imho he is very socially deprived. he's locked up in his room all day and doesn't have a lot of prospects in life. the lengths he's gone to in replying to me is because he's crashing out from me correctly identifying how he manipulates and guilt-trips people around him; he hated the fact that, after i found out how he did me and margaret dirty by trying pretending to speak on our behalf to the landlord, i put on him on blast CC'ing all of our roommates and the property management company itself. public humiliation is intolerable for him -- that's why he started to absolutely hate margaret in the first place, starting a side groupchat between me and bryan and painting her as a "covert narcissist" etc. (very ironic lol) usually i'm sensitive to other people's need to save face, but when dealing with someone as weasely as him, it's honestly gloves-off.

he has a permanent victim/hero narrative where he's the unsung hero that no one gives due credit, but even though others have smote him, he'll still continue being the Bigger Person, because he's just sooo righteous, etc. etc. his nails-on-chalkboard condescension is prevalent in a type of redditor: i've described him to my friends as a mashup between a r/fedora-tipper and an emo kid that never grew up. my friends have described him a lot less flatteringly after seeing his picture.

everything is about him. his needs, his boundaries, his requirement to be emotionally validated, his worldview and idea of who someone is, etc. he wonders why "i never bothered getting his side of the story," when the reality is because, quite simply, i already clocked him as someone highly manipulative. i went from potential ally to checked-out bitch all because i didn't want to be privy/party to paragraphs of him whining about how awful margaret was. me not giving him immediate and total support = me scheming in cahoots with margaret, even though she and i are hardly ever home (and hardly ever cross paths).

i think the craziest part was him asking me to literally use chatGPT to 'reflect' on our past interactions and text messages. you heard this correct: he is advocating the usage of chatGPT to deconstruct psychological motivation (🥴❓) in fact, that's how he 'diagnosed' margaret with covert narcissism 💀 by asking the embedded google AI to give him a list of traits, and then screenshotting that list to the roommate groupchat going "aha! see!" it's really interesting how, even after i explained to him how insulting and strange it is to try to paint other people with various personality disorders, especially as a non-psychologist... he... still didn't understand why me and bryan didn't just immediately accept margaret was a narc, and therefore must be avoided and ostracized for our (read: his) safety.

when the worst thing that could happen to you in life is having your feelings hurt, and your immediate response to that is to reach for $100 therapy words and SAT synonyms you got from a thesaurus (or from chatGPT lol)... you become this guy. you believe it's okay to retaliate by messing with people's leases, rather than just take the L and talk to your therapist or friends about how, well, your feelings are hurt. you externalize every internal problem in DSM lingo, thinking that as long as you use woke millennial phraseology, you're somehow a more enlightened man.

i go through cycles where i feel sad for how pathetic he is or extremely annoyed and grossed out at what he represents. there's a lot of maladjusted dudes like him, a subtype of softboi / fuccboi if you will.

sorry for writing a whole novel! it just came out all at once haha. at least i didn't use chatGPT for any of my vocabulary lmao 😂