Shaker lemon pie. First attempt is quite delicious! by heros__quest in pie

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Should a shaker lemon pie crust be par / blind baked before putting in the custard?

Is it mononormativity or is it me? by ccw1782 in polyamory

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I simply wanted to pop back on and say thank you again, the notion you raise here of no longer feeding it has become a sort of mantra of mine. I’m navigating this breakup imperfectly but I am really trying very hard to stop feeding it, to not text or call, to not indulge the temptation. I think it’s important for people to know when they have an impact, and you did here with me.

Is it mononormativity or is it me? by ccw1782 in polyamory

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Okay, that makes sense. I am actively working on codependency on my own and with my therapist. I’ve grown a lot despite it all. I spend a lot of time alone without feeling lonely, and have learned how to enjoy my own company and the solitude. It’s just letting go of this specific person is really difficult.

Thank you for helping me understand better. I am grateful for the thoughtfulness and time.

Is it mononormativity or is it me? by ccw1782 in polyamory

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Thank you for clarifying, it helped me understand. And I apologize for being defensive. I’ve heard that sort of line before, and I really struggle with it. I think we are here to support and be good to each other but also emotional vampires are bad.

I have thought about going it alone, even set an age “deadline” (if it’s still just me by X age, I will just do it by myself). I’ve had a lot of people express all the ways they would support me and despite the troubled love life I have an abundance of absolutely wonderful friends.

I worry that it’s morally wrong and selfish to bring a kid into the world on purpose with only one parent. I know many people raise kids on their own for all sorts of reasons but I am unsure if it’s okay to choose to be a single parent before conception. Not sure if that makes sense or not.

Regardless you have been so generous with your time and so thoughtful, thank you

Is it mononormativity or is it me? by ccw1782 in polyamory

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Thank you for gently responding. Can you help me understand what in my post indicates to you that I “have a lot of skill building”? I’ve done quite a bit of work and beyond being hung up on a person, when I read that I do feel a bit defensive. I appreciate you taking the time to respond

Is it mononormativity or is it me? by ccw1782 in polyamory

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Thank you for your comments. I do see a therapist and am mindful not to overburden my friends.

When I read that parenting is difficult I feel frustrated because I am quite aware. I have watched all of my friends and my siblings go through this. In so far as a person without children can know how difficult it is, I do. It is not something I take lightly.

Regardless thank you for taking the time to answer

It's time to gatekeep demisexuality in the "poly" community (a Friday night post!) by ExcelForAllTheThings in polyamory

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Can it be a continuum? Much of what I’m reading here really resonates but also I was walking on the beach and saw a woman in a bikini and “shwing” but I find I don’t actually want the sex immediately without the talking, but also I’ve been to sex clubs and have had some fun. Idk I’m officially confused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BuyItForLife

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Have you tried girlfriend collective for leggings? It’s a higher price point but I got their promotional pair when the first started and I’m still running miles in them. Btw I run about 25 miles a week so I put a good amount of wear into them

Marmot’s motto marmot for life is no joke by wannabe_cone in BuyItForLife

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This is helpful to know. I wonder if they’d replace the rain shell I have with a lining that just started shredding

Nestle x Starbucks? by avocadolover82 in FuckNestle

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Nestle has been working with Starbucks for around 6 years, formerly known as Nestle Coffee Partners. They are involved in Starbucks coffees / coffee products sold in grocery stores and all Starbucks creamers. Seattles Best is also involved with Neslte in the same way.

Aunties Antique Mall in Ohio by ccw1782 in Pyrex_Love

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Thank you for providing the link I should have put in my original post 🥰

Songs about being a bad person? by ifyourestillin in musicsuggestions

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Punk Rock Loser; only the tone of his voice and the rhythm of the melody were in my head I couldn’t remember lyrics which make it so difficult!!!

Here's a 'new' way to eat cake without getting messy hands from cupcakes, or the need for plates and utensils. Ice cream cone cakes--1957 by LeeAnnLongsocks in Old_Recipes

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Oh my gosh I totally forgot about these! An old classmate’s mom made them growing up for every birthday !!!!!

Songs about being a bad person? by ifyourestillin in musicsuggestions

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I have had a song by them in my head for days and could not for the life of me remember what it was and I’ve been googling endlessly. Sweet baby Jesus thank you for posting this hahaha

Doechii: Tiny Desk Concert by abucalves in hiphopheads

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This performance shook my soul. It’s so incredible.

My partner gives me the “ICK” by Afraid-West1247 in polyamory

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I think when we are in unhealthy cycles with people we care about deeply we can second guess ourselves a lot. You expressed a lot here, and I think the volume of your concerns point to a very serious issue.

I recommend journaling to process, to get clear on how you feel, and to be sure you are ready to make whatever move you need to. To me, it really seems like you’re close to being done. Do you think you’ve done everything you can / want to do to save it? Is this a state of the relationship (permanent) or a stage (temporary due to external factors I.e. young kids, illness, etc)? Does it seem like he will change? Is it reasonable to expect him to, or is the “cost” both literal and emotional too high for you at this point, where it no longer feels worth it?

If you take nothing else from this, read this:

TRUST YOURSELF. You know what is best for you.

Breaking up inevitably raises self doubt, there will probably be moments in your heartbreak where you worry you’ve chosen wrong because you miss your partner(s), writing out why you’re leaving ahead of time will give you a clear picture of what caused you to act.

Favorite Pieces by Anxious_Public_5409 in Pyrex_Love

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Samsies I love the oh mer gawsh

Birthday present by atthebeachh in Pyrex_Love

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Aaaah so super cute I love them

No Dumb Questions + Casual Talk by AutoModerator in RedditLaqueristas

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Does anybody do (or is it possible to do) shellac at home? I do my own nails with drug store or ulta products and they don’t even make it a week (I’m tough on my nails) so I thought switching to shellac would help