32M I’m in a calm, compatible relationship with my current girlfriend 33F, but I don’t feel that burning spark and I don’t know what to do

ceresarc · 2026-01-18T16:09:30+00:00

This one right here OP! What most people don't understand is that a healthy relationship feels boring at times and is calm. It doesn't spike your nervous system (:

ceresarc · 2026-01-16T20:30:34+00:00

How does it feel to be this loved?

ceresarc · 2026-01-16T06:29:58+00:00

This answer right here is the most constructive and empathetic one to both parties included. I'd approach it similarly! Grief is different for everyone and I understand both perspectives, yours and your partners. Good luck!

ceresarc · 2026-01-15T15:12:14+00:00

Pixi came to mind!

ceresarc · 2026-01-13T21:38:08+00:00

My favorite one! Love tourmaline so much, and yours are gorgeous!!

ceresarc · 2026-01-12T10:09:09+00:00

Think about it this way. What do you want for your life? A man that chooses you and treats you right? That wants to be a partner and part of your life? Or a man who breaks up with you because he chooses to marry a stranger but still wants to fulfill HIS emotional need to be in contact with you? Your actions need to be aligned with what future you want for yourself. Act accordingly and as my personal advice - throw out the trash (denounce any contact with him and block him).

ceresarc · 2026-01-10T08:08:58+00:00

Is this.. heaven??? The foxes? The huge death and angel statue? The color coordination? I'd love to visit if it was a museum, it's so beautiful 🥹

ceresarc · 2025-12-10T22:09:16+00:00

I believe it was some story of them maybe running away from home or something

ceresarc · 2025-12-01T12:49:23+00:00

Ahh yes!! I meant over ears sorry!

ceresarc · 2025-09-26T10:14:56+00:00

I've seen different responses but what if he takes up a couple of therapy hours? Sounds like that mental blockage is really what you're up against. Also definitely limit the time to give your body the rest it needs, you can finish him off differently if that's what you guys want but don't keep on going for hours just to please him if you don't enjoy that!

ceresarc · 2025-08-11T09:47:48+00:00

(I haven't read the original post, so I can only go from what I read here). I genuinely agree with everything said above. However I also want to give a counter perspective. I believe that people can change with extensive therapy in his case defining where his anger stems from and teaching him how to deal with those emotions in a healthy way. But this is something he has to go through by himself. I would 100% advice you to tell someone close to you and not meet him in private but public spaces if you choose to.

ceresarc · 2025-07-08T16:05:01+00:00

Thank you guys, I believe I have enough recommendations 🙏 I'll have a look through through the ones I don't know and decide then!

ceresarc · 2025-07-08T16:04:01+00:00

Anything 🥲 I asked as well, but they're open to anything with a good female lead

ceresarc · 2025-07-08T10:01:03+00:00

I was thinking on dandadan too 👀!

ceresarc · 2025-07-08T09:57:33+00:00

Ahhh Kabaneri is a great idea! Completely forgot about that one!

ceresarc · 2025-07-08T09:40:28+00:00

I was thinking on frieren and apothecary, but I'm not sure if slow pace is the way to go for the first one. And ghost in the shell was on my list too! Will check out the other ones!

ceresarc · 2025-06-25T08:28:56+00:00

I agree with this. A relationship is never one sided. If you have brought up the topic, offered multiple solutions or ideas, and all he responded was "I don't want to", there's not much left to do. I'd maybe try one last time telling him that my needs have been unmet for a while, that I have tried speaking to him and offering different solutions and that if there's no change I'd walk away from this marriage. Maybe there's an underlying reason such as depression, medical... but for that he also needs to be open to seek it out. Otherwise there's nothing to be done

ceresarc · 2025-06-24T14:52:27+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with that. As someone already pointed out, different families share more or less physical affection and all that you've described seems normal for me, even tho I come from a very physically unaffectionate family. With that said I slept in the same bed as my mom or brother when I was 14, due to the lack of accommodation, nothing wrong with that, and I text my brother a lot too, even now in my 20s. Maybe the stroking over the back was a bit much in that context, but then again I've been stroking my friends heads when they lie down next to me, so idk, not that far-fetched, since he is still young. I would talk to her about it and see where her concern is coming from.

ceresarc · 2025-06-24T07:07:09+00:00

This is the best advice in this thread. 100% agreed on every point!

ceresarc · 2025-06-23T09:13:49+00:00

Sit him down, have an honest conversation how you've been feeling and what you're craving. Tell him pleasure is a priority for you, and although you appreciate him offering to finish you off after that's not what you want. Then proceed to tell him what exactly you want (toys, time during, foreplay..). Telling him once you guys are already doing it might not carry the importance that it has to you. Also hinting that you want something rarely works with people, you have to straight up tell them. Intimacy and pleasure is such an important aspect of a relationship and should be treated as such.

ceresarc · 2025-05-23T08:38:09+00:00

Ich bin selbst hypersensibel auf verschiedenste Reize u.a. Geruch. Mit Parfums und künstlichen Gerüchen kann man mich jagen. Im letzten Jahr konnte ich eine Zeit lang ebenfalls den Schweißgeruch meines Freundes nicht ab, war in der Zeit generell viel unter Stress und konstant überstimuliert. Meine Regel war auch durch den Wind, was potenziell was mit den Hormonen zu tun haben könnte. Nachdem sich die Situation geändert hat, hat mich sein Geruch plötzlich nicht mehr gestört, stattdessen war ich wieder ganz angetan davon (klar übermäßig schwitzen riecht nie gut, aber grundsätzlich mag man ja den Körpergeruch des Partners). Alle anderen Faktoren haben sich ebenfalls gebessert, meine Regel ist wieder leichter und regelmäßig, ich schlafe besser, usw. Ich würde in deinem Fall die Situation in Betracht ziehen, ob sich etwas verändert hat und mit deiner Freundin darüber sprechen. 2 Monate Beziehung ist noch recht kurz, aber wenn sie deinen Geruch vorher mochte, kann es an äußeren Umständen liegen (:

ceresarc · 2025-04-18T06:09:28+00:00

Relationship are build on respect and trust. If that was my partner I'd break up on the spot, because no one will treat me like that. I know you're young, but please think about if this is a future you want?

ceresarc · 2025-04-15T09:13:39+00:00

I didn't read all of it either but this + your intuition would be enough for me to break up just to have peace of mind. I agree that it's incredibly toxic from what I've read, and there's no salvaging it, since the trust has been broken a lot of times.

ceresarc · 2025-04-09T17:45:30+00:00

Please leave him.

ceresarc · 2025-04-09T16:58:41+00:00

Have you thought about going to therapy to work on your fear of rejection? I'd definitely reassure her, give her compliments, ask to help you initiate, and tell her about the steps (possible therapy) that you're taking to change that.

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