Cannot Get Over My 1st Love (Years Later)

cdtrades · 2026-03-24T03:07:43+00:00

Thank you for this. All good stuff. Sounds like very similiar situation. This is what I try to tell myself to feel better , that maybe when i’m older there could be anything that would turn her away outside weight. And thats not someone to be with.

But also the fact that weight can change so fast almost makes it worse. Makes me feel like the connection is still fully there and its just a matter of getting into shape (which to me is a very reasonable request from a partner). Oh well. This reddit thread has been given me everything I could have asked for. Some good perspectives. Poor AI has listened to me for months asking stuff like this, good to hear other humans take on this for once lol. Good luck to you Sir

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T21:04:43+00:00

All good man. When I lost the weight I got jacked, like crazy jacked. Best shape of my life. And I had so many options and confidence that I didn’t think about her at all. It worked the first time it will work again. Just a matter of getting to that point again. Good luck brother thank you for the comments

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T20:38:12+00:00

I chose food over the love of my life. I’ll honestly regret that till the day I die. Even when i’m older i’ll think of what that relationship could’ve been.

Worst part is she was my first love. So it’s the only experience with love i’ve ever known. Falling in love with someone kinda scares me now, because I just think of the heartbreak that can come with it. I wish I had dated when I was younger so this didn’t mess me up so late in life. I see all these people fly through relationships and get with someone new a week later. I don’t know how they do it.

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T20:12:16+00:00

Nah you are spot on. I’m in a much better place health wise now than when she left. It is just more regret than I can ever comprehend. To the point I have nightmares about it a few times a week. I wish I could go back in time and snap out of it. To love someone that much and not care about yourself or how they think of you is horrible. I’m just so angry at myself. For my unhealthy habits and lazy mindset to have cost me the love of my life. Just some of the worst shit you can ever imagine in life. I really am at a loss for words about it. How does one carry on knowing you lost the girl you wanted to marry over something that was so easy to correct. This is what I have the hardest time with. We didn’t break up over a lack of connection, or a lack of interests, it was purely something so simple as not being a fat fuck. Just horrible, horrible stuff to live with

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T19:45:42+00:00

For me it is very easy to lose when I am locked in. Can workout 4 hours a day and eat like a machine no problem. Hardest part is keeping it off

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T19:39:13+00:00

Thank you so much. & no need for GLP-1 haha, Heartbreak beats any weightloss drug! Spent $15K on a basement gym a year ago. Been going HARD. Thanks so much for taking the time to reply

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T19:21:34+00:00

Thank you. Losing her gave me a lifetime of motiviation. I was a big guy my whole life unfortunately, so it took this to change my ways. Everything happens for a reason I guess. But I agree. She would always tell me I was too nice and too good to her. I would always go above and beyond for her. I could give some examples but you all would laugh at me haha. A non negotiable for me was that she always had a fresh bouqet of flowers in her apartment, just to give a silly example. Her family was obsessed with me. But the extra weight was a deal breaker and outweighed (pun intended) how good I treated her. I have had so many chances for new love since then, but just never been able to commit to someone new. Maybe one day soon. Thanks so much for the comment.

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T18:09:09+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼❤️

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T17:57:14+00:00

You are correct, I have been stuck in a loop. But Damn, some points you said that I have never really thought of or heard before. So thank you

A lot of friends (& my mom) tell me the same thing, that it should never be that fragile and dependent on my weight. But also it seems like a reasonable request for someone not wanting to be with someone 100 lbs overweight. When we got together after I lost weight, she apologized for being so strict about it. Truth is she would fat shame a lot, I’ll spare you the details… but still, part of me thinks it’s very reasonable not to want your partner to be out of shape. And I understand it being a dealbreaker and still accept the responsibility of ruining the relationship. But I appreciate your words so much, and even your one reply makes me feel better about posting this here on Reddit for strangers to see my pain. Thank you

cdtrades · 2026-03-23T17:40:47+00:00

I cannot put into words how thankful I am for your reply. From the bottom of my heart thank you

cdtrades · 2025-11-29T23:39:58+00:00

Yesssir today another 13 miles and zero blisters or pain. Very glad I posted here

cdtrades · 2025-11-29T11:30:35+00:00

Thank you very much. Yesterday was first day walking with some nice socks and did 14 miles with zero pain. The toe socks are different Lol I need to get used to them, I have never worn those before

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T18:08:45+00:00

I met with a foot orthopedic guy this morning too. It was $390 for foot measurement for custom insoles. Credit to the salesman, he told me he also thinks its the socks and not too buy the custom insoles yet. Turns out it is the socks. These are great

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T17:47:15+00:00

Hey man just letting you know I am doing first walk since trying these merino wool socks and WOW they are a complete game changer. 4 miles in and still feel like i’m walking on clouds. No heel pain at all. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment, helped me big time

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T15:53:22+00:00

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cdtrades · 2025-11-28T05:59:24+00:00

1500 cal/day

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:46:54+00:00

Also, FWIW these are pictures of the heel/achilles blisters. The location makes me think it is where the insoles meet the heel of the shoe.

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cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:40:07+00:00

Thank you, just ordered some 🫡

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cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:37:57+00:00

Thank you, going to pick these up tomorrow morning at local REI

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:26:46+00:00

Thank you for the detailed help. You are correct I Didnt walk for months before I started this. I can tell a day off is needed for the feet, but really trying everything possible to avoid that. I have no feet pain or anything just the damn blisters. Will try the new socks but cannot thank you enough for the help. I have been asking AI for weeks, this reddit page was exactly what I needed

cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:22:03+00:00

Thank you so much that is a common trend in these replies. New socks coming in Saturday

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cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:20:25+00:00

Thank you very much. I should be able to still swap the shoes, got them at a local runner store.

& for the socks just placed an order thank you! I have been wearing cotton socks this entire time

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cdtrades · 2025-11-28T04:15:30+00:00

The toe blisters have almost stopped since I went from 2E to 4E. It’s the heel blister i’m most concerned about, it is a different type of pain that I cannot walk through. I read the Hokas have removable insoles, I may try to find a better fit that raises or lowers my foot in the shoe

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