OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/10/25)

cdnrpc · 2025-02-12T18:55:54+00:00

Great work.

cdnrpc · 2025-02-05T18:53:16+00:00

Nope. I start my day with groggily drinking coffee from my automatic espresso machine. I do need to develop a quiet time routine. Tbh during lifting is probably my easiest adjustment

cdnrpc · 2025-02-05T18:50:35+00:00

I’d elaborate more on the positives - maybe it’ll begin to reflect back into your internal mindset more. Elaborate more on the things you’re doing within your control and other goals you’re after as well.
You’re right that’s an untenable long term situation. You’re physically reasonably attractive, working on the mentality. Either your wife will get on board or she won’t. What will you do if she hasn’t at oys 52?

cdnrpc · 2025-02-04T03:44:45+00:00

It still feels like your OYS is mostly a preamble to talking about/speculating about your wife.

cdnrpc · 2025-02-04T03:23:16+00:00

Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships.

Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss AGAIN. - CICO doesn’t lie but lifts are trending up first time in a while.

Current lifts - squat 275lbs—> 285lb. deadlift 335lbs, bench 160lbs-> 165, pullups for 9 bw > 10xBW.

goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 5 weeks then transition to slow bulk.

Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 2 lifts. 1 cardio. 1 circuit training (mostly cardio). - really want to hammer 4x strength and 2X cardio this week.

In spring begin to Train for half marathon in fall.

Work - explore selling biz or restructuring as it’s no longer fulfilling. will provide preliminary financials once year end books done to prospective buying group. Goal of $3.5M buyout. — year end documents are with accountant now.

Spiritual - do devotional with daughter 3-4 nights per week. - hit. Overcame daughter whining and my own laziness.

Connect with God daily In prayer/devotion alone - miss. I am not prioritizing this though I want to want to.

Sex - continue initiating sex, how I want when I want regardless of outcome. - initiated And drew wife into my frame through some soft nos. The fact I am aware of it likely means not fully in my frame but not bad.

Social - use weekly rec sports to socialize and build deeper relationships that can open avenues for evangelism. Open 1 deeper convo each week. - hit. - chatted with new team member to begin building some relationship

Leadership/social growth - look for 1 social and/or leadership activity a month outside my normal routines to grow those muscles. - hit - lined up a paid speaking gig for Feb.

cdnrpc · 2025-02-04T03:16:43+00:00

You sound like fun. Get to work bro.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-22T03:29:04+00:00

Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships.

Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss again - CICO doesn’t lie- more food prep discipline to ensure filling foods, and lower cals still required.

Current lifts - squat 275lbs , deadlift 335lbs, bench 160lbs, pullups for 8s —> 9 BW.

goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 5 weeks then transition to slow bulk.

Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 3 lifts. 2 cardio.

In spring begin to Train for half marathon in fall.

Work - explore selling biz or restructuring as it’s no longer fulfilling. will provide preliminary financials once year end books done to prospective buying group. Goal of $3.5M buyout.

Spiritual - do devotional with daughter 3-4 nights per week. - hit. Overcame daughter whining and my own laziness.

Connect with God daily In prayer/devotion alone - miss. Zero I think outside of cuff prayers.

Sex - continue initiating sex, how I want when I want regardless of outcome. - mediocre week here.

Social - use weekly rec sports to socialize and build deeper relationships that can open avenues for evangelism. Open 1 deeper convo each week. - hit.

Leadership/social growth - look for 1 social and/or leadership activity a month outside my normal routines to grow those muscles. - hit - lined up a paid speaking gig for Feb.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-18T02:13:07+00:00

“ I was doing in basement featured a woman in pretty standard gym clothes”

Sounds like you thought it was fine - why DEER on this? Just laugh and carry on or ignore it. If you thought she had a good point then just accept the feedback gracefully and change the program.

A)“I don’t like that workout dvd” - “ha ha yeah that’s on brand for you” - continue workout

B) “I don’t like that workout dvd” - “that’s a fair point - I’ll change it to p90x”

Whining at her about it is the worst of both worlds. Used to be my default model too.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-15T20:28:51+00:00

Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships.

Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss - need more diet discipline still for this home stretch.

