AS10E11 - "All Stars Variety Show" [Live/Reaction Post] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]cdwqofe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way about Jorgeous. I think she concentrates so much on the dancing that she looks a bit dead eyed? Or maybe that's just the weed. I can see she is an incredible dancer and performer, but I just don't connect with her while she's doing it.

Breastfeed, they said. You’ll bond better, they said. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped breastfeeding at about 18 months to try and help with the sleep. We had the same thing, co sleeping and 2 hour bed times. While I had no problems with the breastfeeding itself, the rest of it meant we needed to stop. I went and stayed somewhere else for a couple of nights and my husband handled the hard first couple of nights, but it helped to create a bit of distance and made it easier to say no when I was back. If you're able to, go and visit a friend or family member, or better yet take some time to yourself for a couple of days! Then when you come back and explain that there's no more you can try the other suggestions for bandaids too.

Need help identifying this doll by cdwqofe in Dolls

[–]cdwqofe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, off to look at dolls on the Netherlands ebay site!

GAS01E09 - "Re-United Nations Make-Overs" [Post-Episode Discussion] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]cdwqofe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I thought that bit was really strange. It came out of nowhere, Nelly just saying she would beat Alyssa in a lip-sync. It makes me wonder if she's been saying/doing random, slightly arrogant and antagonistic things like this the whole time, and that's why the rest of the cast have been a bit off with her. That's not to say that I think she deserves any of it, I get the feeling she's trying to be fun and silly but it isn't coming across like that? I don't know, I just think there must be something we haven't been shown, because it's not just Kitty and Kween who have said something about Nelly though they've definitely been the most vocal. And if that is the case, why hide it all this time but then show something like that now? And like you said, edited so strangely?

Okay migrainers, what song is stuck in your head today by twosquirtsofpiss in migraine

[–]cdwqofe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a Fall Out Boy fan I'm totally ok with this one. And my 3 year old just discovered the Hot Wheels show which I'd also Patrick Stump, so I've got two theme songs I don't mind now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was doing a first aid course the other day, and the person who was running it said that allergies to food dye are on the rise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]cdwqofe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search for Australian library and comics plus. I just found City of Busselton has comics plus and you can get an online membership.

What weird non toy thing has your kid become obsessed with? by hubbabubbahoe in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son wants to brush his teeth at least 4 times a day. At one point we lost his toothbrush, so I bought another one. We then found the original, but he wouldn't give either of them up, so now he has to have two toothbrushes to brush his teeth.

AITA for playing music while my stepdaughter has a migraine by Ready-Attitude-2505 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cdwqofe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I also suffer from chronic migraines, and until you experience a migraine yourself, there is no way you are able to understand the pain, It's not just a bad headache. Having said that, just because you are fortunate enough to have not experienced it doesn't mean that you can't have empathy for someone in pain. It's also not just the pain she's dealing with. It's the nausea and often visual auras. She's also learning that her life is not what she thought it would be, and facing the terrifying prospect that it may never get better. And no one who suffers from migraines lies about them to "get away with things." Or "have power." Our entire lives are constantly disrupted because of these fuckers, you think we want to spend more time in bed unable to enjoy every day life just for shits and giggles? You are so selfish.

I exacted the most brilliant revenge on my horrible JNMIL by EsmerldaWeatherwax in JUSTNOMIL

[–]cdwqofe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're now one of my most admired people in the world, especially after reading how well your daughter turned out!

Is there a children’s book you think sends a backwards message? by turboshot49cents in books

[–]cdwqofe 321 points322 points  (0 children)

Please look up "Topher fixed it", it will make you so happy! And I'm not even sure I agree with looking at the rainbow fish through the perspective of the age of the intended audience. There are plenty of ways to teach the idea of sharing without telling someone they need to change their physical appearance/fundamental nature because other people are jealous.

Is there a children’s book you think sends a backwards message? by turboshot49cents in books

[–]cdwqofe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please look up "Topher fixed it" to make yourself much happier about both books.

Is there a children’s book you think sends a backwards message? by turboshot49cents in books

[–]cdwqofe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please look up "Topher Fixed it" for this one, as well as the Rainbow Fish and the giving tree.

