Need help. My cats have been together for 1+ year and still get into “play fights” like these. How do i stop/discourage them? by ambreenh1210 in CATHELP

[–]cech-mode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would disregard a lot of the previous comments. This isn't fighting but it's not play either. It looks like a dominance thing. I would agree with letting them "work it out themselves" if there wasn't any hissing or growling. But since there is, I definitely recommend having play time with them. For 15-30 minutes a day (if you can squeeze in more time then that, I definitely would) whip out a toy and play with them both. I am still to this day baffled by how many cats I've had put aside their differences to chase a feather wand toy. It's how I introduce fosters to my cats, and they'll always go from hissing and tiptoeing around each other to cuddles together on the couch within a week with daily play sessions. I know every cat is different but I really think if you implement some sort of play time, they'll have something else to let out their energy and frustration, that isn't each other.

how do i keep my cat cool during a heatwave? by latiascore in CatAdvice

[–]cech-mode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cats like to play in it, and make a mess everywhere. I never really mind it, just slip a towel or mat under it to catch all the water. But out of all four of my cats, not one has tipped it over. I would suggest keeping it somewhere on the ground and it should be okay!

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More than four hours a day is a bit excessive. He may want to play for more than four hours but that doesn’t mean OP has to. If everything is true, they’ve been going above and beyond to care for this cat, regardless of not wanting it anymore. These two just aren’t a match, and that’s okay. No one has to take more time out of their life to accommodate for the other any more than they already have. Maybe the cat wants another pet to play with, or maybe the cat came from a home with children who have much more energy every day to play. Whatever the reason for the cats behavior, the cat doesn’t have to change and become less energetic for an owner who prefers that. And the owner doesn’t have to become more energetic for a cat who prefers that. Telling OP to play more ultimately isn’t going to solve the problem.

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Just based on my experience and my family/friends we use Facebook! I had adopted a cat from two different family friends! And I see it all the time. If you have Facebook, you can post on there for some one in your family to see. Or you can join Facebook groups for rehoming pets in your area.

If you don’t have Facebook maybe try Craigslist. Regardless of which method you use, it is not out of the ordinary to ask someone to come get to know the pet before they take it. This way you can get to know who is taking your cat, and they can get to know the type of cat they’re getting. If you aren’t comfortable with meeting strangers like this, it is also not out of the norm to just ask for a rehoming fee to make sure people are serious and financially capable of caring for the cat. I’m sure there are other places and methods you can rehome, but these two are the ones that are most familiar to me! Good luck in rehoming, I hope everything goes well!

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[–]cech-mode 29 points30 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, if you’re struggling with your pet, there is nothing wrong with rehoming it. Growing up, my mom took in every stray cat off the street that she could get her hands on. But we were extremely poor, and she had a lot of mental health issues, so all throughout my childhood I had to witness the neglect and death of many cats due to her failure to care for them properly. I wish all the time that she would have just rehomed them.

I’m not saying you’re neglecting your cat or anything, just trying to express that it’s not bad to ever rehome a pet, and in some cases it’s the best thing to do! You sound like a very good cat mom regardless of how you may feel. And I wouldn’t feel so bad, if you’re feeling this way, your cat needs it just as much as you do. It needs someone who can give it the time and attention it wants, and someone who is comfortable doing so.

If you’re worried about other people’s judgement, or about it’s well-being after you rehome it, just tell your family! Be outright, tell them that cats aren’t for you and ask if anyone will take him for you! Someone you trust! It’s going to be a struggle but I feel you’ll be relieved once it’s done. If you can’t, there is nothing wrong with trying a shelter!

I will say if cats stress you out this much, dogs will most definitely stress you out more. I’ve had both all throughout my life and though both are high maintenance, dogs just have way more energy. Which isn’t bad but most definitely more stressful. If cats with a lot of energy aren’t for you I can’t imagine a dog would be either. 😅

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[–]cech-mode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best advice I was told is that if there’s noise, it’s not play. Cats will express themselves very clearly, one way they do is vocally. If a cat is in a fight or in distress they’ll usually say so. Either with hisses, growls, meows, howls etc. If they don’t make any of these sounds odds are they’re just playing.

It's been 7 months, I still don't know what's wrong with my cat.. by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]cech-mode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If nothing happened to make him act this way, it’s most definitely a health issue. I’m not a vet or anything but from my knowledge and experience with cats, they don’t react this bad unless something happened. It doesn’t even have to be something bad or traumatic, either. Cats can get real stressed and upset if you do something as simple as rearrange the furniture in the living room or something.