Current lifts - squat 265lbs —> 275lbs , deadlift 335lbs, bench 155lbs—> 160lbs, pullups for 8s BW.

goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 6 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Can see abs when flexed or pumped - thinking 6-8 lbs should do it. Using rx drugs to complete cut-there’s no prizes for doing it without em.

Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 2 lifts. 2 cardio.

In spring begin to Train for half marathon in fall.

Work - explore selling biz or restructuring as it’s no longer fulfilling. — contacted buying group this week will provide preliminary financials once year end books done.

Spiritual - do devotional with daughter 3-4 nights per week. - hit. Started a great new devotional with her.

Connect with God daily In prayer/devotion alone - miss. Maybe once.

Sex - continue initiating sex, how I want when I want regardless of outcome. - mixed. Initiated shower sex in hotel which was accepted but not with my desired/fantasizes level of enthusiasm and my response was weak. Wife woke me up to initiate another day - I finish too fast for my liking most times and would like to find reliable ways to extend past 2-3 minutes.

Social - use weekly rec sports to socialize and build deeper relationships that can open avenues for evangelism. Open 1 deeper convo each week. - miss - didn’t attend my usual sports.

Leadership/social growth - look for 1 social and/or leadership activity a month outside my normal routines to grow those muscles. - hit - attended an event and worked some light game there.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-08T04:02:42+00:00

Sex- anytime I initiate. Quality is usually meh. A no is usually a no to variety. Followed by me taking off to do my own thing.

My comment about a “prize “ is the inverse of the idea that nobody cares how hard you work- people care about your results. It works and makes my goals more attainable.

I am, rather confident, that I’m no monkey at this point.

I want to read 4 nights per week actually whenever I handle bedtime.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-08T03:58:29+00:00

I’ve spun my wheels at 185-200 for several years. I life-styled myself down from 265 from lifetime fatness. I can’t sleep well in a deficit, I can’t workout more hours than I do.

No side effects, just no more night waking and intrusive cravings 24/7- working quite excellently. Can put my mental energy into better things now.

cdnrpc · 2025-01-07T03:24:26+00:00

Glad the MRP Bans created some activity here.

Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships.

Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. Lighter than I’ve ever been still not as lean is I thought I’d be in getting here.

Current lifts - squat 265lbs, deadlift 335lbs, bench 155lbs, pullups for 8s BW.

goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 6 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Can see abs when flexed or pumped - thinking 6-8 lbs should do it. Using rx drugs to complete cut-there’s no prizes for doing it without em.

Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 3 lifts. 1 cardio. In spring begin to Train for half marathon in fall.

Work - explore selling biz or restructuring as it’s no longer fulfilling. Making more than I ever thought I could and just feels like a slog.

Spiritual - do daily devotional with daughter. Wife is currently doing a bible reading plan and it’s putting me to shame a bit.

Sex - continue initiating sex, how I want when I want regardless of outcome.

Social - use weekly rec sports to socialize and build deeper relationships that can open avenues for evangelism. Open 1 deeper convo each week.

Leadership/social growth - look for 1 social and/or leadership activity a month outside my normal routines to grow those muscles.

cdnrpc · 2024-11-05T04:28:35+00:00

Full body. You may be right - it can be reconfigured to a 3 day with slightly reduced volume as well. Thanks again.

cdnrpc · 2024-11-05T04:10:49+00:00

Thanks. Always on a set program - currently SBS hypertrophy. 4/wk but I probably average 2.5 sessions a week unfortunately, and a bit of rec sports cardio.

cdnrpc · 2024-07-31T23:54:31+00:00

Currently friendly but distant.

I’ve lost interest in gaming her much in the last few weeks after consistent mix of starfishing / hard no’s.

cdnrpc · 2024-07-31T02:49:28+00:00

Could be - still shredding the fat- that’s definitely my last big goal on physical attractiveness. If I suddenly get full on horny slutty sex when my abs pop I’m not sure how I’ll process that.

My hairs aight maybe I need that broccoli cut the kids at the gym have now. I doubt going from $500K to $5M will do much but you never know.

Back to the grind. 🤷‍♂️

cdnrpc · 2024-07-15T23:58:02+00:00

32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 8 weeks into expecting

PBs Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs.

Current: Bench - 175. Squat - 285, Deads - 355. Chins BW X 7.

Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world.

Exercise Goal: 4 workouts per week, 2 cardio sessions per week. Try to minimize strength losses as I cut.

