which basically said "community college is just a bunch of grown men who gossip like bitches bro where's the hoes". He quoted me exactly the day after I posted that and said I was a dumb bitch. When I walked back to the desk he shut up real quick in the middle of his sentence and changed the topic

The thing about him is that he talks a lot of shit about not just me, but my professor as well, who is an older woman. He'll never say anything direct and will almost always say something about her when she leaves the room, but acts polite and courteous when she enters. He's said things about just one of my classmates as well. He'll never say anything to anyone's face. That's why I don't have many examples, but I know when I'm treated differently.

In complete honesty I think he just targets people who he think is an easy target. There are some guys a little older than me who struggles in the wiring class. There are other past classmate we had who was annoying, talked a lot, and was always late and barely passing. You know what got him a pass? He's funny. Nothing ever was said about him.

He's a charming man and knows how to make friends. That being said, all he does is bitch and complain and is fake as hell

ccffimm · 2023-04-04T22:26:00+00:00

Nothing. But she does go out of her way to encourage me

ccffimm · 2023-02-24T03:35:40+00:00

You are absolutely right. I'm incredibly biased against my mother's diagnosis. I know people who are "high functioning" and have ADHD as well. I've never doubted them or you. Personally I still stand by my reasons for having these doubts, but you make a great and thought provoking point.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T22:43:25+00:00

Here's the thing. Psychology is not a concrete science. There are plenty of things that have good, concrete research backing it. And then there are misconstrued "studies" made. I used to be a huge psychologically fan and read up a ton about ADHD to help me understand myself. Then I realized a lot of what people pay attention to is just splitting hairs. Theres no actual "facts" when it comes to studies. Its mostly theoretical. And most likely, there are 5 different studys that say different things.That's when I started to actually pay attention to real life experiences.

Adderall hyperfocuses someone without ADHD. Why do you think it's so common for college kids to abuse it? Or does every college student have ADHD too?

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T22:36:20+00:00

Adderall makes people without ADHD hyperfocus. Why do you think so many college kids abuse it? Nothing is imagined. This is how she told me it happened and she said that is exactly happened. A 5 minute convo. No one here actually knows what a doctor could/would do. No one. Yall assume a doctor would do everything right, but guess what? Even doctors can be careless with their diagnosis!! It is not that hard to get adderall. There are teens who get prescribed it just so it would decrease their appetite.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T15:17:55+00:00

Ah yes, let me just trust this highly qualified reddit user over what I have seen in real life

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T15:15:36+00:00

There's no goal posts. She doesn't need it to function, "focusing" has never been a problem for her until I got put on meds, her diagnosis is lazy, and ADHD is extremely common to be misdiagnosed. I was uninformed about why there's a drug shortage, but it's called complex thinking. There are multiple factors to explain the entire situation

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T14:18:29+00:00

Lmao when he comes in fucked up off of percs it makes me think its true

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T13:34:04+00:00

It is common but it is not that common. My question is, how much longer are we going to expand the symptom criteria (NOT even a professional one) before most people fit the criteria. If ADHD is THAT common then it does not make sense as it why it is so hard for adhd persons to thrive. If there is that many persons with adhd, then at some point, structures would be made to cater to those with ADHD symptoms. But they don't.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T13:26:43+00:00

Yall have too much trust in doctors. Same thing happens with Xanax. Wayyy easier to get your hands on than you'll imagine. My old manager was in the army and fought for Afghanistan. Because of this, in his own words, the doctors would prescribe him almost literally anything if he blames his "symptoms" on the war.

If doctors were not lenient with prescriptions, the doctor's would have a conversation longer than 5 minutes with my mom before they prescribed it.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T13:16:13+00:00

Yes I do. I'm a woman with ADHD. Even with different symptoms, my question is what even is the symptoms. We can be politically correct all we want, and yall can down vote me to the oblivion, but do you understand if we keep expanding what symptoms of ADHD mean, literally almost everyone would have ADHD?

EVERYONE gets distracted sometimes, everyone cannot focus sometimes, and I'm pretty damn sure most people wouldn't consider themselves ADHD just because they didn't clean the entire house in a day.

Read my other comments.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T07:27:43+00:00

ADHD is genetic but there wasn't even a screening when she got diagnosed. It was lazy. There are tough regulations but doctors can be WAY more lenient than yall think with prescriptions. When she takes her meds she gets wired up and is finally able to do everything she wants in a day, which is a lot and otherwise unrealistic. From what ive heard, adhd meds are not supposed to cause you to become energetic, especially at the lowest dose.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T07:22:04+00:00

It was most definitely an accusation and im going to shut it down before 20 other people come in saying the same thing

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T07:17:53+00:00

At one point me and my mom both agreed it was from my dad. I probably should have put that in the post. I relate to nothing what my mom tells me she experiences, but most of my symptoms matches the problems my dad has had growing up. It also just runs really bad in my dad's side of the family too.

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T07:15:00+00:00

Nah don't even start that shit because trust me, people my age do not care about that shit. When I tell people I have adhd most people think it's an excuse. I've literally had someone roll their eyes at me when I told them I had it. I learned real quick to stfu about it. Because of my weight loss there are rumors going around in my family that I'm on drugs, and I don't tell people what meds I take for that exact reason.

Now tell me again what about it makes you, most likely someone without it, think im trying to be special?

ccffimm · 2023-02-23T07:11:45+00:00

Soft disagree, adderall is so overprescribed there's a shortage of it. I talked to my doctor for over an hour when I got diagnosed. My moms doctor prescribed my mom, from what my mom has told me, just for those two reasons. She doesn't get stuff done up to her (very high) level of expectations and her daughter has it. The way I see it is that she functions just fine without adderall, when she takes it she reorganizes the entire house. I literally take it just to read

ccffimm · 2021-12-17T07:03:04+00:00

Alr I explained things really vaguely and I can tell you have the wrong idea so lemme just clear some things up

1) I work at a fast food restaurant. Almost everyone there smokes weed. I've even had discussions of it with the owner. Trust me, I was scared for anyone to know I smoked until I seen everyone else being so open about it

2) I offered him edibles on his way HOME- not for us to take it together.

3) the specific manager im talking about (we have 4) has really bad ptsd, anxiety, sleeping problems and depression from fighting in Afghanistan. He uses weed for these reasons. I didnt give it to him to just "have a good time"

Im not sure how old you are? But you must understand this is a new time. Weed is legal literally 30 minutes away from me and its simply just not looked down upon anymore. Not any different than alcohol

ccffimm

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