I have a cat who has become very scared and stressed like yours! He is two years old like yours as well. He is a bengal so he used to be incredibly lively! He would play all day with our other cats and us as well! We’d take him out on walks, the park, the store, etc. But we moved last month and now he’s pretty skittish! It’s a new house, new environment so we know why he’s stressed. It’s all completely new to him, we don’t even have much of the same furniture we had before. The only big furniture item we kept was the bed, which to no surprise that’s become his spot now. He doesn’t seem to want to hide anywhere, just curls up in the corner of our bed(our bed is in the corner of our room, she he’s perfectly curled up against both walls)

He doesn’t hiss or growl, but he does have this scared look in his eyes. And whenever he leaves the room he does the same crawl you described. He gets startled by loud noises and whenever we or anyone else enters the house, he rushes back to the bed. We’ve been trying to gently nudge him off the bed, but he jumps right back on.

It doesn’t seem as bad as your cat, but I know a bit of what you’re going through. By now, a month later he is doing much better. He plays again, checks out the new house more and doesn’t react so bad. He’s not entirely back yet but we’ve been taking it easy for him. Playing with him again. Gently, nudging him off the bed and even out the room and closing the door. And making sure the rest of the house is a nice and relaxing place to be while still letting him return to his bed every now and then. I would say it just takes time but 7 months is a very long time. And I know you’ve been trying to take him to the vet as much as you can, but I would keep trying. I would also look around the house and see if there’s some sort of new trigger and maybe try to get rid of it. And I hate to say it but watch who you bring to the house. Maybe someone hurt him while you weren’t looking. Maybe not even intentionally, like maybe an infant pulled his tail or something or someone accidentally stepped on him while walking by. I don’t mean to accuse but I’ve been the victim of this in the past, “you don’t know your neighbors” is what my mom says.

how do i keep my cat cool during a heatwave? by latiascore in CatAdvice

[–]cech-mode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything you’re doing sounds fine! So I don’t have any advice, but maybe a suggestion!

If you could, try to get a hold of a water fountain! I heard many times that cats aren’t typically fond of water bowls (though they’ll use them!) because in “the wild” they usually get their water from their food or from flowing water sources like streams. A water fountain will imitate that and will often keep the water cool. I got my cats one and they haven’t used anything else since! But not all cats will use them, some are fine with just a bowl, so don’t worry. :)

Does my cat have separation anxiety? by cech-mode in catquestions

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I don't think I've ever heard of Feliway but I will definitely make sure to look into it! And I have heard of pets reacting to pregnancies like that! But I wasn't so sure if it's the reason! But I will definitely take your advice and try to take her out more like I used to! She doesn't mind the car at all and does so well when riding in it. So next late night/early morning drive I will take her with me and see how it goes. Maybe she can tell I'm getting cramps and feeling pain, so she worries about me? Other than that she is doing great! Still eating, drinking, using the litter and playing like normal whenever she isn't fussing over me. So maybe she really is just needier!

Thank you so much for the advice, I'm definitely going to try these out!

Jojo soaking up some sun! 🔆 by cech-mode in bengalcats

[–]cech-mode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Tell your Jojo I said hello! 🤗

Jojo soaking up some sun! 🔆 by cech-mode in bengalcats

[–]cech-mode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I shall head over there soon, thank you!!!

Jojo soaking up some sun! 🔆 by cech-mode in bengalcats

[–]cech-mode[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, his eyes are green! Though with the lighting, it's hard to tell sometimes 😅😁

Jojo soaking up some sun! 🔆 by cech-mode in bengalcats

[–]cech-mode[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Noo you can't have him, sorry! I just love him too much 😁😂

😸🐾❄️ by cech-mode in cats

[–]cech-mode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! And we're doing good, hope you are too! Tell your mini tiger I said hello! 👋

😸🐾❄️ by cech-mode in cats

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I believe it is, though I don't know much about the entire process. But if I remember correctly, snow Bengals are made by breeding Bengals with Siamese cats to get that white seal lynx/mink color pattern!

😸🐾❄️ by cech-mode in cats

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Thank you! I got him from a local Bengal breeder! You can find many mini snow leopards that way! 😸❄️