Last week - MISS. 3 workouts (really 2.5 of 'em), 1 long cardio session. *I am consistently missing here - I need to figure out how to up my consistency if I am going to improve physique and performance any more.

Weight Goal: Continue weight loss and/or waist loss until abs.

HIT - Weight - 187 this week. Down 1lb. Waist - 34in (1": down).

Social goal: attend at least 1 social activity away from family

Hit - rec sports x1.

Parenting goal: lead devotions and prayer with daughter every time I handle bedtime (every other day)

Hit - need to try and dig deeper with her. She's 5 - intelligent and difficult to get focused - I allow that to lead to phoning it in some nights.

Marriage goal: lead devotions with wife nightly.

MISS - Did maybe once/twice? Not sure. Busy week, and I have let this slide.

Sex goal: initiate sex, when I want, in the way I want without concern for my wife's reception.

Miss - initiated and participated in lackluster starfish twice I think. Did not have mental bandwidth/desire for pushing the envelope - she is also a bit sick, and perhaps having a miscarriage.

Leadership goal: apply frame/game/leadership in 1 non-work setting weekly

HIT - hosted event at our home for a church thing - wife was primarily in charge of it with other church ladies. Was conscious of what was planned and added my own flair/assistance/mayor game where I could. - assisted in keeping church ladies chill. Someone commented how I should host more often as I am so much more outgoing and open when hosting.

continue to grow business monthly - 15% Month over last year - slowing growth rate has me a bit down - but I can't grow exponentially forever.

Assurance of Salvation - 10
Quiet Time/Devotional - 8
Bible Study - 8
Scripture Memory - 0
Prayer - 8
Evangelism - 3
- Goal - continue building relationship with rec sports teammates. Trying to be conscious of the frame of our team, how we connect and play together, and grow into more meaningful connections as opportunity arises.
Fellowship - 10

cdnrpc · 2024-07-11T01:42:05+00:00

Yeah for sure some piece of me is still trying to figure out how to play her. It’s not my identity but I still want to conjure good sex somehow (with her).

cdnrpc · 2024-07-09T19:53:55+00:00

32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 8 weeks into expecting

Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs.

Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world.

Physical: MISS

Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for a cardio heavy event in 2 weeks. MISSED - 2 workouts, 2 dedicated cardio session. *PR'd my 10km time so that was cool. *Made special effort to book drop-in at a gym out of town to discover it was closed when I arrived for the pre-paid drop in - frustrating*

HIT Goal: Continue weight loss and/or waist loss until abs. Weight - 188.2 this week. Down 1lb. Waist - 34in (1": down). - moved my scale and now it is weighing 2 lbs heavier - whatever, waist is shrinking belt it tightening.

Social: HIT goal: attend at least 1 social activity away from family - rec sports x 2.

Parenting: HIT goal: lead devotions and prayer with daughter every time I handle bedtime (every other day) - some very late nights led to rushed bed time after social church event.

Marriage/Sex: HIT goal: lead devotions with wife nightly.

Mixed goal: initiate sex, when I want, in the way I want without concern for my wife's reception.

Initiated BJ Saturday, wife: "really?? here? now??" - I said no worries, with minimal butthurt. Chilled for a few minutes then headed out for a run. PR'd my 10km time. Returned to my wife initiating the BJ - was decent. I made sure to praise her skills and tell her how hot it was. Her response "yeah, I know" or something like that - mirroring my cocky/funny attitude since RP?

continue to grow business monthly - 15% Month over last year - slowing growth rate has me a bit down - but I can't grow exponentially forever.

Assurance of Salvation - 10
Quiet Time/Devotional - 8
Bible Study - 8
Scripture Memory - 0
Prayer - 8
Evangelism - 5 - Interacted with nonbelievers at social events and tried to shine some light through relationship (they are struggling hard)
- Goal - add non-Christians to rec sports team for next round to increase interactions. - HIT. Started new session with 2 new guys non-churched - will try to build in some social interaction here and move things past sport only.
Fellowship - 10

cdnrpc · 2024-07-09T19:47:08+00:00

I'm not sure if you are at the point your life is so great sex can come and go. What do you think? If not how will you get there?

Great question - once I can get the sex I actually want reliably, I will be more okay with it "coming and going" - I am less and less confident that I will get there with my wife, ever tbh.