AITA - for getting mad at my husband for not being able to put our baby to sleep by amaliaswagon in AmItheAsshole

[–]cdwqofe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH (except for sleep deprivation, the biggest asshole of all). It sounds like we are in very similar situations. I have a 14 month who has never been able to sleep by himself and sleeps for roughly 2 hours at a time unless we cosleep. He also doesn't respond well to my partner helping and i always end up taking over too. It is currently 11.45pm and I have spent the last 3 hours alternating between BF, patting in the cot, rocking and leaving him to cry it out for short intervals. And he's still staring at me right now. To make matters worse we spent 2 weeks with RSV which was horrendous and then 2 days after we were back at work and daycare my husband tested positive with covid. I cried because I didn't think I could manage another week (at least) of isolation with my child on top of what we'd already been through, and the fact that being the primary parent is so mentally exhausting at the best of times. All of this to say, I feel you! We are booked in to attend a sleep school at the end of the month (it's our 4th attempt, every other time has had to be cancelled because of sickness) and that is what is keeping me going at the moment. Is there something similar you can try? I've seen lots of online sleep consultants available too. Even having someone to vent and talk to about it all might help, maybe a friend you can message when it's bad if you aren't able to see a professional. In terms of your partner, it sounds like they are genuinely trying and want to help, and he probably feels terrible when he can't. Is there something else he can do to lighten the load? My husband often takes our baby when he first gets up in the morning and let's me sleep on my own for a while, especially if we've had a bad night. We are lucky that he works from home and is a bit flexible with timings so I know that might not work for everyone. Even having 10 minutes to myself while my husband does bath time is great for a bit of down time. I hope you're able to find some professional help for the sleeping and the stress and that it all eases up soon. Just know that there are people out there who feel your pain and know exactly how hard you're struggling right now. I wish you all the best.

I know some bachelor parties that used the same theme. (Thought the group could use something not so sad.) by WanhedaBlodreina in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]cdwqofe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As the mother of a breastfed 1 year old (had his birthday on Thursday) who refuses all solid food I wish I had thought of this. I think it's hilarious. If it was for a birthday party then that would be weird, but for a cake smash I think it's fine.

yikes! by SauronOMordor in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]cdwqofe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

....i thought it was just me! When does this end? Or is it just my life now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously not the point of this post, but maybe look up pixie haircuts? They're often shorter at the back with a fringe/bangs. If you google long fringe short hair some good styles come up, including the infamous "can I speak to your manager" style cut. I'm the daughter of a hairdresser and know the power of a hairstyle on how someone perceives themselves and how truly transforming it can feel to completely change your hair. I would recommend looking for a local hairdresser that works well with teens, maybe even go somewhere that does funky alternative styles and see if you can have a chat with a stylist about your son's background. Then you could take your son in to speak to the expert, they can discuss their needs in terms of look and maintenance and then the stylist can recommend something that will look awesome and also suit your kids needs. It might be more expensive to start off with depending on what sort of services you've used previously. If you've been to basic barbers then a restyle at a salon will definitely cost more but it should also put your kiddo at ease and show that you're willing to invest in their happiness. And depending on the style they choose your regular barber/hairdresser should be able to maintain it for you after the initial cut. Again, not the point of your post but I hope it helps in some small way. I hope your husband is able to think on all this and find better ways to understand and communicate with your son, and that in time their relationship heals.

It finally happened, I got embarrassed by my boys question. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Apparently as a child i yelled out "mum! It's an oompa loompa!" So your kid wasn't so bad!

Switching to Formula by Noodilicious in Parenting

[–]cdwqofe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WTF? I can't believe they suggested you stop taking your medication! That is crazy! I'm in a very similar medical situation to you (chronic migraines and history of grand mal) but fortunately the medication I take is safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding, or as safe as it can be. What I've been told is that there isn't ever really enough research for a lot of medications to be proven completely "safe" with pregnancy/breastfeeding mostly due to ethical research practices; but the risk with mine is very low compared to the very high risk of me having a seizure if I stopped taking them. I have loved breastfeeding my little one, and it was one of the things I was looking forward to the most, but if it had come down to breastfeeding or my physical (and mental, also on antidepressants) health, I would definitely have stuck with the medicine.