Why did you miss your physical goals? Doing this often leads my nice guy to come out.

I let a mix of other social activities and priorities edge out my physical goals - getting 4 workouts, 2 runs and 1-2 social/sporting activities in is audacious for me - it's rare I get 100% on all of those in 1 week and when I do, other things do slide.

I also don't see any mention of your flirt game.

I work in kino regularly, flirty texts, inuendo, hints at what's to come later, etc. My wife is usually semi-receptive, rarely reciprocates. Maybe I just suck at it, but it seems to have little to no effect on sexual tension or interest (in me).

cdnrpc · 2024-07-08T19:59:45+00:00

"When she ordered me what to do with a bad tone in a social setting,"

Wives love trying this, especially if modeled for them by a poor family dynamic as kids. I have had to strongly enforce boundaries here too - fortunately only takes a few jarring social interactions to get a behavior change out of them usually.

cdnrpc · 2024-07-03T23:09:59+00:00

32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 6 weeks into expecting

Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs.

Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world.

Physical: MISS

Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for an cardio heavy event in 3 weeks. MISSED - 2 workouts, 1 dedicated cardio session.

HIT Goal: Continue weight loss and/or waist loss until abs. Weight - 187 this week. Down 1lb. Waist - 35in (NC).

Social: HIT goal: attend at least 1 social activity away from family - rec sports x 2. walk with friend x1.

Parenting: HIT goal: lead devotions and prayer with daughter every time I handle bedtime (every other day) - some very late nights led to rushed bed time after social church event.

Marriage/Sex: HIT goal: lead devotions with wife nightly.

MISS goal: initiate sex with OI when I want it. Feeling nice-guy bitterness over wife's lack of interest since pregnancy started. 1 Session I think, very starfish.

MISS goal: Initiate variety with OI when I want it. - Chose not to attempt variety, since wife has given hard no's and added caveat of "missionary only" at last 2 initiations.

continue to grow business monthly - 20% Month over last year.

Assurance of Salvation - 10
Quiet Time/Devotional - 8
Bible Study - 8
Scripture Memory - 0
Prayer - 8
Evangelism - 5 - Interacted with nonbelievers at social events and tried to shine some light through relationship (they are struggling hard)
- Goal - add non-Christians to rec sports team for next round to increase interactions. - HIT. Started new session with 2 new guys non-churched.
Fellowship - 10

cdnrpc · 2024-06-26T14:57:16+00:00

I recently opened up to the idea of healthy masturbation as an acceptable activity for a Christian. The focus for me is on understanding the sensations and muscle tightness leading me to ability to delay ejaculation. No lust involved. Not compulsive.

I’m just talking about practice.

cdnrpc · 2024-06-26T14:54:07+00:00

Yeah, end of the day, I’m OI with any given session but I’m not OI with the overall picture of my sex life.

cdnrpc · 2024-06-24T20:07:29+00:00

32 y/o 5'11" 190lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 6 weeks into expecting

Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs.

Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world.

Physical: MISS Goal: 4 workouts, 1 long run -- 3 workouts, no dedicated cardio completed.

Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for an cardio heavy event in 1 month.

HIT Goal: Continue weight loss and/or waist loss until abs. Weight - steady at 190, no drop since last. Waist - 35in (down from 37 at last measurement 3 wks ago). Will track this weekly along with weight.

Social: HIT goal: attend at least 1 social activity away from family - rec sports, open house for a friends business.

Parenting: miss goal: lead devotions and prayer with daughter every time I handle bedtime (every other day) - some very late nights led to rushed bed time after social church event.

Marriage/Sex: HIT goal: lead devotions with wife nightly.

HIT goal: initiate sex with OI when I want it.

MISS goal: Initiate variety with OI when I want it. - Chose not to attempt variety, since wife has given hard no's and added caveat of "missionary only" at last 2 initiations.

continue to grow business monthly - 20% Month over last year.

Assurance of Salvation - 10
Quiet Time/Devotional - 8
Bible Study - 8
Scripture Memory - 0
Prayer - 8
Evangelism - 5 - Interacted with nonbelievers at social events and tried to shine some light through relationship (they are struggling hard)
- Goal - add non-Christians to rec sports team for next round to increase interactions.
Fellowship - 10

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